mortensorchid Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 So tonight I had an internet date with this guy I met on Tinder. He was 10 years younger than me. I made sure to make this clear, I don't look or act my age. He said that was fine with him. Verdict? He seemed respectable, preppy guy but not mainstream. Potentially good guy based on what he said about himself. He writes poems and he sent a few to me in our chats on Tinder. We parted ways and he didn't walk me to my car but I got a hug and he said to text him when I get home. I went to Chipotle for a burrito because I was starving, changed into my pjs and texted I was home. He said he had a good time and hoped we would see each other again. I said I hope as well. Potentially good. Feel good about myself rather than depressed and frustrated. 2 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 3 minutes ago, mortensorchid said: Potentially good. Feel good about myself rather than depressed and frustrated. Yay! I like this post from you :). What did you do on your date? I guess not eat food since you were so hungry. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted February 21, 2020 Author Posted February 21, 2020 Just now, CautiouslyOptimistic said: Yay! I like this post from you :). What did you do on your date? I guess not eat food since you were so hungry. Just had drinks. 1
OnlyHonesty Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 It doesn't sound like you were attracted to him.
Ami1uwant Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 So he was old enough for drinks? 10 yrdifference May or May not be an isdue. It depends on where in life you both are.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 4 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: So he was old enough for drinks? 10 yrdifference May or May not be an isdue. It depends on where in life you both are. MO is 45. I'd say her date was plenty old for drinks ;). 1
Gaeta Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 It's excellent. He was nice, you had a good time, so there is no reason to not explore a 2nd date. Attraction and chemistry can show up on later dates, for now just confirm you have the basic to keep going on dates. 3 1
Fletch Lives Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 No Kiss? I like to hear juicy date stories. I've been jipped! Keep us updated if you guys schedule the second date please.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 23, 2020 Author Posted February 23, 2020 It is now Saturday night. I haven't heard from him since the evening on Thursday. I put things on hold because we had the get together on Thursday and he most likely had plans for the weekend. I will update if I hear from him again.
Gaeta Posted February 23, 2020 Posted February 23, 2020 When I was dating I was flattered to be hit on by younger men and I let myself beleive that maybe a real relationship could come out of it....it never did. This guy knows he needs to keep up communication and set a second date. I wouldn't hold my breath with him. Continue searching. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted February 24, 2020 Author Posted February 24, 2020 9 hours ago, Gaeta said: When I was dating I was flattered to be hit on by younger men and I let myself beleive that maybe a real relationship could come out of it....it never did. This guy knows he needs to keep up communication and set a second date. I wouldn't hold my breath with him. Continue searching. I agree at this point. I'm going to move on from him because he could have reached out by now and ... He hasn't. 2
alphamale Posted February 24, 2020 Posted February 24, 2020 oh well, easy come, easy go mortensorchid 1
IntBrowser Posted February 24, 2020 Posted February 24, 2020 On 2/20/2020 at 9:54 PM, mortensorchid said: So tonight I had an internet date with this guy I met on Tinder. He was 10 years younger than me. I made sure to make this clear, I don't look or act my age. He said that was fine with him. Verdict? He seemed respectable, preppy guy but not mainstream. Potentially good guy based on what he said about himself. He writes poems and he sent a few to me in our chats on Tinder. We parted ways and he didn't walk me to my car but I got a hug and he said to text him when I get home. I went to Chipotle for a burrito because I was starving, changed into my pjs and texted I was home. He said he had a good time and hoped we would see each other again. I said I hope as well. Potentially good. Feel good about myself rather than depressed and frustrated. sounds similar to my date from the 15th of February lol
Blind-Sided Posted February 24, 2020 Posted February 24, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, mortensorchid said: I agree at this point. I'm going to move on from him because he could have reached out by now and ... He hasn't. MO.... STOP THAT !!!!!!!! I don't know why you feel that you need to be contacted after a first date. I can tell you , I have gone out with a few people now... and I don't reach out all the time since I have kids, and I can't go out on a moments notice. Realistically... I can go out every-other weekend, and if things get busy... I may not be able to do that. Just recently, the ex got the flu, and I wasn't sending my kids to be with her... so I had to stay home. The problem is... you write them off quick, and then you start to feel depressed. So seriously... stop. Next... you already said he had plans for the weekend. Then why would he contact you now? Before sending yourself into a depression... at least wait until this coming weekend... and then why don't you reach out on Thursday, and ask why he is up to??? I really don't want to sound harsh, but I've read so many of your posts, and I want you to be happy. Edited February 24, 2020 by Blind-Sided 1
Gaeta Posted February 24, 2020 Posted February 24, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Blind-Sided said: I don't know why you feel that you need to be contacted after a first date. Because people with interest show their interest. Morten has wasted her time 'too many times' with men who were not truly interested in her but more into killing their time in her company. She needs to nip this at the beginning. This guy isn't the President, and even then....apparently EVEN Presidents have plenty of time to tweet so, I don't see what this guy is doing that keeps him from setting a second date for middle of the week or next weekend. Edited February 24, 2020 by Gaeta 2
Ruby Slippers Posted February 24, 2020 Posted February 24, 2020 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: Because people with interest show their interest. Morten has wasted her time 'too many times' with men who were not truly interested in her but more into killing their time in her company. She needs to nip this at the beginning. Amen. Enjoy the nice date for what it was, and if he doesn't clearly show his interest, keep it moving and keep having a good time.
Author mortensorchid Posted February 24, 2020 Author Posted February 24, 2020 14 hours ago, alphamale said: oh well, easy come, easy go mortensorchid Yes, to be sure. Especially in the OLD world. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted February 26, 2020 Author Posted February 26, 2020 One must believe in the 48 hour rule : if you ha e not heard from him within 48 hours of the first meeting, you will not hear from him again. He might call or text you a few days / weeks later, you might even have a 2nd get together with him, but he doesn't really care if you say yes or no. And that 2nd time will be the last time you will see him or hear from him. Example? One in the recent past and I met up at a Panera near my house. Not only was he getting himself coffee at the dispenser when I walked in but he didn't bother to buy one for me. He didn't contact me for over a week, we had a 2jd get together (my decision where to go and what to do) and ... he didn't walk me to my car and never heard a word from him again. 1
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