two divorcing people. where is this going?

[basil67]

33 minutes ago, Pistachio0 said:

You are right but I love the control… one night I told him where I was going on a date so he could stalk and watch then come over straight after and have sex with me…tell me when I make him angry and that he’ll work to do it better when he’s jealous…That is why this is irreplaceable to me- the darkness and our same wavelength 

So you talk about dating others in order to enrage him and this gets you both hot?   There's no actual problem you need help with?

Edited August 4, 2022 by basil67

[BaileyB]

50 minutes ago, Pistachio0 said:

I love the control… one night I told him where I was going on a date so he could stalk and watch then come over straight after and have sex with me…tell me when I make him angry and that he’ll work to do it better when he’s jealous…That is why this is irreplaceable to me- the darkness and our same wavelength 

Some women are attracted to dysfunction. It is a definite choice that you are making. 

Edited August 4, 2022 by BaileyB

[Pistachio0]

17 minutes ago, basil67 said:

So you talk about dating others in order to enrage him and this gets you both hot?   There's no actual problem you need help with?

Yeah not really. I’d prefer an official commitment and was trying to make that happen for a long time. But he and our dynamic are so special to me that I’d rather have this than conventional relationship with anyone else, if there’s no third choice. We do know each other so well after four years that I have a bit of the comfort of knowing a partner well, (glaring) flaws and all, but he still gets me crazy excited every time I see his face and I don’t want a partner around all the time anyhow, especially when I’m trying to devote one on one quality time to my Child the nights that are my custody. Still would prefer an official title with him but I’m kind of… oh well?

[BaileyB]

42 minutes ago, Pistachio0 said:

I’d prefer an official commitment and was trying to make that happen for a long time.

A conventional relationship isn’t going to provide the same thrill that you are experiencing now with your jealous affair partner.

Edited August 4, 2022 by BaileyB