commercial_fox Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 (edited) Yesterday when I left this cafe it’s really icy so I asked for the back door cause I was wearing heeled boots. And I asked some guy there if he would help me walk out (cause my friend left) and was like ofc. As soon as I asked he just came and walked me out, didn’t even grab his jacket (I felt bad). At first, he thought I was dizzy or something (but I insisted I was fine) but still made someone grab me a chair and water to sit while I wait then talked to me the whole time until my Uber came. Anyways throughout the conversation he would ask me several personal questions about myself such as name, age, school, what I study, where I’m from... Someone was like happy birthday to him and then I realized it’s the owner guy (he’s my age) cause they threw him a birthday party that day. And when I left I thanked him and he said "goodbye *insert my name* & take care" (was smiling too). Here’s the interesting part, he had his hands around my waist as he walked me out. Didn’t just hold my hand or shoulder (like how my friends would). I don’t know if that’s normal? I’m not sure if he was interested/attracted or just being friendly Edited March 3, 2020 by commercial_fox fixing
Author commercial_fox Posted March 3, 2020 Author Posted March 3, 2020 1 minute ago, alphamale said: did you give him your phone #? Sadly I did not. Wish I did. Might even go back and shoot my shot (but I'm not sure if he is interested (or even attracted) or was just being friendly)
LivingWaterPlease Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 Arm around the waist is a fairly intimate thing for a stranger to do. It does sound as if he at least found you pleasant and interesting. Why not go back and thank him for what he did for you? Take him a little flower in a little vase or something cheery and fun! It's possible that he wanted to know things about you that he asked so that he could gauge what type of person his restaurant appeals to. But, I think the former is more likely, that he found you pleasant, interesting, and attractive. 2
Author commercial_fox Posted March 3, 2020 Author Posted March 3, 2020 14 minutes ago, LivingWaterPlease said: Arm around the waist is a fairly intimate thing for a stranger to do. Aha thanks for the suggestions. I thought I was overthinking things but the waist thing I found unusual because only a boyfriend would do that. And when I came in with my friend it was icy as well and I asked her for help, she simply held my hand lightly and guided me. Meanwhile he had his hands around my waist really tightly (something a boyfriend would do) but I wasn't sure if thats normal to make sure someone doesn't fall but then again my friends who I ask to assist (when walking on ice) simply guide with their hand for a few second. So I would expect him to do that or he could have led me by holding my shoulders. The waist is very intimate place... 1
mortensorchid Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 I think he was just trying in that situation to be helpful to someone who might be in a potential health risk. You don't even know his name, do you? Perhaps return to the cafe and see if he's there again just to thank him for being so helpful. You may get some further feeling.
Author commercial_fox Posted March 3, 2020 Author Posted March 3, 2020 (edited) 5 minutes ago, mortensorchid said: who might be in a potential health risk That's what I thought too. But the thing that interests me was how he held me by my waist and the way it was done (idk may have even been sexually suggestive) because he could have held my hand (like how my friends do when they help me walk over ice including my friend who helped me walk in to that same cafe) or put his arms around my shoulders. Then again... IDK if thats a normal thing to do, especially when he held onto it really tight. I maybe reading it wrong and if it was just him being friendly/helpful I don't want to bother shooting my shot (if I know there won't be nothing there). I'm mainly interested in him because I have never met anyone so caring and nice. My own boyfriends from the past wouldn't even do this. Edited March 3, 2020 by commercial_fox
simpycurious Posted March 4, 2020 Posted March 4, 2020 On 3/3/2020 at 12:16 AM, commercial_fox said: That's what I thought too. But the thing that interests me was how he held me by my waist and the way it was done (idk may have even been sexually suggestive) because he could have held my hand (like how my friends do when they help me walk over ice including my friend who helped me walk in to that same cafe) or put his arms around my shoulders. Then again... IDK if thats a normal thing to do, especially when he held onto it really tight. I maybe reading it wrong and if it was just him being friendly/helpful I don't want to bother shooting my shot (if I know there won't be nothing there). I'm mainly interested in him because I have never met anyone so caring and nice. My own boyfriends from the past wouldn't even do this. You need to start dating some different guys I believe. If you are interested in him, I think you should at least try to connect and see what MIGHT BE.
Author commercial_fox Posted March 5, 2020 Author Posted March 5, 2020 2 hours ago, simpycurious said: I think you should at least try to connect and see what MIGHT BE Before I even attempt, I want to know if there's even a chance. I told my friend about it and she's down to go back there with me. But I don't want to bother taking chances if there is none and it was me simply over-analyzing. I'm surprised he didn't ask me for my number because I swear he would have (or any guy in this situation) but I should have gave him mine.
Juha Posted March 5, 2020 Posted March 5, 2020 If you do not take chances you will get nothing in return. Playing safe never gets you anywhere when it comes to dating... Go back, if he is there strike up a conversation, if it goes well, give him your number Do something out of the normal for you, never know what may happen You have nothing to lose! I wish you luck
Author commercial_fox Posted March 5, 2020 Author Posted March 5, 2020 10 hours ago, Juha said: Do something out of the normal for you, never know what may happen I was thinking of contacting the Instagram page of the place and asking for his name or some way to "thank him for saving my life". But to be honest tho, I have never met anyone so kind and caring. 1
Miss Spider Posted March 5, 2020 Posted March 5, 2020 (edited) If he owns the venue, you’ll probably see him in there again. Just go there with your friends a lot until you see him. Thank him and flirt Edited March 5, 2020 by Cookiesandough
d0nnivain Posted March 5, 2020 Posted March 5, 2020 It could go either way. You definitely need to go back there. When you see him thank him again for his kindness.
alphamale Posted March 5, 2020 Posted March 5, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: It could go either way. You definitely need to go back there. When you see him thank him again for his kindness. indeed, but next time you go make sure there is no snow or ice then ask him if he'll walk you to your car Edited March 5, 2020 by alphamale 1
simpycurious Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 I think you should reach out CF. What do you have to lose?
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