Author nivanlave Posted February 21, 2020 Author Posted February 21, 2020 8 hours ago, Redhead14 said: Be very, very careful with this. Do not send money or give any personal information out. If you send money, especially out of the country, you could be helping a terrorist group and subject to Homeland Security surveillance/investigation. If I were you, I'd back away from this situation quickly. Get a different cell number too. I'm sorry that you're struggling. You must be very lonely to be allowing yourself to get so entrenched in this "relationship". This is not a relationship and will drain you mentally and emotionally if you don't back away from it now. Find something more real and tangible for yourself. Join a church group, a club of some sort, anything else but this kind of thing. Yeah we never talked about money. To me he seems like a guy really knows business things. Not someone goes around and ask for money ... you know what i mean. But thank you. I'm trying to get myself out of this too.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 How do you know what he looks like? Please don't assume that pictures he sent or posted are actually his own. You don't know that unless and until you see him live. You are correct that it's not crazy to talk to someone you don't know in person. What isn't realistic is assuming that you are dating him and have been in some sort of relationship with him.
Author nivanlave Posted February 21, 2020 Author Posted February 21, 2020 6 hours ago, S2B said: But you’ve actually never met him, right? so you assume he’s American? Or he said he’s American? if you haven’t met you really don’t know what or who he is. you can’t believe him. How much of his info have you verified as being true? I actually never met him in person. Well, he's from Europe but working in the US now. Well, i have only being told. Plus this guy is very private online. I can't find any of his social media profile online.
Author nivanlave Posted February 21, 2020 Author Posted February 21, 2020 1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said: How do you know what he looks like? Please don't assume that pictures he sent or posted are actually his own. You don't know that unless and until you see him live. You are correct that it's not crazy to talk to someone you don't know in person. What isn't realistic is assuming that you are dating him and have been in some sort of relationship with him. Well, you're right. The photos could belong to someone else and not him. I'm not saying I'm dating him or in relationship with him. It's just that we've been talking for awhile and I dont understand his behavior I'm aware of what you;re telling me. He could be a scammer and I still dont know that for sure.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 2 minutes ago, nivanlave said: I'm not saying I'm dating him or in relationship with him. It's just that we've been talking for awhile and I dont understand his behavior Your first sentence in this thread: "I'm seeing this guy for couple of months" In any case, it seems you're starting to understand that this person has no serious intention of ever meeting you. I would bet any money he's not who he says he is, either. Don't fall for these online people. If they can't meet you within a couple weeks of establishing contact, it's a waste of your time. 1
stillafool Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 On 2/18/2020 at 2:14 AM, nivanlave said: I was completely breakdown when I know he actually went online but decided not talking to me. I didn't bring this topic to talk to him yet, simply I was afraid it'd push him even further away. Why are you afraid to talk to or lose a man you've never even met who lives 15 hours away? You need to reel in your feelings until you're actually dating them.
JTSW Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 3 hours ago, nivanlave said: I can't find any of his social media profile online. Big red flag. If he really was a high flying business man he would have social media to connect with people. 3 hours ago, nivanlave said: To me he seems like a guy really knows business things. 'Seems'. Anyone could learn business things and sound knowledgeable. 1
JTSW Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 3 hours ago, nivanlave said: I'm not that insane to talk to someone I dont even know. But that is what you are doing. You don't know him. You know what he has told told you and the pictures he has shown you. 1
Redhead14 Posted February 21, 2020 Posted February 21, 2020 5 hours ago, nivanlave said: Yeah we never talked about money. To me he seems like a guy really knows business things. Not someone goes around and ask for money ... you know what i mean. But thank you. I'm trying to get myself out of this too. Take a look around these boards. Read about the women and guys who actually meet someone in real life and say, "nah, he/she doesn't "seem" like the type who would ______ . . . and then does. You don't know squat about this guy, nothing, zero, nada and cannot say what he does or doesn't know. There's nothing to "get out of" right now. There's no relationship. Just some guy on the other side of a keyboard. Block and delete him on everything without prejudice right now. Period. 3
Gaeta Posted February 22, 2020 Posted February 22, 2020 On 2/19/2020 at 3:45 AM, nivanlave said: We did call but not video call and it's not daily. Texting has been the main communication between us. Than it's a scam. There is 0 reason for someone to not video call these days. Even the man that wasted my time for an entire year video called several times a week. He was not out to scam me, he was using me as an emotional band-aid to go through what ever he was recovering from and when he got better he discarded me. 1
Versacehottie Posted February 23, 2020 Posted February 23, 2020 I think you should not worry about whether or not this guy is a fake or a scam; it's just making you defensive internally and determined to prove you haven't been scammed.The real bottom line is that in the BEST of situations to be this far apart in distance and time would be tough. Coupled with going this long without meeting and the hot and cold behavior is not where you want to place your bet. This isn't good for you. Stop worrying about him and decide what you want to do. You should know you deserve better. I think you should immediately date someone local Good luck oh and just stop accepting texts from this guy, it's dragging you in and down. Regardless of what he calls "it" and what you would like it to be, it's not a relationship and will just cause you pain--as it already is during the beginning even!!! 2 1
JTSW Posted February 24, 2020 Posted February 24, 2020 On 2/19/2020 at 8:45 AM, nivanlave said: We did call but not video call and it's not daily. Texting has been the main communication between us. I recommend that you watch the TV show Catfish, if you haven't already. The above is a classic Catfish. This guy is without a doubt not who he says he is. Run his phone number through google and see who it comes up registered to. Google image search his photo. Go on Spokeo and look his name up. 2
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