tms510 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Hello everyone, I need some advice and I would really appreciate any advice that can be given. Here's the scenario. I've was with my ex (not married) for close 9 years, and we've lived together for 7 years. A few years ago we had a child together and he's almost two years old now. About 3 months ago we had a really really nasty fight and she moved out and we broke up. We also broke up about 4 years ago and we were apart for 8 months and we gave it another shot. She works I stay home taking care of him while I find employment. I'm a good father and I love my son and her with all of my heart. But for years I've neglected her and I was pretty selfish, I lost focus on what was important, so I can't really blame her for feeling the way she feels. Every time I attempt to talk to her about where the relationship is going to go she doesn't want to talk about it. She has put up a wall, a natural defense. One time she says we can possibly work on repairing our relationship and another time she says it "probably" always be like this (separated). I'm guessing she is confused. Over the last few months that we've been separated, things have gotten a little better between us slowly but surely. We're able to hang out for a while and talk, we take our son to the park and let him play. A few nights ago her and I went out to a bar and had some drinks with some friends. I feel that she still loves me and cares about me, although she isn't in love with me. Which I think that can be repaired if she decides to. We are completely compatible and we have chemistry, but it was a lack on my part which destroyed our relationship for a second time. But the uncertainty and not knowing is killing me, and I think it could bring down the strongest of men. So I was thinking about writing her a letter letting her know how I feel and ask if she would like to repair and work on our relationship or if she knows that she doesn't want to work on it for sure, to let me know so I can have closure and move on with my life. But I don't know if I should ask for closure or just go with the flow and see if things get better. I feel that if I ask for closure it might come off wrong and just piss her off. So one part of me wants to ask what is going on with her feelings towards us and another part wants to just let it go and go with the flow since things seem to be getting just a little bit better. Thanks in advance
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