stillafool Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 On 2/17/2020 at 12:46 PM, Kristine said: I blocked him. So as far as I'm concerned forever. What happened to this^^^? Your broke NC to contact him, just as I said you would. 2
Author Kristine Posted February 29, 2020 Author Posted February 29, 2020 We said our final goodbye today. I actually no longer feel connected to him, he'll soon be a distant memory. I can't wish him well, too busy judging him. Kind of moving on with guy I'm dating. We're taking it slow but i feel good around him.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 1, 2020 Posted March 1, 2020 Going by your past threads and with due respect, Your picker is very broken and your definition of love very flawed. It makes you vulnerable to men who will take full advantage of you and then toss you aside, just as this one did. Though I don't think you will follow this advice, you would be very wise to stay single for a while. Dating when you're in such a chaotic emotional places almost never leads anywhere good. 2
BaileyB Posted March 1, 2020 Posted March 1, 2020 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Your picker is very broken and your definition of love very flawed. Though I don't think you will follow this advice, you would be very wise to stay single for a while. I could not agree more. However, based on the fact that she has already set her sights on another man, I don’t expect that being single is an option for this poster. Desperation tends to lead one to make poor decisions. 1
Poppy47 Posted March 3, 2020 Posted March 3, 2020 On 2/21/2020 at 1:21 AM, Kristine said: I did send one more text, he never responded. I'm dating again. But I don't like any of them. He was so good to me. Oh well. Better off without him. He wasn't good to you at all. You really need to wake up and realise that all the gifts etc were hooks to entice you to stay. He lied to you over and over. Poppy
Author Kristine Posted March 5, 2020 Author Posted March 5, 2020 I took down my dating profile. I have a heath issue to take care of and need to focus on health right now. Problem I heard from MM he's worried about my health issue told me to keep him updated. Had MRI today get results next week. Day after my birthday. He had a friend go through same thing. So he's been very helpful. I know he's a liar looking for a mistress, but I really have feelings for him and I'm struggling to stay away, when all I want is comfort.
BaileyB Posted March 6, 2020 Posted March 6, 2020 Well, if you are seeking support from a married man that you’ve not know for very long during a health crisis - that’s a sign that you need to find yourself some more friends. I hope your news is good and you are feeling better soon.
Author Kristine Posted March 6, 2020 Author Posted March 6, 2020 It ended, I couldn't bring myself to see him again. I'm thinking about deleting his number so I don't contact him anymore.
Author Kristine Posted April 19, 2020 Author Posted April 19, 2020 Now the world has stopped he has reached out to me. Kind of glad I have an excuse not to see him. But he's helping me heal from a rash, but giving me ideas the doctors didn't specify. But there's another guy I'm looking forward to seeing after the stay home order ends. But I am still more attracted to him his way of thinking. I'm starting to consider the mistress lifestyle. I mean my ex boyfriend wants me, a few other guys want me. But do I really want to be married? I've done it 3x, it's a lot of work and I like fun. Maybe this relationship is a gift instead of a burden. He brings out positive behaviors in me. Exercise, walking, feeling beautiful. Great conversation. I'm really considering it. 1
Will87 Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 Have some self respect and take some time to yourself and asses your life. 1 1
Author Kristine Posted April 19, 2020 Author Posted April 19, 2020 I have self respect. I'm going to see if i can get lasik out of him. It's something I've wanted for 10 years.
Will87 Posted April 19, 2020 Posted April 19, 2020 2 hours ago, Kristine said: I have self respect. I'm going to see if i can get lasik out of him. It's something I've wanted for 10 years. I rest my case
jspice Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 5 hours ago, Kristine said: I have self respect. I'm going to see if i can get lasik out of him. It's something I've wanted for 10 years. No you don’t. Not at all.
texasgreeneyes Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 Goodness! So you're seeing your MM for lasik? Do you actually love him and does he care about you? Or is it purely a sex for whatever you want deal?
Author Kristine Posted April 20, 2020 Author Posted April 20, 2020 We're just talking right now. I'm trying to move on from him. Yes there's love, but he won't marry me he should do something for me. He's made it clear he won't divorce his wife he wants to keep his family together. I'm trying to stay away from him, he's trouble and heartache for me. But I'm drawn to him. I've read a lot of articles on mistresses. It's a losing proposition so what's in it for me? That's what i ask him all the time. 1
stillafool Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 18 hours ago, Kristine said: I have self respect. I'm going to see if i can get lasik out of him. It's something I've wanted for 10 years. So you're going to use a man to buy you lasik? Why don't you buy your own like a responsible woman would do? 1
mark clemson Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 23 hours ago, Kristine said: I'm starting to consider the mistress lifestyle. I mean my ex boyfriend wants me, a few other guys want me. But do I really want to be married? I've done it 3x, it's a lot of work and I like fun. Maybe this relationship is a gift instead of a burden. 3 hours ago, Kristine said: I've read a lot of articles on mistresses. It's a losing proposition so what's in it for me? Generally that (2nd point) is correct. Trying to keep things logical, I'm not seeing what advantage you'd get out of him vs. just a BF. People can be "perma" BF/GFs and "perma fiancees". It might feel a little less exciting, but that "excitement" comes at a high potential price. No one will force you to marry and there is a whole "Living Apart Together" niche crowd out there that is married but keep out of each others' hair. Not my cup of tea personally, it sounds like it's for those with avoidant attachment styles, but to each their own. If his wife every found out, she'd be very hurt. Possibly it would break up his family. Most people, including yourself, would probably feel that "you had at lest something to do with that" and you could end up carrying guilt for quite some time. In addition, it might hurt your reputation. Looking for an available man who you have a solid connection with is very much the more rational choice here IMO. The trick will be to find that guy.
gamon Posted April 20, 2020 Posted April 20, 2020 He's not the only guy out there. Why settle for scraps from a guy who repeatedly lies to you and is cheating on his wife? Doesn't sound like such a great catch.
Author Kristine Posted April 26, 2020 Author Posted April 26, 2020 Went on a date with another guy who really likes me. Well if I want to be married he's the guy. I'm thinking i like my life, my freedom, and may not want to be married after all. I may be just fine being the mistress. I like the gifts. He motivates me in ways other guys just don't. Had to feel it out.
sandylee1 Posted April 26, 2020 Posted April 26, 2020 There are many single men who don't want marriage. It means you don't have to sneak around and have your BF/MM also having sex with another woman, who is his wife. Don't risk your health by exposing yourself and mixing body fluids.
NomiMalone Posted April 27, 2020 Posted April 27, 2020 It sounds logical - no strings attached fun and expensive gifts. But unfortunately in reality, it doesn’t work like that. You already have feelings for him. He has already shown himself to be a liar, and in the back of your mind, you’ll never be able to fully trust him (he says I’m his only mistress, but is he lying?) Also once you give in and become his mistress, he’ll respect you a little less (unfair but that’s just the way it is). “My mistress is an upstanding woman of quality, real marriage material”, said no MM ever. He’s only super attentive and sweet now because he’s chasing you, and the attention and validation can be very flattering and addictive. If you don’t mind that he sleeps with other women and thinks a little less of you, and are just in it for the gifts and NSA sex, then go for it. Like I said, sounds logical in theory...
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