curious jane Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 So my b/f has a 5 year old son. HIm and i have been together for 6 months, i may be going to school in europe next year... My b/f's son sees my b/f every other weekend and is aware i am his dads g/f. This weekend is our thanksgiving he has his son, my parents invited me and my b/f up - they said it was ok for his son to come too... but the question comes in my head is it to soon to introduce a child to my family? do kids get eaisly attached to people? what happens if i go away next year? what happens if things dont work out between my b/f and i ? I just would not want to hurt his kid... I don't have a lot of experice with kids, so any adivce would be great. Thanks
littlekitty Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Jane, the fact that you asked the question speaks volumes about you! Well done for putting the child first in the situation. I am in a relationship where my bf has a 1.5 yr old son. I am very much in both their lives and he sees his son every weekend too. Obviously at 5 the child is better placed to understand, but still very vunerable. Part of me would be wary, especially since you are leaving for school. However I think the best way to resolve your question - ask the father, and the mother for that matter what they would prefer you to do. Children do get involved easily and don't have the facilites to understand why someone then moves out of their lives. Often they may place guilt on themselves where none is due. I would be very careful at the moment. If you were more sure of the furture of the relationship I would be less concerned, but maybe right now isnt the time. Whatever you decide, you were right to consider the child in this!
Lil Honey Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I don't think the child is going to get psychologically messed up from meeting your family and being with them for only the weekend. Kids can be shy about meeting new people, so it might take the whole weekend before he is even comfy talking to them. I think that the part he won't understand is you being there so often, then leaving when you go oversees. I would think that's more adjustment than seeing a couple people for two days.
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