no-one Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Hey, I've read some things around the internet and some say that women are more attracted to the cocky and funny attitude. Not all women, but most women. Does anyone here know if it does attract more women? Wouldn't it make women feel like the guys a challenge? And aren't more women attracted to that?
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I don't know about cocky.. But confident and funny YES.. The easiest way to move it forward with a girl is confidence and humor.. All women love a funny guy
alphamale Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 All women love a funny guy They sure do A_C....and this is mainly becuase very few women have a built-in sense of humour themselves.
JS17 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 They sure do A_C....and this is mainly becuase very few women have a built-in sense of humour themselves. Psssst...Maybe you're just not funny Alpha
slubberdegullion Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Yes, sometimes C&F works. But remember that women read too, so many have likely seen the articles about the process and can see it coming from a mile away. It's really a bit of a crutch, though, for fellows who don't have enough personality to begin with and have to study books and articles about meeting women. That's not all bad; some fellows are so painfully shy - but really good people - that they need a confidence boost. But that's all it is, really; a way to gather up a little confidence before you are thrown to the wolves (or, rather, cougars).
basscatcher Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 You must be referring to David D. stuff. I've read a little bit of his stuff and even signed up for his newsletter in the past just to see what he had to say about stuff people wrote him about. I personally think; there is a fine line when it comes to a guy being cocky; just like I believe there is a difference between being a alpha male and a jerk. If one doesnt understand that line he may go over it and ruin any chance of locking in the womans attraction to him or getting her to notice him in a possitive way. A man can have the look but if he doesnt have the personality then he wont get the girl. I find myself more attracted to a man who is a little cocky only if I am already attracted to him. A little sarcasm can be a turn on if he knows about the topic he's talking about. As long as he doesnt over do it and come off as a know it all arrogant jerk. I also find myself attracted to men who have a sense of humor but if he is the life of the party I wouldnt want to be his date because I am not one who wants to be the center of attention. Each woman is different in what she likes or doesn't. If you know how to observe a woman and watch her for a short while you may know how she is and be able to regulate how to approach her or how to act around her. Only if you know something about observation. A cocky and funny guy will catch my attention but how he handles himself doing it and how he does it will be whether or not I will find myself more then just visually attracted to him and accept his approach if he should. I surely am not interested in a man who is a total wussbag or is pompus. I like a man to have some dominace and characator and is comfortable with himself but not vain or has to suck up all the attention.
alphamale Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I surely am not interested in a man who is a total wussbag or is pompus. I like a man to have some dominace and characator and is comfortable with himself but not vain or has to suck up all the attention. But unfortunately, PADAMECKLA, the above does not correspond with what I see in reality. IN REALITY I see the most desireable women (i.e. attractive) with men who are very dominant, attractive and selfish a**h***s... call it vain, call it stuck up...whatever you want. But these men tend to also be the most successful in life because they are aggressive and assertive. None of these types of guys are ever without good looking women. Go anywhere around town and you will see the best looking women with these types of dudes.
housebaby Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I'm personally attracted to a MULTIDIMENTIONAL man. One who can show me dominance in the bedroom - but not try to dominate me outside of it. I want to control my own thoughts, action and life - but I willingly submit fully behind closed doors. As soon as someone tries to dictate my life for me - they are gone so fast, you'd hardly know they were there to begin with...granted, this takes men by surprise because some of them think that just because I let them have their way in the bedroom...I will let them have their way outside of it: WRONG! I like a man to be a man .. and he should be secure (emotionally, mentally, financially). Nobody wants a whiner - men or women. Of course a funny guy scores high, because it makes you feel comfortable. Laughing is something we don't do enough with all the 'seriousness' of life in genereal ---so if someone can make you smile and laugh, they are obviously going to score points. There is a HUGE difference between AGRESSIVE and ASSERTIVE too. Agressive: (Inclined to behave in an actively hostile fashion) Assertive:(Inclined to bold or confident assertion) So, be assertive (bold and confidant) and NOT aggressive (hostile behavior)....there is a difference between not letting anyone walk all over you and punching someone in the face who pisses you off!
housebaby Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Go anywhere around town and you will see the best looking women with these types of dudes. so, you are saying that Beautiful women have no self-respect? or, do they not have brains of their own? Come on now --- you can't count ARM CANDY as a relationship? as if those guys are only banging the girl on their arm! ha! that's too funny! If a man wants someone solely for looks - that's fine, all he really needs is money and power.....and he can get all the barbie dolls he wants!!! If they want something real (which they probably don't) they would be hard pressed to find a successful women with LOOKS AND BRAINS, not to mention self-respect! Of couse, if it's all for sex & show - who cares!! those women are using the rich/powerful man just as equally as he is using them! Sooooo funny!
alphamale Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 If they want something real (which they probably don't) they would be hard pressed to find a successful women with LOOKS AND BRAINS, not to mention self-respect! Hold on HOUSEBABEY....you mean to tell me that females actually exist that are successful, very attractive, smart AND have self-respect all in one package? WOW! My estimate is that maybe 1% to 2% of the female population has all those qualities in one person.
basscatcher Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 But unfortunately, PADAMECKLA, the above does not correspond with what I see in reality. IN REALITY I see the most desireable women (i.e. attractive) with men who are very dominant, attractive and selfish a**h***s... call it vain, call it stuck up...whatever you want. You express best looking women several times. In the social norm of being best looking she maybe soo but who are they as people. These women get so much attention and are so desensitized from all the attention that they probably need negative stimulation to keep them interested or there so numb they don't realize what they got themselves into till its too late. How many of these women do you honestly think are truly happy in their relationshps with these men? IMHO I think what you see-- is just that--you only see.. You don't know whats going on in the relationship itself. It's an image.. At the heart of it they probably have some of the worse relationships. Everyone has expectations of them so they try to live up to social standards and behind closed doors they hate their lives. But these men tend to also be the most successful in life because they are aggressive and assertive. None of these types of guys are ever without good looking women. Go anywhere around town and you will see the best looking women with these types of dudes. Yes, I agree these kinds of men are most likely to be the most successful. They have higher energy levels and get bored fast so they seek stimulation (advancement). (It's what I think helps them be so quick with their tongues on being cocky.) The women I've seen with these types of men rarely smile unless they are in a social gathering. IMHO they also look fake, act fake, and age faster. I don't believe all men or women in this catagory are like this but I think most are. What you see in your reality is what you see. I sure wouldnt want to just look good on my mans arm or be in a shallow relationship for image. you mean to tell me that females actually exist that are successful, very attractive, smart AND have self-respect all in one package? WOW! My estimate is that maybe 1% to 2% of the female population has all those qualities in one person. When women get treated like a trophy or meat how are they suppose to be able to be successful, attractive,smart and have self-respect. "you beat on a dog long enough he will cower when he see's you."
housebaby Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Hold on HOUSEBABEY....you mean to tell me that females actually exist that are successful, very attractive, smart AND have self-respect all in one package? WOW! My estimate is that maybe 1% to 2% of the female population has all those qualities in one person. Yes...actually I am saying that. Maybe not where you are - but certainly where I am they do exist...it's all in what YOU choose to see. I think you are creating your own little reality - or people in Detroit (or wherever you are from) are just like that?? Being smart and having self-respect usually equals success - so, really....a beautiful and successful woman isn't that hard to find - it's just that these beautiful successful women AREN'T ON THE ARM OF SOME RICH a**h*** - and are probably too busy being beautiful and successful to even walk around the streets for people like you to view them...they are probably busy climbing the social ladder = who knows? Point being: they exist....
whichwayisup Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I love when my hubby teases me. He does it to lighten me up when I'm in a grumpy mood. Makes me laugh and makes me see at times how stupid I'm feeling or acting. I do the same to him. We make fun of eachother, in a loving and funny way. We know too, when to stop joking, but most of the time it's a bundle of laughs around here.
RecordProducer Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I don't know about cocky.. But confident and funny YES.. The easiest way to move it forward with a girl is confidence and humor.. Self-confidence and humor are the #1 turn-ons for us. Can you define cocky please? If you refer to the assertive type of men who know what they want and take it, were born leaders, are passionate, energetic, and always in control of the situation then - yes. But if you refer to narcissistic, show-off, know-it-all type of men then no!
jaye Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 IN REALITY I see the most desireable women (i.e. attractive) with men who are very dominant, attractive and selfish a**h***s... None of these types of guys are ever without good looking women. Alpha you just said what i wanted to say for years but now on ls i believe you are the only one who make any sense.
blue16 Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 But if you refer to narcissistic, show-off, know-it-all type of men then no! I think that would probably be describing someone who is arrogant rather than cocky. And you're right I don't think arrogance is a very attractive quality.
RecordProducer Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 I think that would probably be describing someone who is arrogant rather than cocky. And you're right I don't think arrogance is a very attractive quality. So how would you describe "cocky"? Does the word come from the word "cock" ( ) or "cock" ( )?
blue16 Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 cocky is hard to describe, so I went for a dictionary definition. "Overly self-assertive or self-confident." I guess I can only explain using examples...like at work the other day this girl who I am flirty with (who I hadn't seen for about a week) I greeted her with "Long time no see...I bet you missed me huh? :)" I think that's a good example of being 'cocky' but in a good way.
lindya Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 Alpha you just said what i wanted to say for years but now on ls i believe you are the only one who make any sense. I'm off to write a best-selling book on relationships. I never realised it would be so easy Back in about 25 minutes.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 I'm off to write a best-selling book on relationships. I never realised it would be so easy Back in about 25 minutes. Including teabreak, I suppose?
lindya Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 Including teabreak, I suppose? Of course! I've got the title. "Baring our masochistic souls!" The blurb will go something like...A hand-book for wannabee players everywhere. The writer reveals the darkness, despair, irrationality and foolishness that lies within every feminine soul. This will help you to press those buttons like the player you know you can be! "A handy guide. Thanks Lindya! Jim Jolly (New York) "Nothing particularly new here" Anonymous (Detroit) "Truly a masterpiece" The Times
Juliet2 Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 I found all my friends did not like my cocky boyfriends. Women did not appear overly nice to them in public either. I like the warm welcoming reception that a nice guy receives.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 I found all my friends did not like my cocky boyfriends. Apparently *you* liked them though
alphamale Posted October 8, 2005 Posted October 8, 2005 I think that would probably be describing someone who is arrogant rather than cocky. And you're right I don't think arrogance is a very attractive quality. arrogance = cocky.... and let me tell you something BLUE16. For men, arrogance is a quality that can take you very far in life, especially in western society. The United States of America is the most arrogant society today and see how successful it is. Prez Bush is an arrogant bastard who was born with a silver spoon in his mouth and look what it did for him. Lets see who else....Jack Nicholson is arrogant, many pro athletes are arrogant beyond belief. You need to be arrogant to some extent to be successful and not get walked all over. And no matter what women say their actions show that they are very attracted to selfish, arrogant and successful men and this has been the case throughout recorded history.
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