When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on

[Grisha]

Well my relationship failed after 14 months. No problems really. Just life got difficult for the both of us. We are 26 and tried taking life on together. I worked hard and paid 80% of the bills and would get exhausted coming home to someone who was constantly depressed about her job and where she was at in life. This led to me eventually not giving her enough emotional support and almost neglecting her at times. That’s because I wasn’t sure what the right thing to do was anymore. I loved her with everything I had, but going by the book I shouldn’t have to put myself through this if I wasn’t happy. I felt like I was doing so much for her but wasn’t getting much appreciation. I deserved better. She knew it too. She’s even say it.
I stayed because I didn’t know how to leave. She eventually told me she wasn’t sure if we were meant to be together and that led to me telling her we shouldn’t if she feels that way.

So we broke up. She continued to call me daily for about a month until I realized I couldn’t be her friend because I wasn’t moving on. Told her that unless she wanted to be with me to not call me anymore. It’s been a month since we’ve last spoke. I miss her incredibly. I’m able to see where everything went wrong. I’m able to see that she’s not mentally capable to be in a committed relationship. As beautiful as she is when she is happy she struggles with having a sense of purpose and meaning to life. I never told her that but I see it clearly.

Somehow I still want her back in hopes that shell find a career she somewhat likes and is able to be happier.. but idk if that would ever happen and I don’t plan to ever reach out.

 

[preraph]

Just let her go develop herself.  She sounds pretty unsettled and really it's better to be alone when you want to find a path for yourself and learn who you are and when necessity drives you to it, without the distraction of a relationship.  She needs to get her life on track.  You can't change her.  Date other people.  

[andytuotuo]

Man that is rough. 

If you know what you want in life, that's already a huge step ahead of a lot people; including me lol. 

If it is mean to be, everything will work out.

[ExpatInItaly]

Is this the same woman from your previous threads, Grisha?