BJSTING2006 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 specifailly lebanese guys. i was wondering what ppl here think. theres a few guys in my high school here there lebanese and i think thier so hot. they have nice skin color, nice eyese, sleek black hair etc... i just wanted to know the norm here. thanks
crazy_grl Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I've seen some lebanese guys who were hot and I've seen some who were grotesquely ugly. A guy's race doesn't make him hot/not hot. These kinds of discussions are pointless...
Author BJSTING2006 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 true but some different races got different features some ppl like, like me for example
BadBadGirl Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 i do not find them attractive. any ME guys I have met have kind of frightened me.
basscatcher Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 I don't know about lebanese men in specif but I have been strongly attracted to some ME men. I actually started to date one but in less then 8 days I busted him with another woman in his bed sleeping. She is the complete opposite of me in looks. He tried to play it off by telling me that nothing happened and she had been evicted from her apt and needed a place to stay. He had a previous relationship with her and I found out later that he still used her and others for his own gratification. He was very charming, Very handsome, sweet, attentitve and affectionate. He lied to me so I told him he would never touch me again and he didn't. I wouldn't allow it. "Play me once-your fault; Play me twice-my fault." I have a gf who has dated a ME man for 7 years. She has had her share of issues. From what I have learned ME men are devoted to their families. A wife generally is less then his mother. His mother, father, brothers, sisters always come first. I am only speaking from what I have learned through my gf's experiences. She has done everything to adapt to their lifestyle including learning the culture, customs, cooking their kind of food and even the language. She very often feels like she will never be good enough for them because she isnt ME herself. She has witnessed that the ME men who relocate to the city she lives in generally play all the white women. Most dont believe in monogomy. In their culture they can have more then one wife if they can afford her and have the ability to take care of her. I'm sure there are ME men who are one man one women type but I don't know the odds. I do know I don't think I will ever get involved with a ME man again. I am too outgoing, outspoken, independant, and American to adapt to their standards. I will admire their handsome features from a distance. If I have offended anyone here I am sorry. This is just my humble opinion and my witness. There culture is so different from the American culture. I have too big of a mouth and I believe in monogomy.. One man to One woman....I also believe when a man and a woman come together they are as one. He leaves his birth family and puts HIS family (wife and children) first.
housebaby Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Around these parts - there is a huge Lebanese community. They have a very bad rep..that being..they don't value or respect women at all. The women are treated like property and usually are totally treated like crap! There is a great number of these Lebanese guys who are in gangs around here (there are 2 main organized gangs: Vietnamese and Lebanese)...so you just don't F*CK with them. I think physically, they have great features (tall, dark, handsome). But, you won't see me with one, unless I feel like being treated like crap. That may be a stereotype, but it's almost always 100% true here in Calgary, Alberta (Canada). I went to school with a Lebanese girl who (at age 11) knew who her husband would be. ARRANGED MARRIAGES THIS DAY IN AGE? IN THIS COUNTRY? yes, the women have no choices while the men can scurry around and take what they want. Pretty sick if you ask me....
Author BJSTING2006 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 aight thanks ppl, just wante dto see what ppl think here im hooked to a guy here, hes so attractive, and seems so innocent and a good person. ill try my luck tomorrow
kitkat826 Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Wow. I can't recall every knowing a Lebanese man. If I have, I can't picture them. There just isn't a very big population of ME men around my way. Dark and handsome, though, that's how I like 'em... mmm...darkness...DARKNESS... Dave Chapelle .... where art thou..come back to me :(
jaye Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 who are in gangs around here (there are 2 main organized gangs: Vietnamese and Lebanese)...so you just don't F*CK with them.... housebaby i thought women loved tough gangsters? bad boys and all of the good stuff ps if you don't F*CK with then how you found out that they are bad. are you gonna judge something without trying it?
gevoraksix Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 No . I don't find middle eastern men attractive at all. Just a preference. Like my men tall, thick , and english speaking.
housebaby Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 housebaby i thought women loved tough gangsters? bad boys and all of the good stuff ps if you don't F*CK with then how you found out that they are bad. are you gonna judge something without trying it? 1) I never said it wasn't a stereotype (of course it is!) 2) This is just the "common stereotype" around Lebanese & Vietnamese in Calgary... 3)Of course they are not ALL gangsters...people around here just treat them like they are - because you don't know - they may be...it's not like they wear colours or anything -- just racial profiling actually. 4) Ya, some women like gangster types, bad-boy types, guys with power types, etc....and that's why they always have hot girls swooning over them 5) How do you know I havn't tried it? do you honestly think I drew my conclusion from heresay?
magda Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 I think lebanese men are very attractive. Not all of them mind you. But many. I think a lot of bollywood actors are very attractive as well.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 I'm all about Oded Fehr. I watched The Mummy twice: once out of curiosity, the second time for him!
jaye Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 1) I never said it wasn't a stereotype (of course it is!) 2) This is just the "common stereotype" around Lebanese & Vietnamese in Calgary... Common? what are you talking about. 3)Of course they are not ALL gangsters...people around here just treat them like they are - because you don't know - they may be...it's not like they wear colours or anything -- just racial profiling actually. So you judge by listening to people not exploring yourself 4) Ya, some women like gangster types, bad-boy types, guys with power types, etc....and that's why they always have hot girls swooning over them And no wonder why they all end up with bruises and endless complains. and yet 13 to 17 year old girls giving birth and don't even have a job at a dunkin dounuts 5) How do you know I havn't tried it? do you honestly think I drew my conclusion from heresay? Jaye don't deal in thinking or making stuff up.
BadBadGirl Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 i think she's saying it is a common stereotype in a specific area she knows. it's no different than saying West Virginians have no teeth or New Yorkers are rude or Kentucky parents are brother and sister. like for example, most of the drug dealers in the city i live near are black. also, most, not all, of the black people there are drug dealers. stereotypes aren't fair all the time, but there is a reason they exist. and even if it not true, i am not exactly rushing to that part of the city to find a date, much less go in and investigate to find if the stereotype is wrong. some chances aren't worth taking. i prefer plain old white guys, it's my standard and it's worked well for me so far. and no, i'm not racist, i just like what i like. does anyone know the point of these posts? aren't all people's preferences different? it's like starting a thread saying "do you purple is the best color ever?"
housebaby Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 When I say that it's the COMMON STEREOTYPE, that's exactly what I mean: how much more needs to be said to explain it? It's MOST PEOPLE who live in the area I am in, who believe that you should be careful when getting involved with these 'racial profiled' people because they CAN be involved more than you know --- not that they ARE involved, but they CAN be -- that's all. I never said that I PERSONALLY belive in this, I am talking about general ideas of the majority of the people in THE CITY OF CALGARY, ALBERTA CANADA. I have no idea about stereotypes in any other place...I know what people think where I live...that's all. I have dated people from all races (including Asians and Middle Eastern) and have drawn my own conclusions about things from personal experiences...that doesn't mean I judge a book by it's cover - it just means I will look back on the circumstances I've personally experienced before I make a decision.
blue16 Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 I think Middle Eastern GIRLS are hot...who cares about the guys?
jaye Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 i prefer plain old white guys, it's my standard and it's worked well for me so far. and no, i'm not racist, i just like what i like. so much better idea, i like that But thats not what she said. she said I think physically, they have great features (tall, dark, handsome). But, you won't see me with one, unless I feel like being treated like crap. honestly women love being treated like crap.
housebaby Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 so much better idea, i like that But thats not what she said. she said honestly women love being treated like crap. Yep. GIRLS like being treated like crap - I never said women like that - some do, some don't - some don't even realize they like it, until they stop liking it. I said you won't catch me with one unless I FEEL like being treated like crap....meaning the last 2 middle eastern guys I've dated have been total jerks to me and EVERY OTHER woman in their lives (sisters, aunts, girlfriends, etc) and that's why I have decided to stay away from DATING them, because I DON'T feel like being treated like crap. You are not the best at reading comprehension - or you just like confrontation....
Author BJSTING2006 Posted October 7, 2005 Author Posted October 7, 2005 I think Middle Eastern GIRLS are hot...who cares about the guys? wow you sound like only men can look for women
jaye Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Yep. GIRLS like being treated like crap - I never said women like that - some do, some don't - some don't even realize they like it, until they stop liking it. Above bold text is one thing you said right. I said you won't catch me with one unless I FEEL like being treated like crap.... Again did i not say women love badguy image and love to be treated like crap? meaning the last 2 middle eastern guys I've dated have been total jerks to me and EVERY OTHER woman in their lives (sisters, aunts, girlfriends, etc) and that's why I have decided to stay away from DATING them, because I DON'T feel like being treated like crap. Try 1 or 2 and blame everyone You are not the best at reading comprehension - or you just like confrontation.... Obviously a man openion doesn't count to a woman. and you hear blah blah blah
flamingjune Posted October 9, 2005 Posted October 9, 2005 Middle Eastern men can be gorgeous. I haven't met a Lebanese, but have met some really beautiful Israeli, Iranian, and Saudi Arabian men. I appreciate their dark features and strong bone structure. I also knew one Israeli who was blonde and blue-eyed. Although like some of the other posters, I'm a little put-off about what I've heard and read about the cultural attitude towards women. Most of the ME men that I've met have been very polite, but I have no experience with actual dating.
edbravo Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Around these parts - there is a huge Lebanese community. They have a very bad rep..that being..they don't value or respect women at all. The women are treated like property and usually are totally treated like crap! There is a great number of these Lebanese guys who are in gangs around here (there are 2 main organized gangs: Vietnamese and Lebanese)...so you just don't F*CK with them. I think physically, they have great features (tall, dark, handsome). But, you won't see me with one, unless I feel like being treated like crap. That may be a stereotype, but it's almost always 100% true here in Calgary, Alberta (Canada). I went to school with a Lebanese girl who (at age 11) knew who her husband would be. ARRANGED MARRIAGES THIS DAY IN AGE? IN THIS COUNTRY? yes, the women have no choices while the men can scurry around and take what they want. Pretty sick if you ask me.... ha ha ha...baby ..once again, you with your GANG stuffs....what is your cops doing???! you should have someone like me there, i will ungang those gangs.
justbrowsing Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Yes, I find many ME-looking men hot. They are tall, dark and usually well dressed. I also love the stubble. Consequently, it didn't take much convincing for me to date one guy whose family was from the ME (although he was born here). He was an agnostic kind of fellow, and significantly more liberal than he parents, but he still can many of cultural tendencies one would expect. I wouldn't say that he disrespected women, as such. He wouldn't have dreamed of making some of the comments I regularly hear from white friends about women passer-bys, for example, and he would never have laid so much as an unwanted finger on me. However, I knew that he didn't respect me in the way that I was used to be respected – as an intellectual and social equal. For example, he refused treatment from a female doctor on one occasion, and on another admitted he couldn't imagine having to answer to a female boss, and that it would be hard for him to accept one. Also, his family despised me, and his mother thought I was a whore, and told me so. I, in turn, found it hard to be respectful to her. In the end, it didn't work out, and given the pain I almost certainly would not date a man of ME background again. To state the sad cliche: it's just not compatible with my career. That said, however, I have no hesitation is saying this ME man was a good man. He would make a different kind of woman a fine husband. He would be honest, hardworking, and a good father. But he wasn't for me - or, most likely, for any other white girl with white independence. But, yes, he was HOT.
helena abadi Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Middle Eastern (ME) men can be hotter than burning coals. but with the sizzle, there's a price. at their best, they are polite, considerate, intensely caring and affectionate. they will woo you with beautiful words and gestures. arabic and farsi are very poetic languages and they know how to talk the talk. they are passionate, and will put you on a pedestal. at their worst, they are chauvinistic, abusive, jealous, controlling, and brilliant experts at cheating and lying. they come from fiercely patriarchal cultures where women's rights are secondary. in the ME most men and women cannot date openly, so it is done covertly. deceit becomes a great skill, and cheating a game they love to play. ME men tend to socialise together, and mixed socialising is less common. sometimes you will get both extremes in the same person. i think they can go overboard with women in the West because it's the first time they have unfettered, easy access to women. White Western Women (WWW) can also be treated with disdain because they are seen as easy to get. Muslim women have to protect their reputations, and be seen as modest, even if they just keeping up appearances. WWW are more relaxed and more up front about their sexuality.
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