Lotsgoingon Posted March 11, 2020 Posted March 11, 2020 How's it going? When asked by someone passing me on the street, just sounds like "hello." ... Really I don't hear that as a question at all. Absolute no work to simply say, "All right." and maybe return the "how's it going?" How is your day going? asked by someone I'm setting up a date with ... hmmmm ... I'm not sure I always hear that as a "hello." Asking about my "day" is much more specific. Yes, it'a great question to ask once you have a relationship with someone, but not when you're meeting up with someone for the first time.
basil67 Posted March 11, 2020 Posted March 11, 2020 4 hours ago, SumGuy said: The lunch date during the work day can be limited by the need to get back to work. That can also be an advantage. I can only see advantage. If it's a dud date, it's great to have an excuse to get out. If it's a great date, you'll both have appetites for more. And you're right about the there being a law in Australia that one must have alcohol at business lunches. And lunches with friends, lunches with dates. Take your date to a city pub, get a meal and a glass or two of wine. 2
anotherfool Posted March 11, 2020 Posted March 11, 2020 7 hours ago, max3732 said: For some reason I really dislike that kind of question. "How is your day going" or "how is your week going". Part of me wants to go into detail... I did x, y and z or this was good or this was bad. On the other hand I know it's probably just more of a greeting and I'd like to say something a bit more creative. Man... stop overthinking it. If you are interested go with it. What do you have to lose? Try to set up a date. She cancelled, but then made an effort to contact you. Make a date. 2
5x5 Posted March 12, 2020 Posted March 12, 2020 7 hours ago, thaygiaogiang said: 1. Lunch dates are for platonic friends and female friends. Men don't do "lunch" dates with women they want to seduce. Of course men do lunch dates with women. Every single lunch date that I have been on, has led to sex with the woman including sex then later marriage to one of them. 2
simpycurious Posted March 12, 2020 Posted March 12, 2020 46 minutes ago, anotherfool said: Man... stop overthinking it. If you are interested go with it. What do you have to lose? Try to set up a date. She cancelled, but then made an effort to contact you. Make a date. Agreed. Don't make it so complicated. If you are interested then make a move and see where it goes if not just move on. 2
5x5 Posted March 12, 2020 Posted March 12, 2020 7 hours ago, thaygiaogiang said: Because lunches are wrong for such purposes. You and her can't consume alcohols. The daylight gives off a neutral and de-sexualized (is this even a word?) vibe that kills any romantic and sexual chemistry between the two of you before they were even born. Have you ever been on a lunch date? I've been on a few and all of them led to sex either on that date, later that evening or by the third date. Despite it not technically being the legal thing, I've had sex with lunchtime dates in parks, in an office and on a staircase without ever getting caught in two different CBDs. All without alcohol being consumed on any of those lunchtime dates, since people don't need to be drunk to want to have sex. That said I've had alcohol at lunchtime before, so that isn't an exceptional occurrence either. 2
Author max3732 Posted March 13, 2020 Author Posted March 13, 2020 On 3/11/2020 at 8:37 PM, 5x5 said: Have you ever been on a lunch date? I've been on a few and all of them led to sex either on that date, later that evening or by the third date. Despite it not technically being the legal thing, I've had sex with lunchtime dates in parks, in an office and on a staircase without ever getting caught in two different CBDs. All without alcohol being consumed on any of those lunchtime dates, since people don't need to be drunk to want to have sex. That said I've had alcohol at lunchtime before, so that isn't an exceptional occurrence either. Can you explain how this works for you? When I go on a lunch date (or any date) we meet, have a conversation (sometimes great, sometimes not) and it goes well I say something like "it was great seeing you. Let's get together again". My last few dates I've even kissed her at the end. Just trying to take her hand is a big deal for me
5x5 Posted March 14, 2020 Posted March 14, 2020 14 hours ago, max3732 said: Can you explain how this works for you? Maybe, I'm not sure what aspect you want explained? While what worked for me probably won't work for you, since I was just being myself. So there was no planning for what I will do if A or B happened, and there were no rules for what I excepted or what I would do. If things were going well I would touch them and they would touch me. I mean if I was going to to go to the bar I might put my hand on the small of their back and ask what they want. If they were getting up I might take their hand and help them. Or sometimes I'd poke them in the arm or nudge them with an elbow being silly. It's al so variable as we're the women I dated, since they all had different personalities, different backgrounds etc. Some I wanted to be all hands with from the start. While there were some that I wouldn't touch them and things would simmer until I kissed them. If a venue was noisy I'd lean in brush their hair aside and talk to them up close into their ear. It's tough trying to recall details from years past, I remember telling one I could make her hair stand on end, so I hovered my hand over hers then up her neck which tickled her. If I wanted to see a woman again after a first date, I would never tell her "it was great seeing her", I just never felt saying something like that was needed. I would say "I'll call you tomorrow" or if it was a lunchtime date I'd ask if she was free to go out again that night. So something like "doing anything tonight?" ... "we can see whoever's playing at blah blah". As to kissing, I've started kissing plenty of times before the end of a date. Although end of a date is fine as well. Although absent that special electric feeling, I wouldn't ever kiss at all. As to sex I don't know it happens the usual way, you kiss a woman then kiss her some more, hands caress lightly so the hair on the back of the neck stands up. Hands wander yours and theirs, so on and etc. Somewhere in all of that I would say a variety of different things in the moment, all dependant on who I was with. "Which side to undo your bra?"... "Back/Front". "I want to f*** you."... "Where?" ... "Not here, how about blah bla." ... "Okay." Sometimes I was forward, sometimes they were forward it all varies so much, I remember one woman took me on a walk to show some place, and when we got there she said "we can f*** here". That said I don't know how any of that can help you. I think if you want something it can be good to be forward and say so. Yet that may not work well for you if you aren't comfortable doing that and can't read people easily.
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