max3732 Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 There are a few women I'm talking to online and I wanted my response to be perfect so I wrote it out in word and played around with it before copying and pasting it back into the OLD website. This morning I checked I sent it to the wrong woman. The one I sent it to I'm also having a nice conversation with, but my response made no sense and I wasn't ready to ask her out yet. When I saw that I panicked and sent something saying "Oops. So sorry those last 2 messages were meant for someone else". Now I feel like a dope just making things worse. Should I just leave it at that or say anything else?
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 You may have lost any chance with the other woman, but you did the right thing. I would imagine that she would have probably recognized that the message was peculiar and likely figured it wasn't for her. She also knows that you are communicating with other possibilities. She may take it with humor or no...what are you going to do? Focus on the lady you really want to be with.
Author max3732 Posted March 2, 2020 Author Posted March 2, 2020 3 hours ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: You may have lost any chance with the other woman, but you did the right thing. I would imagine that she would have probably recognized that the message was peculiar and likely figured it wasn't for her. She also knows that you are communicating with other possibilities. She may take it with humor or no...what are you going to do? Focus on the lady you really want to be with. Well I was thinking I should say something to one I sent the wrong message to saying that I'd like to go out with her too. If I had said just the last message was for someone else I could have said I sent her one asking her out and realized I sent the one message by mistake. I just feel like anything I say will just dig me in deeper into trouble. The one I asked out did agree so I'm happy about that! 1
Miss Spider Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Yeah I think it’s dunzo. It’s okay. Mistakes happen. There’s the rare chance she’ll laugh it off, but more likely this was fatal. Congrats on getting a date with the one! 1
Erik30 Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 4 hours ago, max3732 said: Now I feel like a dope just making things worse. Should I just leave it at that or say anything else? Just leave it, you already apologized. If she reaches out, you can probably tell by her reaction if she's still interested... But there's a pretty big chance that she's done, most people don't like to hear about other dates. (even though they know it's probably happening) This mistake might make her feel like a backup, not your first choice 1
Foxhall Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 you could use it as an icebreaker to talk about previous dating adventures youve had and enquire about hers??
ExpatInItaly Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 I doubt she will be interested in seeing you after this, OP. Sorry.
Andy_K Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 Made a similar but smaller mistake once. Referred to a girl having a job that a different one had. It was pretty obvious, but I just ignored the error and continued as normal. We ended up dating for a while. She later revealed she had guessed what was up at the time, but was willing to let it pass. The point is, people make mistakes. Most will forgive a simple oversight. If you accept it and move on, you're much less likely to screw up your chances than if you engage in frantic backpedaling and hole digging.
Author max3732 Posted March 3, 2020 Author Posted March 3, 2020 1 hour ago, Andy_K said: Made a similar but smaller mistake once. Referred to a girl having a job that a different one had. It was pretty obvious, but I just ignored the error and continued as normal. We ended up dating for a while. She later revealed she had guessed what was up at the time, but was willing to let it pass. The point is, people make mistakes. Most will forgive a simple oversight. If you accept it and move on, you're much less likely to screw up your chances than if you engage in frantic backpedaling and hole digging. So I should just pretend it didn't happen and try to continue the conversation we were having before? 1
Miss Spider Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Andy_K said: Made a similar but smaller mistake once. Referred to a girl having a job that a different one had. It was pretty obvious, but I just ignored the error and continued as normal. We ended up dating for a while. She later revealed she had guessed what was up at the time, but was willing to let it pass. The point is, people make mistakes. Most will forgive a simple oversight. If you accept it and move on, you're much less likely to screw up your chances than if you engage in frantic backpedaling and hole digging. This is the best strategy for next time. Deny/Ignore/move on. Never acknowledge it. Though some gaffes are too big to even apply this successfully and yours was probably one. Still. Pretend it didn’t happen. Edited March 3, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Silver_star Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 haha. I got a message once that was clearly not intended for me, and the guy tried to back track and lie about autocorrect...and I just got annoyed at the lies. Damage is already done. I think that most women would like to feel that they are the best/favorite of the girls you are pursuing so getting that message intended for someone else probably made her feel some negative emotions angry/annoyed/rejected. You can't fix it. You are better off just leaving her alone now, and go on the date with the other girl Lessons learnt in being careful before you press send.
Miss Spider Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 (edited) I had a guy basically copy and paste the same message to me that he was crop spraying everyone else with. I know that because he accidentally copied and pasted the text of his whole OkCupid inbox to me. Like entire conversations starting with the copy/pasted message. xD I went “hahaha” and he unmatched me. Shame... I might have gone out with him because that mistake was so cringe and funny it deserves celebration. Edited March 3, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 1
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