HopelessNick Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 (edited) I'm 24m, she's 24f. I'm guessing she knows I like her. Anyway, we're both journalists and colleagues. I tried sparking an attraction with my crush yesterday and a little today by using playfully arrogant humour. Previously, I was nice and tried her laugh with normal humour, but I don't think it worked. Eg. yesterday, she went to the scene of a crash overnight and before she went I said "So that's what you were up to last night." She stumbled for words before saying "yeah. probably was me." Another example yesterday, she was looking through crime stats in the past few months. I said "My name might be there. Keep it a secret if it is ok?" She gave me a thumbs up. One more example, at the end of yesterday, she said "I'm gonna leave now. She joked "Do I have permission?" I said "Let me get my list. Hmm. 1. Get her to give me half her payslip. 2. Get her to get me a pay rise. Oh. Sorry. Wrong list." She laughed a little. So she didn't really laugh at my jokes for most of the day, but she did interact with me more than usual and enjoyed it. At one stage, her mum brought her dog into the office and my crush came over to my desk, stood centimeters away from me and called the dog to come over to me. We had a good 2-3 minute chat before she left and she laughed at almost everything I said and had a really good time. *** In the work meeting this morning, she said to everyone "A man said to me he was going to have breakfast, but would happily eat me out instead." I stayed silent cause I didn't know what to say. One of the other girls helped her out. I tried to make her laugh to make her feel better. I went to the high school she used to go to and when I came back I said "So I spoke to your former teacher. He said you were a trouble maker, skipped school heaps and blew up the science block cause you didn't like the teacher." She didn't laugh. Just nodded a couple of times and just kept looking at her computer. We didn't talk for the rest of the day until she left. She still talked to other people in the office. Here's the thing. Just before she left, I called out to her and softly said (so that no one else could hear) "Are you alright after what happened this morning?" She didn't look at me, but she had the biggest ever smile I had ever seen. She said "Thanks for asking, That's actually very nice. Thanks for asking." *** So is she not interested? And even if I don't check up on her in future because I'll leave it to others, will she know I still care? If she isn't interested, I won't interact with her as much, but I want her to know it doesn't mean I don't care. Edited March 6, 2020 by HopelessNick
Author HopelessNick Posted March 6, 2020 Author Posted March 6, 2020 (edited) I also showed her a magic on Thursday. An hour or so later, her mum, who also works at the same office, said "I hear you've got a couple of magic tricks up your sleeve." She must have told her mum. Edited March 6, 2020 by HopelessNick
The Outlaw Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 She isn't. You need some serious work on your routine. Everything you said would have been better left unsaid because it came across as being creepy and there isn't any coming back from that. 1
chillii Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 (edited) She said that at a meeting to a group of work people , did l read that right , Jezuz. Anyway , the rest , you sound like a teenager, wtf she laughed at this laughed at that, what you wasting your time trying to be mr funny man and doin monkey tricks , embarrassing. lf you like the girl talk to her, get to know her a bit and if you still like ask her out. But l wouldn't be asking out someone that'd say something like that at a work meeting, and then there's the work colleague part of it too so when it gets messy later, well. And her mum works there, shyt . l can see it all. Edited March 6, 2020 by chillii 1
Blind-Sided Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 Yep... I'm with @chillii on this. Stop going for the joke. You work close, and you can actually talk with her freely. Just start with asking her to lunch where you can talk one on one. Also... jokes are ok to get a reaction... but if you are serious also... then people start to get annoyed as they realize they can't get a real answer out of you.
Author HopelessNick Posted March 6, 2020 Author Posted March 6, 2020 No matter what happened before, I'm so glad I asked if she was ok at the end because her reaction I got made my heart melt. What I said there in that moment was the real me. I do understand what I've said to her is cringey, maybe even creepy and even I felt extremely uncomfortable saying it, but if I didn't, I would just be Mr Nice Guy which doesn't work. If it did, I wouldn't have any girl trouble. The way I've interacted with her mostly has really gotten me out of my comfort zone.
Fletch Lives Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 Good job! Keep up the good work. You'll find out if she develops a crush on you if she asks you out. She might not though so talk to other women also.
Author HopelessNick Posted March 6, 2020 Author Posted March 6, 2020 What I don't understand is why she acted completely different on the second day.
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