NIN Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Ok, I'm not sure what to do about this situation, so please let me know if you have any advice that might help. There's this girl that I've known for about 9 years now. Well, about 5 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend and was calling me for support. We hung out for a few weeks, and the last time we hung out we had a pretty deep conversation that ended up getting kind of physical. Well, we talked a couple times after that, but she just kind of blew me off. She would invite me to hang out with her and her ex. No thanks. Now, 4 months later, she calls me out of the blue because she wants me to go with her to see her friend's band play. I told her I would go, but then I find out from her that she's been seeing one of the guys in the band. So, I'm wondering 2 things. First, what her motives might be for inviting me. And second, what I should do. On the one hand I'm extremely atracted to her and I'm hoping she wants to start dating. On the other hand I'm worried that she's into this other guy, and don't see the point in going with her to watch his band play. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Pyro Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Just my opinion here, but from what it sounds like, what happened physically between you two, she regreted. She doesn't want to get involved with you that way, but she is too afraid to tell you this. So instead, she is trying to make-up for it, by trying to be a good friend, which is why she is inviting you to do things with her and her "male interest". if she wanted to be serious with you, she would suggest doing things with you and only you. Surprise her. Go up to her and just straight up ask her what she thought about that night when you and her got physical. Hope that I was able to help you out.
AndrewJ Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 yes i agree hir her up! otherwise ur mind will be revving at 1000 revs/second. I went through the same situation with a girl but she kept inviting me to her lil outings, I never told her how i felt about her maybee she was just craving that? I don't communicate with that paticular girl anymore cause it did my head in. Gotta love women:p
Pyro Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Gotta love women:p They sure do know how to keep us guessing and wondering. Keeps life interesting.
hooghie Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 here's what I think happened- you guys were good friends- she was lonely, you were there and something happened, but she really doesn't want that type of relationship with you. Yet, she still wants to be friends and wants to let you down easily so she invited you to something where you would find out she is seeing someone and she can still hang with you. just my opinion.
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