whichwayisup Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 i can't find it now, but someone on this thread wrote that bad boys can't let go of the women they have sex with. why is this?? Cuz the sex is so good! It's like an addiction! I know this because one of my boyfriends in the past was a badboy and looking back now, it was all about the sex. The relationship itself sucked, but in bed...Well, sucked too, but in a good way!
helena abadi Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 ok, thanks a lot for the reply. jeez i feel dumb for not realising that already.
edbravo Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Women really don’t want those bad guys. I believe if you are interesting and spontaneous then every ladies will find you appealing.
RecordProducer Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Okay so if you were asked to describe what women want without using the expressions "bad boy" or "nice guy", what do you (all) think it is we want? Most women want a self-confident guy. Most women want to be treated like queens, not sh|t. Most women don't like clingy guys just like men don't like clingy women. Most women want the guy to be reliable and have a good heart. Besides, we are attracted by the personality that radiates from the inside. You can be on your knees, but if you're the dominant type, we will see you as such. And vice versa; if you're the doormat type plus disrespectful, we will not only not respect you, but also resent you. What some of you suggest is that women get hot for men who make them sweat; for those who don't call, date other women as well, and show the woman that she is on the bottom of their priority list. These are huge turn-offs for me, but perhaps you guys have different experiences with women. I only speak for myself. But I doubt that any woman who cherishes self-respect and thinks highly of herself would let anyone treat her like that and still be in love with him for a long time.
helena abadi Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 i agree with that. bad boy flings are usually short-lived. there is no emotional intimacy. if they continue, the emotional depth is minimal, even if the sex is great. bad boys are a useful barometer of reminding women they can do a lot better.
alphamale Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 But I doubt that any woman who cherishes self-respect and thinks highly of herself would let anyone treat her like that and still be in love with him for a long time. My real world experience is that the attractive women are usually the ones who like to be treated badly by men.... see, these women can manuipulate the average man very easily because of their looks and get whatever they want from them. Because of this...the attractive woman loses respect for the average spine-less man (about 95% of men are this way). Ahh...but when this same woman meets a man she cannot manipulate and who is stronger than her then she immediately falls for him and has respect for him. He does not give into her wishes or demands and cannot be "used" like all the 95% of weak men can be...
RecordProducer Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 I see your point, Alpha and you're correct... But still there are ways to not be her puppy and still remain a great guy!
Pyro Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 My real world experience is that the attractive women are usually the ones who like to be treated badly by men.... see, these women can manuipulate the average man very easily because of their looks and get whatever they want from them. Because of this...the attractive woman loses respect for the average spine-less man (about 95% of men are this way). I guess that in your experience, all attractive women are sad and depressed and have no self-esteem. I have met and dated many attractive women and they absolutely loved my consideration and kindness. You must not get out much because there is a whole world of beautiful women who do not want to meet your version of a bad boy.
lindya Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 My real world experience is that the attractive women are usually the ones who like to be treated badly by men Or perhaps you simply find yourself more attracted to the women who like to be treated badly, Alpha?
Pyro Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 yeah! let's hear it for The Riddler!! Thank you. You are too kind. I am just speaking from the heart. I am just sick of the people and the talk that you must treat a women like shyt to get her attention. A little kindness can get you a long ways.
crazy_grl Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 I am just speaking from the heart. I am just sick of the people and the talk that you must treat a women like shyt to get her attention. A little kindness can get you a long ways. :love: Riddler :love:
Topper Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 Maybe we need a new label nice guy , bad boy and "real man" My definition of the real man is smart, Down to earth, but does take pride in how he looks. can talk on a range of subjects. Has confidence in his abilities If a so called hot babe rejects him it's no big deal there are a lot more woman out there. If she is to into how she looks and doesn't have anything to back up the package like a personality why bother with her in the first place? Oh and he thinks the term "metro sexual" is just plain silly
Pyro Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 Maybe we need a new label nice guy , bad boy and "real man" My definition of the real man is smart, Down to earth, but does take pride in how he looks. can talk on a range of subjects. Has confidence in his abilities If a so called hot babe rejects him it's no big deal there are a lot more woman out there. If she is to into how she looks and doesn't have anything to back up the package like a personality why bother with her in the first place? Oh and he thinks the term "metro sexual" is just plain silly I like the way that you think Topper.
hooghie Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Ahh...but when this same woman meets a man she cannot manipulate and who is stronger than her then she immediately falls for him and has respect for him. He does not give into her wishes or demands and cannot be "used" like all the 95% of weak men can be... You are so right on this, but I don't think not giving into her all the time means he is a bad boy, but if he's a bad boy, but if he's a bad boy- he definitely won't give into her all the time. The thing about bad boys that makes them attractive other than their looks is they know exactly how to treat a woman WHEN they feel like it- they make you feel like you are the only woman in the world when you are with them (when you're not, they are all over every other woman), they make you feel protected/safe, and they really know how to kiss you. I have two categories of men- dogs (wimpy, begs for stuff, etc. and wolves (confident, doesn't give in easily, fights back, etc.). Most men are dogs, but not all wolves are bad boys (here defined as men who treat women like sh**). I kind of like Topper's 3rd category of REAL MEN, but I think this category only exists with men who are in their late twenties and up and they are usually X bad boys.
Pyro Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I have two categories of men- dogs (wimpy, begs for stuff, etc. and wolves (confident, doesn't give in easily, fights back, etc.). Most men are dogs, but not all wolves are bad boys (here defined as men who treat women like sh**). I kind of like Topper's 3rd category of REAL MEN, but I think this category only exists with men who are in their late twenties and up and they are usually X bad boys. Good point. I think that is what alot of here have been trying to explain. A guy can be a "wolf" but he doesn't have to be an Alpha "bad boy" at all to meet women. I agree with hooghie. As for the second part, I am in my mid-twenties and I never been in any way, shape, or form a bad boy. Toppers third category pretty much sums me up.
Pyro Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I second that Wow.I never realized that speaking up on how i feel about women would give me so much love. Thank you very much.
Apex Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I see your point, Alpha and you're correct... But still there are ways to not be her puppy and still remain a great guy! The little engine that could. Don't make me laugh.
LazyLibra Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I have a friend who is the biggest wigger in the world. He reminds me of that guy from malibus most wanted. He has a good job makes tons of money but after work is done that means play time and that means baggy pants , sideways hate and gangster limbo. HE gets the most down to earth good looking women ever! and they all try to change him, they always tell me " he's nice but I wish he'd dress better". haha jesus every single girl
basscatcher Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Okay so if you were asked to describe what women want without using the expressions "bad boy" or "nice guy", what do you (all) think it is we want? Most women want a self-confident guy. Most women want to be treated like queens, not sh|t. Most women don't like clingy guys just like men don't like clingy women. Most women want the guy to be reliable and have a good heart. Besides, we are attracted by the personality that radiates from the inside. You can be on your knees, but if you're the dominant type, we will see you as such. And vice versa; if you're the doormat type plus disrespectful, we will not only not respect you, but also resent you. What some of you suggest is that women get hot for men who make them sweat; for those who don't call, date other women as well, and show the woman that she is on the bottom of their priority list. These are huge turn-offs for me, but perhaps you guys have different experiences with women. I only speak for myself. But I doubt that any woman who cherishes self-respect and thinks highly of herself would let anyone treat her like that and still be in love with him for a long time. BRAVO R_P I totally agree with you....
Apex Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Besides, we are attracted by the personality that radiates from the inside. You can be on your knees, but if you're the dominant type, we will see you as such. And vice versa; if you're the doormat type plus disrespectful, we will not only not respect you, but also resent you.Right on the money. It is personality not character.
alphamale Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Right on the money. It is personality not character. correct APEX, unfortunately its the "bad boys" who have great personality and less character and the "nice guys" who have less personality and more character. Personality and excitement always wins out, as does the "bad boy".
basscatcher Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Personality and excitement always wins out, as does the "bad boy". Yeah but not indefinetly. Bad boys dont usually last in committed relationships. *+*+When they are old, worn out and wrinkled sitting on there porch swings with many miles on their tallywacker they will realize they are alone and have no one. If their tallywackers haven't fallen off by then and they need sex still they will have to resort to old, drunken, wrinkled, used women that always ran after those bad boys and didnt wake up to realize that they should have never wasted their time trying to be the princess to change them. I have seen this several times in my hometown up in the north. Ladies who run with the bad boys. They are still single and running in the bars trying to pick up older men who are bad boys. I have heard them complain about being alone not having a man at home with them.
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