Kristine Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Said divorced is married, told me stories about how his I thought ex wasn't affectionate anymore. When we broke up I knew he was hiding something but just let him go cause he said he wouldn't message me again. He reached out again i told him i wouldn't see him until he was honest with me. That's when he said separated, another lie, he's totally married. Things make sense now. I told him I wouldn't see him anymore. Look me up when divorced which will be never. He wants a mistress, he was trying to groom me. This hard I really liked how he treated me, flowers, gifts, nice restaurants. But I can't be someone's mistress. 6
d0nnivain Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Good for you for sticking to your guns. Your mom has a bad feeling about him if I remember. Next time maybe listen to mom a bit more. Your picker seems to be off. 1
Miss Spider Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 (edited) Wow. Sorry to hear the suspicions were correct. Block and move on. He does want a side chick and you deserve more Edited February 16, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Author Kristine Posted February 16, 2020 Author Posted February 16, 2020 Found out he's married and I really liked him. Now feel depressed. I want him but I told him to go away, I'm trying to move on because I need to not think about him. He says separated but profile said divorced so going with married. 1
Author Kristine Posted February 17, 2020 Author Posted February 17, 2020 Okay I'm bad cause now I know and I saw him today. And I want to keep seeing him. Knowing nothing will come of it but a good time. I think I've lost my mind.
BaileyB Posted February 17, 2020 Posted February 17, 2020 (edited) It’s a very poor decision. I hope you reconsider. Edited February 17, 2020 by BaileyB 1 1
Marc878 Posted February 17, 2020 Posted February 17, 2020 Yep you’re setting yourself up for a big fall
Author Kristine Posted February 17, 2020 Author Posted February 17, 2020 I broke up with him. Told him not to contact me.
Author Kristine Posted February 17, 2020 Author Posted February 17, 2020 I blocked him. So as far as I'm concerned forever.
Author Kristine Posted February 20, 2020 Author Posted February 20, 2020 I did send one more text, he never responded. I'm dating again. But I don't like any of them. He was so good to me. Oh well. Better off without him.
Blind-Sided Posted February 20, 2020 Posted February 20, 2020 good you stuck to your guns. AND... this is one more example why I don't like OLD. Just never know what level of crazy you will run into. 2
vla1120 Posted February 20, 2020 Posted February 20, 2020 2 hours ago, Kristine said: I did send one more text, he never responded. I'm dating again. But I don't like any of them. He was so good to me. Oh well. Better off without him. He wasn't "good" to you. He was good at grooming you. He lied to you, more than once. You are right. You are better off without him. Stick to your guns. It might be hard right now, but it will get easier - a lot easier than finding yourself out here one, two, five years from now lamenting about how he promised to divorce his wife to be with you, etc. You definitely deserve better! 1
Author Kristine Posted February 23, 2020 Author Posted February 23, 2020 Haven't talked to him in a week. I miss talking to him. I think he blocked me too. Today is the day we would date. It's been a week. I've been dating other guys, on normal date days. One guy is nice. We've gone out twice. He's Catholic just like me. But I'm not really attracted to him, just that he's nice. He's super attracted to me, I make him nervous.
Author Kristine Posted February 26, 2020 Author Posted February 26, 2020 Had a long talk with married guy yesterday. He got in my head. I really feel he loves me. But he says I ruined it. Truth is I know I couldn't marry him if he was single. Even though he's the only guy I've wanted to marry. I realized how much I love him yesterday, and it's a problem. I'm trying to focus on the negatives. He's married, he lied about it. He only dates me on Sunday afternoon. I've said no a hundred times but want to say yes. I had a dream about him. When we weren't talking that he was on a date with another. I ran into them, whispered in his ear I still want you, told her do you know he's married. And walked away. It's how I feel. I still want him but he's married. 1
Author Kristine Posted February 26, 2020 Author Posted February 26, 2020 Therapy has helped. Not going to do it.
Author Kristine Posted February 27, 2020 Author Posted February 27, 2020 I told him he's not offering what I want, and I'm out. He responded Good. We had a fight yesterday. About my dating other guys. Had a good talk, but therapy cleared my head. I may love him and I know he loves me, but I want marriage not a mistress life. It's hard. He told me yesterday he'd divorce me if we were married. He no longer saw me as a romantic prospect. So needless to say it's over. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 16 minutes ago, Kristine said: I told him he's not offering what I want, and I'm out. He responded Good. We had a fight yesterday. About my dating other guys. Had a good talk, but therapy cleared my head. I may love him and I know he loves me, but I want marriage not a mistress life. It's hard. He told me yesterday he'd divorce me if we were married. He no longer saw me as a romantic prospect. So needless to say it's over. He 100% does not love you. I'm glad you're in therapy. 2
Author Kristine Posted February 27, 2020 Author Posted February 27, 2020 He loves me he was angry and hurt.
carhill Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 One person's lie is another person's 'marketing'. Once you accept that everyone lies when it benefits them life gets easier, including lying about relationship and/or marital involvements. The best liars I've encountered are women. Not an indictment, perhaps more an indicator of poor role-modeling. I was socialized to believe and trust in women. Bzzzt, wrong. Also, soft, squishy, make the penis hard stuff too. Sexual wiles are wonderful for selling lies. That works for both genders. 1
JTSW Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 5 hours ago, Kristine said: He loves me he was angry and hurt. He doesn't love you. He's a cheater. 1
BaileyB Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 I can certainly understand the disappointment of not being able to pursue a relationship that you thought had potential... But don’t fool yourself into thinking that this guy loved you. He loved what you could do for him and he is angry now because he didn’t get what he wanted. His experience of this relationship and his expectations were very different than yours... 1
stillafool Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 On 2/20/2020 at 9:31 AM, Blind-Sided said: good you stuck to your guns. AND... this is one more example why I don't like OLD. Just never know what level of crazy you will run into. She didn't stick to her guns, she sent him one more text but he didn't respond.
stillafool Posted February 27, 2020 Posted February 27, 2020 On 2/20/2020 at 9:21 AM, Kristine said: I did send one more text, he never responded. I'm dating again. But I don't like any of them. He was so good to me. Oh well. Better off without him. I thought you were going to block him? Now you are chasing him.
Author Kristine Posted February 27, 2020 Author Posted February 27, 2020 I'm not chasing him. He did respond a week later, we talked a couple days, got in a fight again, made up and ended it. He got in my head almost talked me into it but therapy got my senses back. I do think I'm finally ready to release this relationship and move on. Just taking some time to heal.
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