stella20 Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 So if you are in the early stages and you are trying to meet up for a second date - I texted a guy and waited three hours for him to respond. How long is too long to wait for a reply ? An hour ? 24 hours ?
ljwentworth32 Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 the longer he takes to respond, the lower the attraction lvl. unless he's super busy with work or got into an accident. if he doesn't reply within 24 hours, I'd move on. 1
manfrombelow2 Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 You don't "WAIT" for a reply. When your text is sent, that is it. The ball is kicked over the other side's net. Now you go back to doing your work, or anything that you have always been doing. If the ball is returned to you from other side (i.e the guy replies your text) then the story can go on. If that doesn't happen. Move on with your life. 6
The Outlaw Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 Give him time. Wait for him to respond and don't send any more texts until he does. You don't want to come across as clingy.
Blind-Sided Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 Wow... you guys are brutal. It all depends on the situation, and the person. Also... it depends on your level of interest. Some people live on their phones... and some don't. Some people get busy, and won't look at their phone... some people let their lives stop every time they get an alert. And finally... some people have short memories, and they forget that a message came in. With the above said... you have to judge what kind of guy he is... and play it accordingly. And that brings me to my last point... sometimes tech just messes up !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This just happened to me last week. There is a girl who I'm interested in, and she sometimes sends me a txt, and sometimes uses Snapchat. Well... I was in my truck, and my phone was plugged in so my Androidauto was working. I saw a snapchat alert as I got to the store, but after I unplugged my phone... there was no message. Well a few hours later I got a txt saying... "If you don't want to get lunch tomorrow, that's fine, just let me know." From the text I could tell she was a little upset, as she thought I was ignoring her, and she needed to know to move her schedule around. At that point, I set a message back saying "Hu? I would love to get lunch, but I didn't see the invite." From there, it was a call, and we got things straightened out. So... why did I tell you that story??? Because it is VERY IMPORTANT that if you have interest, and you have been in contact recently... give that person the benefit of the doubt... and just reach out again !! SO NO... do not throw a text, and have the attitude of "It's in his court". I think this is part of the problem we have now. People assume the worst, and jump to conclusions. Be an adult, and try to talk to that person if you have interest in them. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 (edited) Granted I started dating before cell phone. Back then the answer was 5-7 days. With cell phones it got shorter. Now with texting people actually seem to time this stuff with stop watches. Stop doing that. I'd say 24-48 hours is still OK. The longer it takes the more there better be an explanation (work was busy is sufficient without further elaboration) but nobody is obligated to drop everything for a text. The technology that gives us the ability to communicate 24/7 has made people think they have an entitlement to that level of priority from a new potential SO. They just don't. The people involved are still relative strangers in the early stages. Be more patient. Edited March 6, 2020 by d0nnivain 2
smackie9 Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 guys of high interest get back to you pretty quickly. Before cel phones I recall most contact was that day. We had answering machines tho lol, like my mom
Gaeta Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 Give him 24 hours. Last night I left work at 5h, I have a 1 hour walk/metro/drive route to get home I didn't hear my phone. I stopped at the grocery store, got home and ran out with the dog, jumped into making dinner right away as it was almost 6h30, then I got a phone call from my mother, I almost burnt dinner, my attention went to the tv with an update of corona virus…..at 8h my boyfriend calls and it's when I noticed he had been trying to reach me since 5h and I didn't see it. People with busy life don't have their nose on their phone at every minute of the day and 3 hours goes by in a flash, well in my life 3 hours is like 3 minutes. 1
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