Why does this make me so angry?

[JTSW]

12 hours ago, somewhatperplexed said:

I'm also older than my partner, some might say by a significant margin.

So she has a thing for much older guys.

How significant is the age gap?

[somewhatperplexed]

6 minutes ago, JTSW said:

So she has a thing for much older guys.

How significant is the age gap?

Yes she does. Between us? Closer to 10 than 5 years.

[JTSW]

52 minutes ago, somewhatperplexed said:

Yes she does. Between us? Closer to 10 than 5 years.

And she still continues to hang around that other older man.

[somewhatperplexed]

22 minutes ago, JTSW said:

And she still continues to hang around that other older man.

She doesn't hang around him, I think I explained this. They are in touch on occasion, but haven't seen each other bar in the hallways at her old job.

Edited February 26, 2020 by somewhatperplexed

[somewhatperplexed]

1 hour ago, JTSW said:

And she still continues to hang around that other older man.

Loved how you bundled me together with him regarding our age, though  

[schlumpy]

Put the age thing aside. She likes and possibly seeks out older men for relationships. You are available and she is available. What is keeping you from locking her down? 

[somewhatperplexed]

14 minutes ago, schlumpy said:

Put the age thing aside. She likes and possibly seeks out older men for relationships. You are available and she is available. What is keeping you from locking her down? 

I don't think I understood what you're asking, would you mind explaining? 

[JTSW]

Just now, somewhatperplexed said:

I don't think I understood what you're asking, would you mind explaining? 

He means, whats stopping you from marrying her?

[somewhatperplexed]

Nothing. Who said I had no intention of doing so? 

[scotchnstout]

Honestly stop blaming this dude for your girl's choices, not sure if your over this yet, but my two cents going forward would be to have a little jealousy, and have a boundary or two where your SO is concerned.

[stillafool]

On 2/26/2020 at 7:26 AM, somewhatperplexed said:

Loved how you bundled me together with him regarding our age, though  

How much older is he than you?  She has a pattern of going for older men so I don't know why you are blaming this other older guy when this is what she wanted.  How many other older men has she been with even before him.  I would drop all questions and ideas about her if you want to have a peaceful relationship with her.  You don't want to open that closet that is full of skeletons.