ls7878 Posted February 29, 2020 Posted February 29, 2020 I likes this guy for a very long time. I can feel the chemistry between us but I am not sure if he is just looking for casual sex. He always flirt with girls... most of time he makes me feel I am special. all his girls know about me and they feel jealous about me; I am quite shy and conservative about sex and I have scars from my childhood accident. I almost died in the accident and it left lots of noticeable scars on my body. But from outside, I am quite pretty and attractive. Recently I began to wonder if there is anything real between us, I want to give it a chance. I do not know if I should tell him about the scars just in case he is only looking for casual sex. On the other hand, I am also afraid he will hurt my feeling. He flirts with lots of girls it is a big flag... but somehow I would want a try.. I think I am a serious person and look for a long term relationship. at the beginning although I likes him, i do not think we suit each other very well. Most of time I refuse to date with people because of my scars... somehow after so many years, he makes me change my mind... I began to be more interested in him and he shows more interests to me as well. but still I am not sure his interest is sex or something... or maybe normally it will be known after we really together... Any advice would be greatly appreciated! maybe I lost my mind...
preraph Posted February 29, 2020 Posted February 29, 2020 Well, with men who flirt, and this one seems to have women lined up, there's certainly no guarantee you are someone he likes or just someone he wants to conquer like the others. The fact you haven't thrown yourself at him may have intrigued him, but it could still just be him liking a challenge to get you to have sex. It doesn't sound like he's asked you on a date though. So what would you do about that? He needs to ask you out if he's interested and it doesn't sound like he's shy or anything, so why do you think he hasn't? How many and how long are the scars? Lots of people have scars. Where are yours at and give us an idea how severe they are, please. Some people are sqeamish about scars and some people are not. I've had a scar on my boob since I was 21 and had a tumor removed and it hasn't seemed to run anyone off. But it's just the one, I realize. 1
Author ls7878 Posted February 29, 2020 Author Posted February 29, 2020 I think you are right! If there is something real, he would ask me out for a date long time ago.... why wait for so long and keep flirting with others.... most of time he does not say things directly. I guess it is how he works this out... maybe he just adores every woman he met and just enjoy the moments and nothing really serious. maybe he just goes with feelings. and he enjoy to adore all the women he met and make each of them feel they have his attention. that's how he social with females. I do not know. I just see every of them fall for him. And yes, because I have scars I refuse all the men which makes him feel I am a challenge for him somehow....
preraph Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 I understand. You know just be nice and friendly and smiley with the guys you like or think you might like. You know I found out a guy I was in love with had a big scar running up his leg and he didn't tell me about it for a long time. It just didn't bother me at all. But there will be a few people who just can't handle it but surely they'll at least be polite about it. there are people who can't handle someone with a big nose or small boobs or flat butt, so it's always something!
JTSW Posted March 4, 2020 Posted March 4, 2020 This isn't the guy for you. If he genuinely cared he wouldn't flirt with anyone else.
LuckyM Posted March 7, 2020 Posted March 7, 2020 Well, you could talk about the body, in general. About stretch marks (like scars), blemishes, and tell him you know this girl with a few scars from surgery or an accident. Make up a story. Use psychology. Say her boyfriend was turned off to this, or did not care about this. And how would he feel? Say perhaps that you are unsure whether you would be okay with it.. (If you say that scars do not bother you, then he will probably just agree.) You will find out in a roundabout way. If I really really liked a woman, I would not care, unless the scars were so severe and ugly. Tattoos are a turnoff for me. I'd rather see scars than that. I have scars, myself. And I am stuck with them for life.
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