ascofield Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Hello everyone, Sorry for my poor english, I'm french I've met a girl. During a date, we were asking questions to each other and at one moment she asked me "are you jealous?". I find this question to be a bit suspicious. Why does she ask me that? It makes me doubtful about the fact that she could be the kind of girl who flirts with a lot of guys. Do you think this question is odd or is it a normal question to you? Thanks for your opinions.
elaine567 Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 My guess is that she has had to put up with an overly jealous guy in the past and she doesn't want to go there again. 3 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 1 minute ago, elaine567 said: My guess is that she has had to put up with an overly jealous guy in the past and she doesn't want to go there again. That was my first thought, too. 3
Blind-Sided Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 From the limited information... it's hard to know what she was asking. If she was asking if you are jealous in general... and she is a little flirty, and forward... then yes, I would worry that she won't be very faithful. But, maybe she just got out of a relationship were her ex was highly jealous, and she couldn't do anything on her own. If I was in the situation... I would have said... "I'm not jealous in general, but why do you ask?" 1
chillii Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Yep l say it is a weird question and says a lot about her . She;s the kind of girl that just can't help herself flirting or she wouldn't need to ask and tell you that if she knew how to behave herself with her bf . It's not just an about jealousy question , sounds more like an can l have my cake and eat it too question to me . So if she was with you can she still play around flirting with every one else as well.
d0nnivain Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 I too assumed she dealt with an overly jealous man in the past. I suppose it could be that she's a flirty person & doesn't want to deal with somebody who can't handle that. I know I would get annoyed if a new partner tried to squelch that aspect of my personality. For now stop over analyzing that single Q in a vacuum. Observe her behavior & then make decisions. 1 1
Fletch Lives Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 As others have said, she had an overly jelous ex.
smackie9 Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Whatever her reason, everyone knows, that question would never be answered honestly. I see baggage and trouble.....I wouldn't go there. Next her.
preraph Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 I agree with others that jealousy is (and rightfully so) a red flag to her and she wants to avoid another jealous boyfriend. You know, jealousy stems from insecurity. A little jealousy is one thing, but it can easily go to far and be a negative thing. I wouldn't next her for that. Unless you're the jealous type. If you are, move on.
schlumpy Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 5 hours ago, ascofield said: During a date, we were asking questions to each other and at one moment she asked me "are you jealous?". Your answer should have been, "Jealous of what?"
The Outlaw Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 That question would many a lot of people do the double take and it just raises too many red flags. If she's openly flirtatious to other men while she's on a date with you, leave. She isn't trustworthy. But as said it could have been a jealous ex that prompted the question or a number of other things. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 I agree with most. She has had a bad experience with an ex or more who has excessively jealous. But, this doesn’t provide any information as to the why’s. Too bad you didn’t dig further. Next time?
preraph Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 Having a jealous bf is like being in prison or having strict parents. It's sick. She's just trying not to get into that again. I will say if this question bothers you, it's because you are jealous or it wouldn't even bother you. It would be like her saying, "Would you ever hit a woman"? That wouldn't bother you unless you would.
chillii Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 4 hours ago, schlumpy said: Your answer should have been, "Jealous of what?" Haaaaa, yeah , that's what l was thinking . Never met a women just happy to let her man just run a muck with all the other women in sight.
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