smackie9 Posted March 11, 2020 Posted March 11, 2020 When I lost my dad there would have been no way I would be interested in dating someone. I had a lot to process, and well family matters with the will, things went side ways. It put a real strain on my relationship with my husband too, so I would say no. So sorry for your loss. I think dating wouldn't be a healthy part to your grieving. I suggest you embrace family and friends and spend quality time doing things for yourself. 2
Author Backinthesaddleagain Posted March 11, 2020 Author Posted March 11, 2020 28 minutes ago, smackie9 said: When I lost my dad there would have been no way I would be interested in dating someone. I had a lot to process, and well family matters with the will, things went side ways. It put a real strain on my relationship with my husband too, so I would say no. So sorry for your loss. I think dating wouldn't be a healthy part to your grieving. I suggest you embrace family and friends and spend quality time doing things for yourself. Thanks smackie. I've had time to grieve over the last 5 months, Xmas was the hardest as it was his favorite holiday. Fortunately for me, there is no will to fight over as my mom is still alive and has control over their finances. My brother and I both have solid careers, and we would never fight over money like that. I just have to keep an eye on her to make sure she makes smart financial decisions, doesn't fall for scams, and has enough money to last the rest of her life. On a side note, everytime I see your username, I think of the comedian Mitch Hedberg's bit on Smokey the Bear and Smackie the Frog.... makes me smile everytime!
carhill Posted March 11, 2020 Posted March 11, 2020 Keep things light and social. No attachment. Date others too.
simpycurious Posted March 11, 2020 Posted March 11, 2020 On 3/10/2020 at 1:31 PM, Backinthesaddleagain said: A parent I am also sorry for your loss Back. Losing someone you love and care about is painful experience. You have to remember that loving someone is a blessing and that will always have memories which will always keep them near and alive in your heart. I am pulling for you Back. You will make it a day at a time. 1
Author Backinthesaddleagain Posted March 11, 2020 Author Posted March 11, 2020 19 minutes ago, simpycurious said: I am also sorry for your loss Back. Losing someone you love and care about is painful experience. You have to remember that loving someone is a blessing and that will always have memories which will always keep them near and alive in your heart. I am pulling for you Back. You will make it a day at a time. I am in my 40's and have experienced plenty of hard times in life. I will get through it like everything else. Thanks for your caring comments, it's nice to hear you guys say these things.
Hopeful30 Posted March 12, 2020 Posted March 12, 2020 On 3/10/2020 at 2:26 PM, Backinthesaddleagain said: Would you guys date someone that lost a loved one recently? Why or why not? Thanks A person who is grieving is not emotionally prepared to enter a relationship. Their energy must be directed inwards. 1
Author Backinthesaddleagain Posted March 12, 2020 Author Posted March 12, 2020 I liked the response about the self-test and how long it takes me to talk about it with someone new. I never thought about it at all, and don't go around telling the world about my loss (with the exception of the internet haha). However, I did talk about it with a girl after the subject of parents came up in casual conversation. She was definitely put off after I told her my dad had passed a couple months prior. It took me about 2 months before I started trying to date again after his death. I felt I was ready when I would no longer burst into tears at the thought of it, and he was the type of man to tell me to suck it up, put on a dress, and get on with my life haha. He was a hard man, but very fair. I will never forget him. Thanks to all for your insight and responses.
simpycurious Posted March 12, 2020 Posted March 12, 2020 2 hours ago, Backinthesaddleagain said: I liked the response about the self-test and how long it takes me to talk about it with someone new. I never thought about it at all, and don't go around telling the world about my loss (with the exception of the internet haha). However, I did talk about it with a girl after the subject of parents came up in casual conversation. She was definitely put off after I told her my dad had passed a couple months prior. It took me about 2 months before I started trying to date again after his death. I felt I was ready when I would no longer burst into tears at the thought of it, and he was the type of man to tell me to suck it up, put on a dress, and get on with my life haha. He was a hard man, but very fair. I will never forget him. Thanks to all for your insight and responses. Time will help. I do think getting back in your normal routine can help. I don't see why you cannot date because it can keep your mind off of your loss and help you have some fun. It hurts because THEY meant something very special to you. It's suppose to hurt when you loss someone you care deeply for. What would that special person (that you lost) want you to do. I will bet they would want you to LIVE and enjoy every second of every minute that you have.
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