Toni_no12002 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Hi well i have i 9 month old son and hes a lovely little boy but just latley when hes with me hes crys most of the time and when i try and feed him he doesnt want it unless its sweet.The thing is when people come round he acts all sweet and is always smiling and happy.As soon as there gone hes goes back to whinging.When hes away from me though he cries until hes back with me.When he does get back with me hes lovely for about an hour then starts playing up again. Why is he doing this?I always try to play with him but hes still mardy i dont understand it!Anyone know whats going on?
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Have you talked to your pediatrician about it? They might have some good advice for you.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 No i havent but i might do.Do all kids/babies do this? Maybe hes bored of me because im always with him everyday.
Lil Honey Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 No, he's not bored with you. He might have a tummy ache or maybe he needs to eat more (or differently, like a spoon of baby food to keep his tummy feeling satisfied). I wish I could remember this doctor's name, but he developed a way to wrap a collicky (sp?) baby up in a blanket, so that the blanket was snug. Apparently, it made the baby feel safe and would stop crying. Hmmm . . . I don't remember . . . when do they start teething? That might be a problem as well. You might not be able to see teeth, but they are there and could be hurting. Yes, and talk to your doctor. If all else fails, I'll take him for a few years.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 Ha lol thanks for the offer but id miss him lol.It might be his teeth but that still doesnt explain why he only does it when im around.Well he does it with my boyfriend too.When other people come round he stops
Lil Honey Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 It could be that he cries around the two of you, because he expects you to fix whatever is bothering him. When he is with someone else, the unfamiliarity might distract him or he knows that this person isn't the one that feeds, changes and holds him all the time. PS My offer still stands. LOL
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 lol ta very much but i would miss him lol When hes happy hes such a cutie but he cant half wind me up sometimes.Its like the other day i was playing with him and he started whinging.So i gave him some toys to play with and he was still whinging so i said to him(not that he can understand!) "what do you want ?"and he just grinned at me!the little bugger i couldnt help but melt though bless him! Its like hes doing it on purpose lol I dont know if its just him but he likes being thrown about and stuff (in a not violent way) hes like me putting him upside down and swinging him about lol he laughs his head off then but when he plays with toys he gets bored!he wants my keys or the remote controls or glasses or the ps2 controller!(all the stuff he shouldnt have!) and whinges till i give him it.He knows how to get what he wants ill give him that! Are babies supposed to be like this?This is my first kid so im abit unsure that this is normal lol
Lil Honey Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Toni: I just Googled "swaddling a baby." There are a lot of references there. You might also want to search "colic." Also, if you can't afford a regular doctor visit, take him to a clinic to be seen.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 In the uk its free to see a doctor but sometimes i dont see the point lol he'll just act all happy.I looked up colic but he doesnt scream he just whines alot lol.
RecordProducer Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Babies in general like the attention. When my kids were about 2-3 months old, they would cry (because of stomachache) and as soon as we would take them in our arms they would stop crying. In other words, something is bothering him and when the fun starts (people come over, you or your BF hold, you show him something new), it distracts his attention away from his problem and he forgets about it. But after a while it's not enough for him and his thoughts go back to his problem. Same with the sweet food; he obviously likes the taste of it even if he is not too hungry and it calms him down for a while. Crying is how babies communicate. So he is trying to tell you something. It's possible that it's his teeth that are growing. In any case, it must be something physical (be careful that somebody here doesn't advise you that he might be bipolar ). In my opinion you should talk to your doctor and see what might bother him. By the way, is your BF the father?
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 Hi yes my bf is the father. My lil boy has been having a tooth coming through at the moment maybe thats the problem.Theres a bump on his gum so it might be that.I just dont understand why he stops when other people come in the room but i suppose its something new. I gave him to my mum to look after for a couple of hours once and he was fine at first but after a bit he whined alot maybe things take his attention but after a whil he gets abit bored and crys again.God i wish babies could talk it would be soooo much easier lol
Lil Honey Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 I'm glad that you have someone to give you a break. That is important for you and your baby. If your physician doesn't seem to address the problem, find another one. You can see if the teething is bothering him. Here in the States, there is something called Ambesol and when it's rubbed on the baby's gums, it helps with the soreness. You could try that and see if he stops whining. Does he have a low-grade fever? Teething will do that, too. It will also give upset tummies. In other words, teething isn't fun for the baby or the mom.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 7, 2005 Author Posted October 7, 2005 Hi i put calgel on him its seems to help him abit but still the whining.It might just be his teeth.Mine hurt when they come through but i can moan i suppose he justs whines lol
quankanne Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 teething was my first thought, but now I'm wondering if your child simply doesn't feel challenged or stimulated enough. Especially if he wants live, one-on-one, hands-on action compared to being expected to play with a toy. try putting a mirror next to him (safely secure the mirror, of course) and see what he does in response. Seeing "another" baby might be interesting to him and keep him from growing bored.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 8, 2005 Author Posted October 8, 2005 Ive tried that hes likes it for a while but then seems to get bored again.Everyday i try to go out because in his pushchairs hes quiet he seems to like it.It might be because he gets bored easily.I put him in his walker ,his bouncer ,put cartoons on(he likes crazy frog soooo annoying lol)play with him,dangle him upside down,tickle him.He likes it all at first but then gets bored im running out of ideas.Hes got to that stage where if he likes something and grabs it but hes not allowed to have it because it dangerous etc he crys. He cant crawl properly he sort of slides on his stomach pushing with his feet and pulling ith his hands(he looks like a slug lol) bless him. What else can i try to keep him occupied?He doesnt like his normal toys.He wants to rip up magazines lol. Any suggestions?
lilmoma1973 Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 Hey Toni, Congrats on the baby !!! Has you asked your dr if they thought it could be colic.. My daughter had colic from the time she was born till 6mths it was pure hell!! I love my daughter with all my heart but something had to give so my h went to the health food store and got a rememdy and we put it in her bottle what a life saver!!! I took her to the hospital and they said she acid reflux and colic and she was having alot of gas and was making her fussy so they recommend me the milcon drops before her eating .. My pediatrician didn't know what was wrong with her it took me taking her to the emergency room to find this out .. I was so glad to see the colic leave me it was very unbearable wasn't able to enjoy being a mom!! Good luck hope it gets better !! Keep us posted:D
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 8, 2005 Author Posted October 8, 2005 I dont think its colic as we went to the doctor before and he had it and he was totally different.He was screaming when he had colic but now its just whinging.Maybe it because he gets bored easily and because of his teeth.I read up about colic and babies can cry at night but he just falls to sleep.So i dont think its that.Maybe i just need to find him more things to do.Theres not exactly much he can do really.Im forever telling him no because hetries to touch dangerous stuff but he just grins at me!the pain lol I cant really think of anything he can do really.He seems happy most of the time when i stand him on the floor with me holding his hands.He sort of walks,he gets very excited and never whines when he does that.Maybe hes just eager to walk and sick of sliding around on his belly lol
Hunny Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 Boredom, unhappiness, playing you up, tiredness, wind, teeth any of these reasons can be causing it but your his mum. Go with your instincts hun and work from there xx
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 9, 2005 Author Posted October 9, 2005 Yea lol i wish he could talk then he could tell me whats wrong!
Lil Honey Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 I can't imagine a nine month old being bored. There is just too much to learn. The only way he could be bored is if he was somewhere absolutely void of colors, light, sounds. If he has those things and has age-appropriate toys to play with, he isn't bored. I still say that one of two things (or both) are going on: His tummy needs a spoonful of baby food or he needs relief from teething. So, if he isn't fed more solid than milk or given something on his teeth or taken to the doctor, he's going to continue to whine.
Lil Honey Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 Oops, didn't think my first post went through.
Mz. Pixie Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 At nine months he's probably frustrated because he'd like to be able to get up and go and he can't. Are you giving him some tummy time so that he can start to crawl?? If not, try that. Both of my kids went through this stage around 8-9 months old. Also, if he's sucking his bottle and he pulls away it could be his ears.
Author Toni_no12002 Posted October 11, 2005 Author Posted October 11, 2005 He getting a little better now i think it was his teeth cos i just found a little 1 poking through.Thats probably why hes been mardy.I let him crawl quite alot.He likes getting about he can go quite fast when he wants.he always goes towards the door if its open i think he trying to escape lol.
Outcast Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Get yourself a book on taking care of children. Get several. Talk to your mom, your aunts, or anybody you know who has had kids and ask them for advice.
RecordProducer Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Toni, did you know that there are things that babies are supposed to do at certain ages? E.g. start putting toys in their mouths at such and such age, start pulling things, dropping toys, etc. These are needs that have to be satisfied so it's important for you to know what to do and how to please your baby. For example, when a baby has a need to drop toys for the parents to pick them up, most parents are annoyed by this and tie the toy to the seat/bed. But in fact the baby has to go through this stage and actually drop toys and the parents need to pick them up as much as it might be annoying for them. Same "strategy" for many other phases. You can find information about this on the internet. So you can have a better understanding of your son. Once all his needs are pleased, he will be calmer and you will be happier. Raising a child is a very demanding three-shift-every-day job so don't get frustrated when something doesn't seem right. The most important thing is that he gets as much affection as possible from you and his daddy and feel that he is loved. Shower him with kisses, hold him, smile at him, play with him, tease him, tickle him, talk to him...
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