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so i have a guy best friend and i'm getting mixed feelings if he likes me, whenever he hurts me example: if he accidentally hits my head, he would pet my head. Today he asked me for a head massage and back massage i only gave him a back massage cause i feel really "shy" if i massage his head and he kinda friendzoned me so basically he said he's in a relationship but i'm not sure ;-; and we hang out sometimes like we have a sleepover (with seperated rooms ofc) and we swam together with our friends and we went to the arcade together with our friends.

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Do you like him? Are you open to a romantic relationship?

You are already sending him signals like touching and sharing personal space.

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when we hung out i didnt like him i only see him as a best guy friend well, i used to like him and im open to a romantic relationship with him even though i dont like him.

 

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2 hours ago, Fluidins said:

when we hung out i didnt like him i only see him as a best guy friend well, i used to like him and im open to a romantic relationship with him even though i dont like him.

 

You caught me flat-footed with that one. Are you saying you would date him as long he doesn't' get too mushy or try to whisper endearments into ear?

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Why would you be open to a romantic relationship with him if you don't like him?  

It sounds like it doesn't matter what you want.  You said he's in a relationship with somebody else.  If that is true, you need to be maintaining your distance not trying to bring him closer.  

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er i dont think he's in a relationship though cause i think hes the one getting close to me

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3 hours ago, Fluidins said:

er i dont think he's in a relationship though cause i think hes the one getting close to me

If he is your best friend why don't you know if he's in a relationship or not?  People seem to call others their best friends without knowing much of anything about them.

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He said he's in  a relationship, but he dosent act like he's one. it's his girlfriend's birthday yesterday and i dont see him making a instagram story ab her.

also his "girlfriend" is from another school so i doubt they're together

 

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He told you that he is in a relationship.  You clearly know who she is & that she is a real person because you are aware that yesterday was her birthday.  His failure to make a public thing on social media about her does not negate the existence of their relationship. 

The fact that he's flirting with you may make him a bad BF to her.  Even if he did like you, why would you want to date such a disrespectful guy? 

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Whatever your heart and mind tells you, go for it. Friendship is still the strongest foundation of love. 

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Well I'm not sure what you want here, but being a girl and having a best guy friend I can honestly say that men and women can be just friends. I have a guy friend (Nick) that i know all the way back from 6th grade and even now, we are both in college and are good friends. Now it wasn't all smooth sailing because we used to cuddle naked all the time but that was as far as it ever went. I'm actually glad that we did that because it really showed that we are good friends but physically and sexually he was not my type. My friendship with Nickwas also based on mutual respect and understanding. When I had social anxiety he was there for me, when he had depression and family problems I was there for him. We both opened up and really understood each other as companions.

I feel that as long as feelings on both sides are reciprocated, men and women can be great friends just like any other person 🙂.

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On 3/11/2020 at 8:58 AM, Fluidins said:

er i dont think he's in a relationship though cause i think hes the one getting close to me

But you said he friend zoned you.

You're not making a great deal of sense.

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On 3/13/2020 at 2:46 AM, AngieH said:

We used to cuddle naked all the time

Friends don't cuddle naked Angie, so you were clearly more than friends.

You're also keeping him a secret from your current boyfriend.

You don't do that with friends.

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