Ellener Posted March 8, 2020 Posted March 8, 2020 I'm about to write to her son for clarification. They are supposed to let me know if she passes away or moves to a nursing home, but I know that's not their priority. Feel a little sad, she was influential in my life and we've been corresponding the last two decades. About two years ago she told me she'd kept all my letters over the years, but now she was throwing things out as she gets older, so as not to leave a hoard for her only child. I started keeping her letters at that point... 2
schlumpy Posted March 8, 2020 Posted March 8, 2020 Sorry to hear that Ellener. I recently lost my Aunt of 88 years. It makes me feel like a piece of my life has been stripped, rolled up and put away. It was very hard leaving her at the burial site on that cold and windy day.
Author Ellener Posted March 8, 2020 Author Posted March 8, 2020 1 hour ago, schlumpy said: Sorry to hear that Ellener. I recently lost my Aunt of 88 years. It makes me feel like a piece of my life has been stripped, rolled up and put away. It was very hard leaving her at the burial site on that cold and windy day. Thanks. Sorry for your loss.
d0nnivain Posted March 8, 2020 Posted March 8, 2020 I would call the sons. Assuming she is still alive, if possible make plans to go there. 1
Author Ellener Posted March 8, 2020 Author Posted March 8, 2020 I am too busy and it's not a good time to travel internationally @d0nnivain but I need to know whatever is happening. For some of my relatives/friends it's simply been they developed dementia illnesses and went into care homes and stopped writing...lots of happy memories though. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 8, 2020 Posted March 8, 2020 I didn't realize it was international. I should have remembered you said something about being from elsewhere in another post. Sorry I forgot. Do make a pest of yourself if that is what has to happen for you to get answers. Despite the corona virus unless you are traveling to a CDC class 3 country, I'd go if you can. You will forever regret not seeing her if you have that opportunity. At the end of the day Corona is the flu & can be killed by alcohol / Lysol. If you don't have a compromised immune system, the disease is not fatal, from what I understand. 1
preraph Posted March 8, 2020 Posted March 8, 2020 If she is in the hospital or a home, which seems likely, you just need to find out from whoever had the power to put her there. And then you can just call that place from now on.
Author Ellener Posted March 8, 2020 Author Posted March 8, 2020 54 minutes ago, preraph said: If she is in the hospital or a home, which seems likely, you just need to find out from whoever had the power to put her there. And then you can just call that place from now on. Yes, we stopped calling and went to writing as it's easier when she got deaf ( and wouldn't wear a hearing aid! ) I'll write to her son and enclose a postcard, she just has one son left as family now, and his wife, daughter and grandson too. They'll make sure she's looked after, it's marvellous to be independent to 96, she was even driving to last fall... 1
preraph Posted March 8, 2020 Posted March 8, 2020 Yes, it sounds as if she's had a quite good run! The new hearing aids are really small and my sister got one on Amazon that had good reviews and wasn't all that expensive like so many of them are. It's a shame she is averse to it. 1
Author Ellener Posted March 8, 2020 Author Posted March 8, 2020 People are saying Biden and Sanders are too old for government, but if people are going to live into their 100s now I guess general perspective on age will change! The seniors I work with say I'm just 'a baby' at 53!!!
JTSW Posted March 20, 2020 Posted March 20, 2020 (edited) Call them, or call any other relatives who may know. Edited March 20, 2020 by JTSW
Miss Clavel Posted March 20, 2020 Posted March 20, 2020 On 3/8/2020 at 1:33 PM, preraph said: If she is in the hospital or a home, which seems likely, you just need to find out from whoever had the power to put her there. And then you can just call that place from now on. nana's home won't let anyone visit, period. which begs the question, who's minding the mice.
maintainsub Posted March 26, 2020 Posted March 26, 2020 Setting aside everything, you really need to go there and see for yourself. If that is not possible, there's no way but to wait for her sons to write back or call them. This must be hard for you, I'm sorry.
Author Ellener Posted April 3, 2020 Author Posted April 3, 2020 Finally heard back from her son, and she's fine, in isolation at home writing me a letter! So happy to hear this!!! 2
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