Author BJSTING2006 Posted October 11, 2005 Author Posted October 11, 2005 ^^ fully agree nice summary
crazy_grl Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 Middle Eastern (ME) men can be hotter than burning coals. but with the sizzle, there's a price. at their best, they are polite, considerate, intensely caring and affectionate. they will woo you with beautiful words and gestures. arabic and farsi are very poetic languages and they know how to talk the talk. they are passionate, and will put you on a pedestal. at their worst, they are chauvinistic, abusive, jealous, controlling, and brilliant experts at cheating and lying. they come from fiercely patriarchal cultures where women's rights are secondary. in the ME most men and women cannot date openly, so it is done covertly. deceit becomes a great skill, and cheating a game they love to play. ME men tend to socialise together, and mixed socialising is less common. sometimes you will get both extremes in the same person. I've known 2 men who grew up in Lebanon and came to the US in their late teens, one was a close friend. I didn't see any of those qualities in them any more than any white, asian, or black man I've met. Sounds like a stereotype to me. Maybe those are some things to watch out for, but really they're something you should watch out for with all men. Expecting a man to be a chauvanistic, lying cheater or super romantic just because he's ME does neither you nor him any good. It's better to get to know a man individually that to "get to know" a race.
loony Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 I don't really think I have a special fondness to men from the Middle East, my mom claims though that they have beautiful features - hmm.... crazy_grl, I also know a guy from Lebanon and he is very open and tolerant, but he's also Christian and that does seem to make a difference in Arabic men. And Lebanon as far as I heard is more tolerant than other Arabic countries.
housebaby Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Ok people. I have to make a confession, I am eating my words right now. This weekend, I met the sweetest guy. He has most of the qualities I find attractive in a man - confidance, intelligence, sincerity, kindness, sense of humor and passion....not to mention, a very handsome guy and sensual kisser ----- He is Lebanese! We have been talking alot and spent all day with each other (it was a holiday here yesterday). So far he seems like a really good guy....so, I guess I shouldn't speak too soon, or too hastily...my own stereotype/stigma has bitten me in the a$$ - although, he does tell me that he's got many relatives and friends who are involved in 'gangs' - he personally has no use/time for it, and that it's not something he sees himself invoved in - ever. It's probably a little early to tell if he's a controlling guy - he seems to be very respectful of me, my thoughts, my intellect and people in general. He's very educated in all cultures and religions - and has a respect for them all (although he is Muslim). So there it is. I am dating a Lebanese man AFTER I open my big mouth about not catching me with one! I guess that's how it goes --- and btw: my foot tastes really good right about now!
hooghie Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 I haven't read the entire post, but glad to hear that you are open minded enough to give something a chance even though you had pre conceived notions. As you get to know him, you will see that being controlling towards women is just an ignorant stereotype- but being somewhat of a player is more of a reality. He will probably charm the fu** out of you and if you end up with him, he will most likely treat you like gold. Good luck!
mehim Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Well I find ME men very attractive because I'm a ME girl. Also I'm dating a Leabenese guy who is the cutest guy, and the most loving man I have ever known so far , who hopefully will be my husband one day.
Kitty2020 Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Obviously a man openion doesn't count to a woman. and you hear blah blah blah ahhhhhh so true, but that's only because you don't listen to us. your future ruler of teh world Kitty MEOOOWWWWW
housebaby Posted October 12, 2005 Posted October 12, 2005 Ya, it just seems so IRONIC that just days after my post, I meet someone who makes me see a total different side. I guess my bad experiences can't speak for everyone. I definitely see the charm, and he sure knows how to make me blush! So, I won't count my chickens before they hatch....but all I can say is so far so good!
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