Interstellar Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 you know 50% is less than minimum lol, gotta be at least 51%, i think your interest in him is 40-49% 1 1
NuevoYorko Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 5 hours ago, simpycurious said: She didn't do anything remotely wrong. What she did, in her own words: "I got busy and was talking to someone else and I kind of ghosted him." Not necessarily wrong. When dating around, definitely no strings attached. She was more interested in someone else. Fair. It's the ensuing part that gets confusing and frankly quite disingenuous. Advice to dating people: If you aren't interested in someone, you ARE interested in someone else, you "kind of ghost" on the first someone - probably just follow your original gut instinct and stick with the ghosting. 1
Blind-Sided Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 On 2/26/2020 at 3:44 PM, mortensorchid said: SHow me one person who hasn't been ghosted anymore. .............. ME!!!!!! It's rude as hell, and childish. Even when I was young... I didn't play that game. Just open your mouth and say... "I don't think it's going to work out" or "I'm not interested in a GF right now." How hard is it? 3 2
introverted1 Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 13 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: Okay fine let’s just say I did ghost. I admitted it and took responsibility for it. I asked if there can be recovery when a person feels ghosted, People did not say “leave it alone”. Um... some people said exactly that. On 2/26/2020 at 3:35 PM, introverted1 said: I'd call this one done. Yeah, you can probably see him him again, but he's on the fence between angry and interested -- he knows he's an also-ran but is hoping against hope it'll turn around -- and you're just bored and already know he's not going to light your fire. Why prolong the inevitable? I feel sorry for these guys who get strung along and then dumped. But I also feel sorry for you, C&D. When I read the advice you give to others, it is pretty caring and sensitive. So whatever is causing you to behave in an uncaring and insensitive way is stemming from something deep inside you. Have you ever considered therapy? I mean no offense and hope none is taken. It just seems really clear that you are struggling on some level. 3 3
simpycurious Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 3 hours ago, introverted1 said: Um... some people said exactly that. I feel sorry for these guys who get strung along and then dumped. But I also feel sorry for you, C&D. When I read the advice you give to others, it is pretty caring and sensitive. So whatever is causing you to behave in an uncaring and insensitive way is stemming from something deep inside you. Have you ever considered therapy? I mean no offense and hope none is taken. It just seems really clear that you are struggling on some level. Therapy??? That is quite a stretch. She is no different than most of us trying to navigate our way through life. She doesn't have all the answers but neither do most of us. I have read nothing that makes her seem uncaring or insensitive. Confused at times, yes but not uncaring. 1
Author Miss Spider Posted March 2, 2020 Author Posted March 2, 2020 Thank you so much, guys. I don’t think I need therapy. Overall, I am super content with life. Just struggle a lot with some of the dating situations I find myself in lately
Ruby Slippers Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 (edited) I agree that it sounds like you were bored / in between men and just trying to kill time with this guy you're not really into. It's careless and irresponsible to do that. That's the kind of thing that sours people to dating and romance. Edited March 2, 2020 by Ruby Slippers 2
Watercolors Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 C&D, My Fair Lady...I think you need a few dating sessions with Professor Higgins on the fine art of dating. Or, from this professional (former) ghoster. In order: 0:54 The "Busy" Ghost 3:29 The "Attention-soaking" half-Ghost 5:27 The "Guilt-ridden" Ghost 6:17 The "PTSD" Ghost 8:13 "Reverse Ghosting" 10:32 The Narcissistic Ghost 11:18 The introverted Ghost 12:37 The Tactical Ghost 1
FMW Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 Cookiesandough, the impression I get from your posts is that you date mostly for attention and because you have nothing (or no one) better to do at the moment. Wanting attention is normal, most of us miss that when we don't have a significant other. But why don't you try just going out with your girlfriends and enjoy flirting and getting attention from the guys you run into while you're out? Don't agree to go out with someone or hang out with them one on one unless something about them really sparks your interest. You continue to repeat similar experiences, according to your posts. You keep "finding yourself" in these situations. So maybe consider that they are a result of what you are doing. That regardless of your intent, you're kind of using these guys just for your amusement and they (naturally) don't react well to it. I don't think you need therapy, I think you just need to be less impulsive and more self-aware and mindful of how you treat men. 2
Interstellar Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 (edited) These are truly complicated times we’re living in. I mean, we have 8 different types of ghosts now? Back then we only have Casper the friendly ghost. Edited March 3, 2020 by Interstellar 1
Author Miss Spider Posted March 3, 2020 Author Posted March 3, 2020 (edited) FMW I don’t fee like I want attention , I don’t normally like attention and very shy when I am out. I think I really would like to find someone I connect with and feel a spark with, but okay just hanging out and having fun with people who I like in the interim. I did want to give this a shot, but upon reflection, his personality kind of irritates me. Thank you for your insight . Thank you everyone Thanks, watercolors. I will watch that, sis. Edited March 3, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
Watercolors Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 36 minutes ago, Interstellar said: These are truly complicated times we’re living in. I mean, we have 8 different types of ghosts now? Back then we only have Casper the friendly ghost. I miss those days!
Watercolors Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 1 hour ago, FMW said: I don't think you need therapy, I think you just need to be less impulsive and more self-aware and mindful of how you treat men. B-I-N-G-O! 1
Watercolors Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 35 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Thanks, watercolors. I will watch that, sis. No problems dear! We all just want the best for you. I like FMW's advice to you to try and be less impulsive. You can still have fun out with your gals, but just slow down and be more selective and more mindful of how you communicate with these men. 1
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