celtic Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 This is the deal - I recently had a talk with my girlfriend and broke things off for the most part. She still lives with me and we are talking as friends. I recently met a girl from the Phillipines on a trip and we hit it off! She has an opportunity to come visit me on OCT 15th or I wont see her for another 6 months. The problem is that my ex is still living with me and I would have to rent the girl from the Phillipines a hotel or rental house and visit her there. I dont want to be gone from my house all the time because 1. I am afraid my ex might get upset one day and do damage and 2. I dont want to hurt my ex's feelings. I am sure when I am gone days at a time, she will figure out whats going on. So what do I do!! I want to see this girl from the Phillipines because this is my only opportunity because of visa issues but the living situation sucks. Can anyone help me!!!
johan Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 This is what you call a dilemma. By definition, there is no easy answer. Maybe your ex won't do anything. Maybe she doesn't care. Maybe you should find out.
Author celtic Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 This is the deal in terms of the EX. I dont really want the EX to find out because I dont want to completely close the door - and the door is still open. I want to spend time with this other girl to figure out which woman is the right one. If I spend time with the one from overseas and miss my ex, I know I should be with my EX. If I spend time with the her and I dont miss my ex, I know I should be with her. Scott
johan Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Dilemma. Although I wouldn't say you're going to really "know" anything just by spending time with the other woman. I don't buy into the theory that spending time with woman number 2 is going to reveal much about your feelings for woman number 1. I think infatuation and the "new" feeling will cloud your judgment. You should probably evaluate your feelings for your ex on their own merit. Also (this is often overlooked in situations like this) they both have feelings you might take into account.
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