contel3 Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 I just need to rant. First of, happy Valentines people!! Today is a beautiful day. I didn't actually realise it was valentines until I got a dozen booty call texts from men I exchanged numbers with...most of which I met once and never had any sexual involvement with. I don't know why but this really upset me and makes me want to tell them to feck off. Which I don't because it's bad style. Like I hate how disrespectful people can be. Thanx for reading 1 1
Blind-Sided Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 Happy Valentine's day to you to. (belated) I think I would have been upset about that too... and I would have probably blocked those numbers, after txt'ing back saying... "Not a chance." 1
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 Bad style? They're the ones with bad style. Since when it's bad style to show jerks how to respect you. Now because of Valentine's Day you know you have a dozen players on your phone so block and delete them all. You will not find the right guy if you waste your time entertaining a dozen bozzos. 4
d0nnivain Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 You are right telling somebody to F off would be rude. Look you got a dozen texts from men. They offered invitations. Unless they were all explicit maybe some of them were sincere. Would your stance change if you learned that a particular man only sent such a text to you & not his entire contact list? V-day makes people lonely. Some reach out. Try looking at it this way -- 12 guys hit on you yesterday. Maybe their motives were selfish & sexual rather than honorable but 12 guys hit on you. Lots of people didn't get hit on at all, nobody reached out to them. I'm not saying you should lower your standards or be satisfied with a booty call. All I'm suggesting is that put a positive spin on it & move along. Why does it have to be only a bad thing? Why can't it just be an inconsequential thing that doesn't merit a response but could still be ego boosting? 2
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 16 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: All I'm suggesting is that put a positive spin on it Not really. I put myself in her shoes and I'd be thinking I am worth a booty call but not worth dating and getting to know, and we know when men just want a booty call they lower there standards and could hit on a goat so it's not a compliment at all to get a booty call offer. 3
FMW Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 I admit, I would by cynical about the motivations and be offended. Like "hey, maybe Valentine's Day will soften her up and I can take advantage of that for easy sex" even if they hadn't actually hooked up with you before. Plus, assuming you would be free on Valentine's Day for last minute plans is kind of offensive! But I wouldn't bother to make any response at all. Another one of those "whatever" moments. 2
Author contel3 Posted February 15, 2020 Author Posted February 15, 2020 38 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Try looking at it this way -- 12 guys hit on you yesterday. Maybe their motives were selfish & sexual rather than honorable but 12 guys hit on you. Lots of people didn't get hit on at all, nobody reached out to them. I'm not saying you should lower your standards or be satisfied with a booty call. All I'm suggesting is that put a positive spin on it & move along. Why does it have to be only a bad thing? Why can't it just be an inconsequential thing that doesn't merit a response but could still be ego boosting? Yeah its a fair point, some people would be happy. I think one of them actually might have invited me on a date, but most were quite explicit, asking me to come over. It's kinda hard to feel flattered though....I know I'm not ugly. And I know if I accepted I'd just sign up for being an unpaid prostitute. I'm not sure if they'd even care if I have fun while sleeping with them... I would feel relieved if I knew they sent it to everyone in their contact list, cause then I'd be sure I didn't provoke it lol
d0nnivain Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 I am in no way defending their actions. I applaud you for turning them down because really a date would have been the preferred ask. I just wanted to give you something . . . I was trying, perhaps unartfully, to cheer you up.
Syd8 Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 Yesterday was very hard for me. It was my first Valentines without my girlfriend since she passed. We would always go to dinner and I would get her a box of chocolates and flowers. 2
Noproblem Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 (edited) So what you gonna do now? Do nothing and just block them or ignore them? No scolding, no arguing, no words of disgust from your part? I am sorry but this is a very enabling behavior! Edited February 15, 2020 by Noproblem 1
Noproblem Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 2 hours ago, Syd8 said: Yesterday was very hard for me. It was my first Valentines without my girlfriend since she passed. We would always go to dinner and I would get her a box of chocolates and flowers. I am so sorry for your loss. Stay strong.
Kitty Tantrum Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 I wish more women would begin to see these unsolicited "booty calls" as the golden opportunity they are to send the dude a picture of goatse.cx and be like "have fun with your hand" and not even feel bad about it. These guys are literally asking for it. BEGGING FOR IT, in fact. 3
Miss Spider Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 (edited) Haha tell them you’re super horny and will be over shortly then ‘forget’.Do that a few times then say you got a hot pic you took for them and send them goatse.xc Edited February 15, 2020 by Cookiesandough 2
preraph Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 2 hours ago, Syd8 said: Yesterday was very hard for me. It was my first Valentines without my girlfriend since she passed. We would always go to dinner and I would get her a box of chocolates and flowers. So sorry. You got through it. I hope next year is better. 1
preraph Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 Contel3, like Roy Orbison once sang, Only the Lonely. You should try to sort out which ones might have been genuine. And then you should block the rest. I noticed on the what do you want for Valentine's thread, it seemed like a lot of men just seem to regard Valentine's Day is a time to trade gifts for fellatio. I guess there are some out there who really believe that is a thing. 1
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