simpycurious Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 "Don't poop where you eat" that was a good analogy. The office romance thing rarely has a good ending
Author PassionatelyCurious Posted March 4, 2020 Author Posted March 4, 2020 Thanks again for all the feedback guys. As far as the people contacting her, she already knew a couple people from our workplace before starting here. The only one that got her number after she started was the guy who started at the same time as her. The weird thing is she had multiple opportunities to hang out with him, and he even tried to kiss her multiple times (prior to her and I dating) and she shot him down. She never even went on a single date with him. Meanwhile, her and I went out on our first date the very next day after we started talking and have spent every single night together since we first started talking outside of work. Based on the bigger picture, I don't feel I have anything to worry about. She claims she was interested in him at first, but then lost interest in him shortly after she started talking to him. The problem I have with that is that the flirting between them continued right up until her and I started dating. Considering she had multiple opportunities and she shot him down, seems like it was more so for attention than anything else. A little frustrating that she is that type of woman, but at least it stopped after her and I started dating. Another one never did have her number, but used to flirt with her at work. Seems he knows about us now and backed off. Another one she has known for years (she grew up in this area, so knows a lot of locals). But, seems like she is letting everyone know about us, so seems like the issue is resolving itself. I don't have much time to look through all this right now, but I do know someone else asked about my work status compared to the other guy. I am one of the top producers, but she didn't know that when we first started dating because she didn't know how to view the production numbers yet. It wasn't about work status - it was about a connection we had right from the start. But, that was a VERY good point for me to be aware of. I think things should be fine here. I just care a LOT about this woman already, and I know it's still very fresh. It's one thing to know someone at work; a whole different story dating. But, we literally sit right next to each other at work for 40hrs a week, so we had time to see there was chemistry long before we dated. Hence, why things are progressing so fast. But anyway, figured I'd give an update in case anyone else comes across this and is dealing with a similar situation. And again, I REALLY appreciate all the feedback. 1
Author PassionatelyCurious Posted March 4, 2020 Author Posted March 4, 2020 To add, I normally wouldn't date a co-worker. But, you don't have control over who you fall for. I've had an attraction to her since day one, and the more I talked to her and got to know her, the more interested I became. And this is coming from someone who hasn't dated in about eight months, that says a lot. It was a similar situation on her end as well. Despite her flirting with men before me, she wasn't actually dating anyone because she thought she wasn't ready. Then I came along and that changed. Same on my end. We knew exactly what we, and we are both VERY picky. As far as the six months, I completely get that. I know how good of an act people can put on initially. As far as the kids though, there isn't a choice there. She is a single mom with no father in the picture (he passed away years ago). As such, she has them 24/7 when not at work, so it is a package deal. Besides, any relationship can fall apart at ANY point. I spent 6.5yrs with my ex-wife, all to fall apart and be completely miserable with each other the last year of trying to make it work. I'd rather enjoy it while it lasts.
Author PassionatelyCurious Posted March 4, 2020 Author Posted March 4, 2020 On 3/3/2020 at 10:36 AM, Fletch Lives said: I'm going to give the woman a get out of jail free card here. Why? - because she's ignoring these men, she is trying to say "no" - but these guys are hammering her, all over her like white on rice! What's a poor woman to do? I get what you're saying here, but I don't see it as "hammering" when it bothers me that men keep pursuing her because she is making them believe she is single. But as stated previously, the discussion is fairly moot now since she has made it clear to all of them that she is taken. I get why she was a bit hesitant. At the same time, it doesn't excuse being dishonest, particularly to someone who made it clear to her right from the start that one of my biggest values when it comes to relationships is honesty. But anyway, I think we are going to be fine here. I certainly could be wrong, but at just over 40 yrs old, this is the best I've come across so far. She's far from perfect, but the chemistry is different. Not sure how to explain it.
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2020 Posted March 4, 2020 1 hour ago, Search4twinflame said: I get what you're saying here, but I don't see it as "hammering" when it bothers me that men keep pursuing her because she is making them believe she is single. Wait, what? At first you said you were upset because when she turns other men down when they make a pass at her she just says no without telling them she has a BF. Now you are saying that she leads them on somehow. That is a different kettle of fish. If she is actively soliciting male attention while dating you, that could be problematic. I thought the issue was simply that you wanted her to announce your relationship & she wasn't.
justwhoiam Posted March 5, 2020 Posted March 5, 2020 9 hours ago, Search4twinflame said: he even tried to kiss her multiple times (prior to her and I dating) and she shot him down Her word is all you have... I wouldn't buy anything she says uncritically though. Because you must admit, you caught her in a lie before. Quote someone ... asked about my work status compared to the other guy. I am one of the top producers, but she didn't know that when we first started dating because she didn't know how to view the production numbers yet. It wasn't about work status - it was about a connection we had right from the start. But, that was a VERY good point for me to be aware of. I'm so sorry I was right... After how long did you ask her out the first time? Or even, how long has she been working there? Don't be naif and think that she didn't know your position within the company when she accepted to go out with you.
Juha Posted March 5, 2020 Posted March 5, 2020 Your gf sounds like she loves attention and has some type of esteem issue as she needs attention from other men not her bf... I would tread lightly with this one, sounds immature and does not know how to behave in a real relationship... I wish you luck 1
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