Katie357 Posted February 20, 2020 Posted February 20, 2020 Hi, Any words of wisdom would be very helpful right now.. My story in the short hand.. We were together 15 yrs, got married in 2018 and split 4 months later. Fast forward 14 months and mental health the reason my partner left me, decided to admit he needed help and so he did, as well as us deciding to give it another go. It was going good but I have been hit with a delayed reaction of what he got up to in the 14 month and struggling with the thoughts of it. We had the awkward chat of what each other did whilst apart as we felt the need to lay everything out but now I'm struggling with it.. as it wasnt just one or two.. I'm not saying I did nothing as that would be a lie so get completely that I am being a hypocrite and irrational here but why is it getting to me now?! Any thoughts would be great.
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted February 20, 2020 Posted February 20, 2020 Maybe some part of you realizes the only reason he came back was because nothing panned out with any of the other women.
Youngbess Posted March 15, 2020 Posted March 15, 2020 It's completely normal to have that reaction, even with a delay. It's not pleasant to know that someone that we love has been intimate with somebody else. But...I would say, give it some time? You may find that this is the kind of thing that burns today, and a little less tomorrow, and then 2 weeks from now it's just a distant memory. You MAY be able to get over it. So don't make any rush decisions yet...?
JTSW Posted March 19, 2020 Posted March 19, 2020 You weren't together so what either of you did doesn't matter. There isn't anything you can do about it now.
Recommended Posts