Ruby Slippers Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 He sounds very weird, at best like an overgrown teenager, at worst some major issues.
Author Liesel Posted March 2, 2020 Author Posted March 2, 2020 Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your input. Ever since I met him, I felt that he was rather eccentric, which I don't mind. But it's the bragging that makes me second guess everything. We've only been dating for four months, but as it's been so intense, it feels longer. I've been making lots of excuses about his behaviour, thinking he was insecure because he's older than me or something like that. I was hoping that with enough reassurance from me, he would gradually stop showing off. But it seems to be ingrained in his personality. He always gets into contact with new people when he's out and about and he seems quick to add them on WhatsApp. It's like he needs the constant attention. Yes, if he bragged like he does to me if he were to meet my family and friends, I would be very embarrassed. I know walking away is the right thing, but he's not making it easy. But I lost the faith that he's able to change.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Yes totally self absorbed! The whole ex/romantic interest thing is him trying to show how in demand he is. The whole selfie thing also shows how much he thinks of himself. I went out with a guy like that for a few dates. I did find it weird that he had tons of selfies on his facebook. His egotistical side showed when he spoke to me. Everything was about him. I started telling a story, he turned it around and made the conversation about himself. Avoid like the plague cause people like that will play you. They will use you and then dump you. 1
Watercolors Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 1 hour ago, Liesel said: I know walking away is the right thing, but he's not making it easy. But I lost the faith that he's able to change. How is he not making it easy to leave this 4-month relationship? Future talk with you? (Fyi: future talk is a tool that controlling men use to emotionally hook women early on in the relationship) Make a list of pros and cons and then decide if the cons outweigh the pros. If he constantly needs attention when you two are out on dates, that would be a definite "con" b/c his attention isn't on you. I dated a few men like that for short periods b/c I got sick of being in the background of their foreground. Never date a man who treats you like an option when you're out on dates with him. 1 hour ago, I'veseenbetterlol said: Avoid like the plague cause people like that will play you. They will use you and then dump you. Agree ^^!! These men's m.o. is "use and lose" because they are emotional vampires who are toxic for the way they drain people's empathy and energy. Your boyfriend sounds like a major emotional vampire, the way he needs constant attention.
Backinthesaddleagain Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 Do you watch infomercials? This guy is trying to sell himself to you, even after you bought the product! What an asshat. You already spent your 19.99 and only now realize what a piece of trash he is. We shall refer to him henceforth as slapchop, king of tools.
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