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He asked me do I love him but he did not said anything about his feelings. Why ?

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Wea are seeing for a year. The guy who told me a month ago "If I don't love you ... like you, I wouldn't tolerate this behavior."
We saw each other last night. He asked me if I love him, I said" yes, I think I am in love with yyou", he asked me if I think that  I am in love or I am in love. I said I dont know. He asked me more than once, he insisted on answering, he asked me if I love him and I said yes. But he did not reciprocate. He didn't say he either love me or don't love me. Why ?

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20 minutes ago, fkasjf said:

He asked me more than once, he insisted on answering, he asked me if I love him and I said yes. But he did not reciprocate. He didn't say he either love me or don't love me. Why ?

He probably didn't say anything because he had to basically force it out of you. I guess he couldn't let go of you using the words you "think you love him" after a year of dating 

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It could be a number of reasons.  The most logical one I can think of is that he doesn't love you and is deciding if it's fair to continue with you.  I'm sure the others will also come up with suggestions.

The best way to find out is to ask him how he feels about you and the relationship. 

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I find his questioning a little manipulative, frankly. He wanted you to put all of your cards onto the table while holding his close to his chest. No reason for him to do that. If he cared so much for you, he should have simply opened up and said so. No need to cajole a response from another person regarding whether you are or think you are in love. If he were mature, he would have made HIS feelings unambiguous.

 

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Because a man is not supposed to say I love you. He is to show through his actions that he loves you. You will get bored with him if he says it because there would be nothing more for you to chase. This is a love dance, love is fun and playful.

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One month ago he accidentally said that he loves me. I didn't say anything. Two weeks ago he said that in the end he will fall in love with me. I didn't say anything. Before all that he once said that he loves me while he was drunk, 6months ago. And after that he said during love making. I didn't say anything. 

Lately he asked me every time when we see each other do I love him and I said no. Once during live making he asked me do I love him and I said yes and he said that I am lying to him, and that I only love live making with him.

Last night he asked me several times do I love him and I said yes, I think. I do.

But he didn't say anything about his feelings. And I didn't ask him to not be desperate.

 

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In your other thead you said you are 'seeing' each other, what does it mean? Are you fwb or officially dating?

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Fwb. But he asked he before when we will be in serious relationship.

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ILY during sex don't mean anythig. I think he told the truth when he said 'he will' fall in love with you....which means he is not currently in love with you and if he's not right now after 1 year of fwb he will never be. He told you 'he will fall for you' to keep you around for now. He insisted you tell him only to confirm your feelings had changed from fwb to more. From now on, everything you invest in this man is of your own risk. 

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Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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He is playing with your emotions. I would be guarded if I were you.

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Well, I think it's hilarious that when you said you did, he said you just loved the sex -- because that's exactly him projecting what he's said onto you.  Neither of you love the other.  You are just having sex, sounds like.  Men are always saying lovey things in bed.  It means zippo.  It means they love sex, and that's it.  Don't take any of this seriously, and if this isn't some quality guy you think you'd like to have a real relationship with, then why even do it?  You obviously want more, so you're barking up the wrong tree. 

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Are you wanting a serious relationship with him?

 

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This sounds like mind games. He sounds manipulative like he is trying to gain control or power over you in some way, and I think a part of you enjoys that he is chasing you around telling you he loves you.


I don't think this FWB is worth it to be honest. If you don't love him and want a FWB to continue I think you need to check in with each other and address the fact that he keeps telling you I love you and although you said it one time (during sex) you did not actually feel that way. I think he did ask you that during sex to manipulate you because you are at your most vulnerable and feeling different things in your body during sex.  I don't know what his feelings are, but if you feel they are much deeper than yours than do the kind thing and stop entertaining him with sex and intimate relations.

Tell him you do not want more than FWB relationship and for him to STOP asking you if you love him because you wont change your mind. 

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i don't know if he's playing a game... but i do think he doesn't know what love is.

then again, you two are in a FWB scenario so the basic rules don't apply, somewhat.

the thing is...  it doesn't matter if he loves you or not... do you love him?

once you have that question answered, you know what to do with the rest.

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I think he didn't say anything when you finally said you think you love him because you were still being equivocal & he's scared of getting hurt.  

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3 hours ago, Ellener said:

Are you wanting a serious relationship with him?

 

 

3 hours ago, fkasjf said:

No

If you don't want a relationship with him, who cares what he says? 

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6 hours ago, Ellener said:

Are you wanting a serious relationship with him?

6 hours ago, fkasjf said:

No

then set him straight on your arrangement or quit dealing with him. Either he's messing with your head or developing feelings. The former is worse than the latter.

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We are seeing once every two weeks or once every month. He calls to see me more often but I but I don't want or have the time. 
I was with him last night and before that I was two weeks ago. He asked me where I was, why I don't come to see him. 
In the end, he asked me when we will see each other next time. 
What does he think, when we are supposed to see each other next time?

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Maybe, it's time to land the cards on the table for BOTH OF YOU.  Wondering, playing games, etc will get you nowhere in the end.

LOVE is a big word when used genuinely. 

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Call in a couple days to tell him you’ll see him next month lol

 

But seriously, how long do you think this guy will be happy with just the scraps you’re giving him? 

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30 minutes ago, fkasjf said:

 

We are seeing once every two weeks or once every month. He calls to see me more often but I but I don't want or have the time. 
I was with him last night and before that I was two weeks ago. He asked me where I was, why I don't come to see him. 
In the end, he asked me when we will see each other next time. 
What does he think, when we are supposed to see each other next time?

Are you for real, or did you start an account to troll? I'm not trying to be mean, but in your other thread you said he is throwing around love bombs. And you don't want a relationship with him anyways!! Now here you are, asking about calling him? And based on your interest level (almost zero) I am surprised he is talking to you at all. 

He might be off base with the ILY's, but in my opinion it is YOU who is playing games. You are asking us when you should call him? I would say, NEVER. Find someone that you actually care about. This guy claims to love you, and you don't care one bit about him. Don't do that. Karma's a MFer...

Good luck 

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1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

Call in a couple days to tell him you’ll see him next month lol

 

But seriously, how long do you think this guy will be happy with just the scraps you’re giving him? 

I would listen to Cookie.  This won't be a good situation in the long haul.

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I was at this guy place, we are seeing for a lkng time. I was late as usual. He said "If I don't love you, (he paused and corrected himself) like you I wouldn't tolerate this. 

Did he mean that ? Or he made a mistake ? 

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Whoa... yes. It means he wants to have your babies 

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