Hopeful2020 Posted March 7, 2020 Posted March 7, 2020 I am only putting this question here because I am in kind of a "weird" relationship with a platonic female friend I have known for twenty years. The situation is a bit "weird" because I think my friend, who is going through a nasty divorce, may have feelings for me. Last weekend I sent my friend a text message asking her a couple of questions about an event we both had attended together that I had to leave early. My friend normally responds pretty quickly but over a day went by and I decided to just follow up with a VM to make sure she was okay and we were cool. I think my friend may have been irritated because I left the event with a date I had brought but I did tell her that I would call and/or text her the next day, which I did. Anyway, my friend called me back saying she was just busy and that my VM came across weird and we were only able to talk for a few awkward minutes because I was busy with my son. The next day, however, I did, text her again just to apologize for coming across weird and also to let her know part of my issue may have been some work stress I was dealing with that day. She responded with a really, really nice text message to which I did not respond because I was getting ready for a work trip and then I went out of town for a couple of days. So fast forward to today and I sent her really long text this morning saying how I was back in town, how much I appreciated the text she sent the other day, and that I was looking forward to seeing her at an event we are both attending this weekend. Not only has she not responded to my text as of this writing but I noticed when I sent her my texts I did not receive the normal "delivered" response I always receive when I send a message to another iPhone. I have been texting back and forth with other people today with no issues. Because of this I sent her another text just asking her to confirm she got my original texts and still nothing. I even called her just to say I think there may be an issue with one our phones but still nothing. Not sure what to think here but I did a little research and it turns out that if someone blocks you on iMessage you don't get the "delivered" receipt. But I am not sure why she would do this but I do find it odd that she has made no effort to respond via text, or phone, given that I have noticed her on social media multiple times today. Any thoughts or am I reading too much into this which I tend to do on fairly regular basis. Tx!
Blind-Sided Posted March 7, 2020 Posted March 7, 2020 (edited) Yep... it would seem that she expected her "Old Friend" to become her new relationship. It's an easy conversion since you know each other well. I've had this happen to me twice in my life. No... not with a friend of 20 years... and not out of a divorce... but I remember clearly, a girl in collage, who I knew for several years, and hung out with was almost CRAZY angry when she found out I was officially "Dating" my now exW. The other girl had been to my folks house... we would go to dinner, and hang out while doing homework. But never once did I kiss her, hold her hand, or even have any physical relations with her. She was always just a friend. But, she built a relationship in her head that wasn't reality, and she got angry when it didn't happen. The other wasn't as extreme, but it was a girl I was working with after college (the now exW had one more year) but we would hang out, and get lunch. She knew I was engaged, but after I actually got married (about a year after getting to know her) she got mad, and stopped talking with me, other than "Work" related things. I guess she thought I was going to call off the wedding and get together with her. With that said... on some level, after my marriage was falling apart, I started hanging out with a female friend who was also having a hard time with her man, and so our friendship wouldn't get messed up... I told her point blank that I refused to be "The other Man" in her story. (my ex had already filed. my friend was just unhappy, and didn't want to file) Even though I'm single now... I'm still a good boy, and still won't be the other man. (But now she has BF. Makes me sad) Edited March 7, 2020 by Blind-Sided
JTSW Posted March 9, 2020 Posted March 9, 2020 Look, i don't think she know's what's going on with her own head right now. She's going through allot. She's confused so i definitely don't recommend pursuing any relationship with her. You would end up being a rebound and your friendship will be ruined. Just give her time and space.
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