Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 3 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: If interested, she should have suggested an alternate day - but some people are clueless. Did you try for another day? You still can. my response to that was "and sunday wouldnt be a good day for what i had in mind" i never got a response to that
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 1 minute ago, K.K. said: Dude, it’s so not over. Why are you doing that to yourself? Give it a chance! what makes you say its not over based on what i said about her crying emoji
K.K. Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 Wait - was there a question mark at the end of your text to her? Or was it a statement?
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 1 minute ago, K.K. said: Wait - was there a question mark at the end of your text to her? Or was it a statement? statement
K.K. Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 You asked her out for Saturday She said “I think I have to work “ You said, Sunday wouldn’t be a good day for what I had in mind. Why are you stressing? She’s the one that wants to go out. But she has to work and is apparently upset about it since she used a crying emoji when she didn’t have to. Then you shut it down for Sunday so she’s probably like wtf. 2
K.K. Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 (edited) Why do y’all guys overthink? Enough with the wondering and polite stuff. Don’t let the momentum of the date slip away. Just text her and say “ well let’s do something Sunday if you’re not working.” If she says no she’s working then say “well one day next week I’m taking you out.” Shes either going to say “ok “ or “ uhhh no “ “ Bam! End of overthinking. You’ll know one way or the other. Edited February 18, 2020 by K.K. :-) 1
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 4 minutes ago, K.K. said: Why do y’all guys overthink? Enough with the wondering and polite stuff. Don’t let the momentum of the date slip away. Just text her and say “ well let’s do something Sunday if you’re not working.” If she says no she’s working then say “well one day next week I’m taking you out.” Shes either going to say “ok “ or “ uhhh no “ “ Bam! End of overthinking. You’ll know one way or the other. yeah thats what i will do 2
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 i think im having negative thoughts because the last 2 times i met someone off Bumble it didnt led to a 2nd date. this would be the 3rd straight time. Its not like that on tinder, okcupid or craigslist
K.K. Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: yeah thats what i will do I would! Maybe someone else has better advice I don’t know. But that’s what I would do. Good luck! Let me know. 2
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 29 minutes ago, K.K. said: I would! Maybe someone else has better advice I don’t know. But that’s what I would do. Good luck! Let me know. do you think my last text came off kind of odd that prevented her from sending me another text "And sunday wouldnt be a good day for what i had in mind"
K.K. Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 3 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: do you think my last text came off kind of odd that prevented her from sending me another text "And sunday wouldnt be a good day for what i had in mind" I do kinda because 1) she was probably like hmm ok what does he have in mind and maybe overthought that. And 2) you didn’t schedule another time. You just shut it down. I think I wouldn’t have texted back either because I wouldn’t have had a clue what to say. Remember - you’re the one that took 2 hours to say you even got home so she may feel likes she’s the one getting played. I mean I guess she could’ve said “what do you mean Sunday’s not good for what you have in mind “ but ehh I don’t know. She probably just didn’t know what to say. Like she’s good enough for Saturday but not Sunday. Maybe she thought you were going out with somebody else on Sunday who knows? 1 1
introverted1 Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 1 hour ago, IntBrowser said: my response to that was "and sunday wouldnt be a good day for what i had in mind" i never got a response to that 57 minutes ago, K.K. said: You asked her out for Saturday She said “I think I have to work “ You said, Sunday wouldn’t be a good day for what I had in mind. Why are you stressing? She’s the one that wants to go out. But she has to work and is apparently upset about it since she used a crying emoji when she didn’t have to. Then you shut it down for Sunday so she’s probably like wtf. ^ This. So much this. Just ask her for a different day! Yeah, she could have countered with a day but the crying emoji is her way of letting you know that she is disappointed she can't make it Saturday. 9 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: do you think my last text came off kind of odd that prevented her from sending me another text "And sunday wouldnt be a good day for what i had in mind" Yeah. It's like you pre-emptively shut the door and she is probably wondering why you only want to see her if it can be Saturday (or only if you can do whatever specific thing you had in mind). She's probably thinking you don't like her enough to find time to see her rather than focus on a specific activity that can apparently only be done on Saturday. Just find a day she's free and ask her out. Your Saturday plan can happen some other time. 2
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 1 minute ago, introverted1 said: ^ This. So much this. Just ask her for a different day! Yeah, she could have countered with a day but the crying emoji is her way of letting you know that she is disappointed she can't make it Saturday. Yeah. It's like you pre-emptively shut the door and she is probably wondering why you only want to see her if it can be Saturday (or only if you can do whatever specific thing you had in mind). She's probably thinking you don't like her enough to find time to see her rather than focus on a specific activity that can apparently only be done on Saturday. Just find a day she's free and ask her out. Your Saturday plan can happen some other time. the saturday thing involved going to NYC
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 10 minutes ago, K.K. said: I do kinda because 1) she was probably like hmm ok what does he have in mind and maybe overthought that. And 2) you didn’t schedule another time. You just shut it down. I think I wouldn’t have texted back either because I wouldn’t have had a clue what to say. Remember - you’re the one that took 2 hours to say you even got home so she may feel likes she’s the one getting played. I mean I guess she could’ve said “what do you mean Sunday’s not good for what you have in mind “ but ehh I don’t know. She probably just didn’t know what to say. Like she’s good enough for Saturday but not Sunday. Maybe she thought you were going out with somebody else on Sunday who knows? maybe i should have included an emoji with my last text
introverted1 Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 1 minute ago, IntBrowser said: the saturday thing involved going to NYC I get that you had a specific idea in mind. But what you've inadvertently conveyed is: Since you are working Saturday and my plan won't work on Sunday, I'm going to pass on seeing you altogether, even if you are free Sunday. Basically, you've said that executing a specific plan is more important than finding something to do with her that will allow you both to get to know each other. 2
introverted1 Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 1 minute ago, IntBrowser said: maybe i should have included an emoji with my last text Whaaaaaat? No, you don't need an emoji, you need a DATE. Or maybe you don't - are you actually interested in this woman? If you are, then set something up. What you do is less important than doing something that conveys interest. 2
K.K. Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 (edited) Nooooo forget the NYC too much too soon! Too much! Just take her to tha red lobsta ! Lol No, any emoji at the end of your text wouldn’t have helped, babe. Now you got me overthinking Just text her and tell her you’re taking her out. All manly like. Edited February 18, 2020 by K.K. :-o 1
Ruby Slippers Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 14 minutes ago, introverted1 said: Basically, you've said that executing a specific plan is more important than finding something to do with her that will allow you both to get to know each other. This. Find a time and activity that works on the weekend. If she's interested and available, she'll accept. 1
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 18 minutes ago, K.K. said: Nooooo forget the NYC too much too soon! Too much! Just take her to tha red lobsta ! Lol No, any emoji at the end of your text wouldn’t have helped, babe. Now you got me overthinking Just text her and tell her you’re taking her out. All manly like. gotcha
Author IntBrowser Posted February 18, 2020 Author Posted February 18, 2020 28 minutes ago, introverted1 said: I get that you had a specific idea in mind. But what you've inadvertently conveyed is: Since you are working Saturday and my plan won't work on Sunday, I'm going to pass on seeing you altogether, even if you are free Sunday. Basically, you've said that executing a specific plan is more important than finding something to do with her that will allow you both to get to know each other. after actually reading it i can see that i can see how it can be taken that way
skywriter Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 whew (wiping my forehead, I'm exhausted. I'm just soooo glad my boyfriend doesn't like texting.
Miss Spider Posted February 18, 2020 Posted February 18, 2020 (edited) 39 minutes ago, skywriter said: whew (wiping my forehead, I'm exhausted. I'm just soooo glad my boyfriend doesn't like texting. Hahah it’s a lot easier when you’re being natural and communicating like a normal human being. It’s difficult when you’re aren’t being genuine and orchestrating every little thing to get a desired outcome Edited February 18, 2020 by Cookiesandough I 1
Author IntBrowser Posted February 19, 2020 Author Posted February 19, 2020 5 hours ago, K.K. said: You asked her out for Saturday She said “I think I have to work “ You said, Sunday wouldn’t be a good day for what I had in mind. Why are you stressing? She’s the one that wants to go out. But she has to work and is apparently upset about it since she used a crying emoji when she didn’t have to. Then you shut it down for Sunday so she’s probably like wtf. As soon as I heard work I immediately felt like I was getting the brush off. The top 3 excuses a woman uses to not to go out with a guy is normally work, family, or sick..
K.K. Posted February 19, 2020 Posted February 19, 2020 (edited) Well.... yea but did you text her yet? Edited February 19, 2020 by K.K. :-(
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