GentleBlueEyes Posted February 18, 2020 Share Posted February 18, 2020 I've just been thinking. A friend of mine sometimes says silly jokes for a laugh. But I'm British & I don't quite "get" if you would American humour. I *do* smile & when the conversation is amusing it's apparent in tone change. But his jokes just won't get me to laugh. I'm just wondering if that sort of response would be a turn off. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 I don't really like a jokester. I think it's awkward. I don't like feeling obligated that way. I much prefer wit. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 (edited) Probably. It’s a sign you don’t share the same sense of humor, which is something a lot of people look for. Edited February 19, 2020 by Cookiesandough 5 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 women who like me generally will laugh at my jokes no matter how lame they are 1 Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 I like sarcastic wit. Not really a jokester though. Because then I’m expected to laugh and I don’t like having to act like it’s funny if it’s not or to have any expectations put upon me. .. or to even have to pay attention, to be honest. But sarcastic biting wit is the greatest. A guy that has this quality is automatically 100x hotter. Or a woman really. Same applies. Yes, if I thought I was being funny and he didn’t laugh, I’d be turned off. 😁 And quite offended. If it happened once, I’d figure I better get funnier. If it happened twice, I’d figure he was a just a wet blanket. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 A sense of humor is important 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 My brother in law tells the worst jokes. Too much innuendo. Total conversation stoppers. The whole table will groan including his wife. He loves his wife anyway. And she accepts his terrible jokes because he's otherwise a very good man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rjc149 Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 Depends on the jokes. Depends on if you're male or female. I'll assume you're a male, as there is little societal expectation for women to be humorous on dates. No one likes to go on a date with a try-hard clown. Telling stupid jokes or acting in a certain way to illicit laughs, basically placing uncomfortable expectations on your date and needing her approval. Women find this repulsive. Witty, teasing, playful humor is always a plus. Sometimes at her expense, sometimes at yours. If you must be sarcastic, make it very obviously playful and silly. Otherwise you'll come off as negative and passive aggressive. Not fun to be around. Note: an attractive woman will do what's called a "sh-t test" to test your confidence. If she isn't digging your humor, doesn't even crack a smile or looks offended, keep smiling, shrug it off, and keep being yourself. DO NOT apologize or say "just kidding" to supplicate and gain her approval. Remember the rhyme: "if you fear her reaction, you will kill her attraction." Once she sees you don't require her approval to feel comfortable, and that you have inner confidence in yourself, her attraction for you will go up. However, one tiny little off-colored comment or socially uncalibrated joke can summarily execute her attraction for you. Be careful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 I would think it'd be him who should be worrying about turning you off. Guys who make lame jokes and expect you to laugh all the time can be awkward, and then just plain irritating. I think it's important to have the same sense of humour as a partner because otherwise you can't share all the little in-jokes that come with intimacy. I have a sarcastic and black sense of humour, and I hate it when I say something really tasteless as a joke, (in private out of earshot of other people), and someone gets all uppity and pc because they think I'm serious - it just makes me think they're a bit thick, and a bit boring because they take themselves and life too seriously. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GentleBlueEyes Posted February 19, 2020 Author Share Posted February 19, 2020 7 hours ago, enigma32 said: I assume that any woman who does not like my jokes probably has no soul and therefore I should not date her. I may instead splash holy water in her face and beat her in the head with a crucifix. Ah, American humour. To Europeans it's not even remotely close to funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 do you give any response? OK, not every joke is funny... and the response to a bad joke should still acknowledge it was a joke. I like the throw out the crude response to things... or twist what is being talked about for a little shock factor. But, if the goop looks at me, and groans... then I take ownership of that bad joke, and in turn... becomes part of the joke. But if your response looks irritated, or upset... then the other person may take it the wrong way. Since we are talking a difference in cultural joking... then maybe when it's quiet, tell him that you really don't understand, and that you aren't mad... and hope he understands. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 Joking can be a nervous reaction but after a couple of no applause one liners you would think they would quit. The person I find somewhat irritating is the one that laughs at their own jokes. In the scheme of human relations this one is a .5 out of 10 in importance. As K. K. indicated I like sarcastic humor which takes some skill to pull off and then there is coffee club humor which I practiced before work every workday morning with my co workers. That was a lot of fun. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 If somebody didn't laugh at the majority of my jokes I would conclude we don't share the same sense of humor. A dating situation would end shortly thereafter. A friendship would be put on a less intimate footing, meaning the person who wasn't laughing is not somebody I'd spend a great deal of time with. Rather that person would be somebody I only saw in groups. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 I don't like a whole lot of sexual innuendo from someone I barely know ( or most people I do unless it's really clever ) or a lot of trying to get responses out of me instead of just letting things flow, so a nervous joker would be irritating. But if I really like someone I'll easily tolerate their foibles as they do mine. Eventually we'll totally 'get' each other and know what really amuses each other. Funny thing about the difference between British and American humour: when I first emigrated The Office was popular in England and we laughed at it, came to America and the US version seemed so 'slapstick' somehow in comparison; fast forward twenty years of watching the US version and guess what- the British version now seems bleak and a bit too edgy in comparison, 'cringey'! Humour is a social construct 🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 I am French Canadian and my bf is from France. We both speak French but it's exactly like American English vs British English. I'd say 25% of our vocabulary differs. If he makes a joke with France slang I won't get it and vice versa. After 5 years living in Montreal he's getting most of our local slang now and he enjoys mocking our accent and we mock his. Obviously our difference in language didn't affect our relationship I'd even say it enhanced it. If I don't understand his jokes I tell him right away, I don't pretend I understand. I LOVE British humor and I am addicted to your investigative series! no one else does it like you do! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 32 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I LOVE British humor... did you ever watch a show called Coupling? it was about singles in england 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GentleBlueEyes Posted February 19, 2020 Author Share Posted February 19, 2020 4 hours ago, Ellener said: Funny thing about the difference between British and American humour: when I first emigrated The Office was popular in England and we laughed at it, came to America and the US version seemed so 'slapstick' somehow in comparison; fast forward twenty years of watching the US version and guess what- the British version now seems bleak and a bit too edgy in comparison, 'cringey'! Humour is a social construct 🤣 No offense never watched The Office as it seemed dull & boring by the first episode. Now something like Rocky Horror Picture Show or Monty Python or A Fish Called Wanda or tv series along that line, sure. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 5 hours ago, Ellener said: Funny thing about the difference between British and American humour: when I first emigrated The Office was popular in England and we laughed at it, came to America and the US version seemed so 'slapstick' somehow in comparison; fast forward twenty years of watching the US version and guess what- the British version now seems bleak and a bit too edgy in comparison, 'cringey'! I'm wondering how The Full Monty and Ab Fab were received by US audiences. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted February 19, 2020 Share Posted February 19, 2020 3 hours ago, GentleBlueEyes said: No offense never watched The Office as it seemed dull & boring by the first episode. Now something like Rocky Horror Picture Show or Monty Python or A Fish Called Wanda or tv series along that line, sure. No offense taken, you just have a different sense of humour then, the jokes are subtle in The Office quite a lot and it would be a boring show ( English or US ) if you missed them/didn't find them amusing 🙃 Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 12 hours ago, alphamale said: did you ever watch a show called Coupling? it was about singles in england Don't think so. For a few years I didn't have/watch tv...it's been fun to take a break from it then go back and watch again. I've been watching 'antenna tv' for a while, kind-of makes me be selective but I really enjoy it when I find something interesting/funny! And no danger of 'binge-watching' like with cable, I'm not very disciplined easily distracted 😶 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 17 hours ago, basil67 said: I'm wondering how The Full Monty and Ab Fab were received by US audiences. they were well received basil67, especially Ab Fab 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 22 hours ago, alphamale said: did you ever watch a show called Coupling? it was about singles in england Nope but I will check it 🙂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GentleBlueEyes Posted February 21, 2020 Author Share Posted February 21, 2020 On 2/19/2020 at 6:54 PM, Ellener said: No offense taken, you just have a different sense of humour then, the jokes are subtle in The Office quite a lot and it would be a boring show ( English or US ) if you missed them/didn't find them amusing 🙃 It was a more Americanized humour. Lack of tone, facial expressions or poor delivery of jokes at the proper time. More the poor actors than anything. I had to google both to make sure I wasn't getting that wrong. The fat guy in the UK version was as boring as paint drying. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 12 hours ago, GentleBlueEyes said: It was a more Americanized humour. Lack of tone, facial expressions or poor delivery of jokes at the proper time. More the poor actors than anything. I had to google both to make sure I wasn't getting that wrong. The fat guy in the UK version was as boring as paint drying. Steve Carell has gone on to be one of the great comedy actors! 'The fat guy in the UK version was as boring as paint drying.' That's intentional for the character! What does make you laugh automatically and without thinking about it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cersei Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 I don't know. I am Canadian and just got back from a trip in Mexico. I met lots of people from Englad there. They all were funny as hell! I laughed a lot and they seemed to enjoy my humour a lot too. I love to laugh and people that don't get me (or I don't get them) are often not ones I hang out with for long. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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