Author ValGirl2020 Posted February 22, 2020 Author Posted February 22, 2020 3 hours ago, preraph said: People can be so disappointing sometimes. You want to think the best of them, but they just fizzle. Guess who messaged about 3 hours ago. He slightly apologized and said his shift changed to mornings (guess that’s his excuse for not meeting or replying to coffee) LIES. And is now asking “how are you”....you know I was Angry earlier then just let it go. Since I really didn’t have high expectations for this even if it had happened but now..... He’s obviously playing games..but the thing is I dont Care since it’s not serious? Am I dumb replying something blunt and brushing it off to keep the door opened? I just Got out of a 5 yr relationship and this guy looks like perfect rebound material. That’s why I wanted it to work...cause it’s not nothing serious. Am I making sense?
preraph Posted February 22, 2020 Posted February 22, 2020 No. He could have let you know his shift changed if and when his shift changed. You know he's jacking you around. You have to be careful because sometimes you fall for guys you know you shouldn't. What if you accidentally got pregnant by this guy? Then you'd be stuck with his lies and omissions for the rest of your life? Don't waste time with him. Tell him you met someone or something. Then go meet someone! 1
Author ValGirl2020 Posted February 22, 2020 Author Posted February 22, 2020 35 minutes ago, preraph said: No. He could have let you know his shift changed if and when his shift changed. You know he's jacking you around. You have to be careful because sometimes you fall for guys you know you shouldn't. What if you accidentally got pregnant by this guy? Then you'd be stuck with his lies and omissions for the rest of your life? Don't waste time with him. Tell him you met someone or something. Then go meet someone! Agree! Now that time has passed I’m pretty over it. About to head out to Mardi Gras (it’s huge here!) so I estimate by tonight I’ll forget about his ass. lol
contel3 Posted February 23, 2020 Posted February 23, 2020 (edited) my piece of advice: If you have to write a whole post about a casual situation, don't bother. It should feel natural, the logistics like asking to confirm should be easy and its not an excuse to be flakey or disrespectful. I'm probably going to offend some people, but finding something casual is a lot easier for women. If this is truly what you want you have much more power in negotiating the terms of the arrangement than you think. Edited February 23, 2020 by contel3
Author ValGirl2020 Posted February 23, 2020 Author Posted February 23, 2020 31 minutes ago, contel3 said: my piece of advice: If you have to write a whole post about a casual situation, don't bother. It should feel natural, the logistics like asking to confirm should be easy and its not an excuse to be flakey or disrespectful. I'm probably going to offend some people, but finding something casual is a lot easier for women. If this is truly what you want you have much more power in negotiating the terms of the arrangement than you think. Well he ended up flaking on me by not opening my message and then replying 4 hours after our “coffee date” saying he changed shifts. Lame excuse. I replied With a light no worries, been busy etc and left it at that. I’m pretty unbothered by it today though. It was more of a bruised woman's ego yesterday’s honestly and not getting what I wanted made me pout. But pretty over it today.
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