Worththeeffort778 Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 Hi , im looking for some advice / opinions on a hot button issue with me and my boyfriend of 2.5 yrs . We currently do not reside together but have in the past and are working on some issues at the present time but still together. we have what I consider a healthy self life, and a definelty very active one that still going strong . We often text each other alerting the other were in the mood or feeling like getting together what do usually results in making plans for the evening and goes without saying but something that I’ve been a continued hot button issue with us throughout is on average I would say about once a week I will get a text from him expressing his interest sometimes a picture or statement whatever which will carry-on and us making a unspoken plan then suddenly I won’t hear from him which leads to me having to reach out to him and only to discover that he suddenly has so much work to do or errands or undisclosed things he needs We often text each other alerting the other were in the mood or feeling like getting together what do usually result in making plans for the evening and goes without saying but something that has been a continued hot button issue with us throughout is on average I would say about once a week I will get a text from him expressing his interest sometimes a picture or statement whatever which will carry on and us making a unspoken plan then suddenly I won’t hear from him which leads to me having to reach out to him and only to discover that he suddenly has so much work to do or errands or undisclosed things he needs to goto go do and the sex is currently then off the table which for us is odd. Personally I feel like he’s got a better offer at that point and is taking someone else up on it and that’s what his errands are or his son work that he hast to do he says I’m overreacting I think he’s cheating. I guess I just don’t get it when it’s been something that’s been discussed over and over if he knows he has work to do or something he need to do why bring it up curious what other people I have to stay on this topic am I overreacting or would you feel the same? 1
d0nnivain Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 I'm guilty of this. I'll express interest in something & be all gung ho then run out of steam. I'd blame short attention span before cheating but I'm not a suspicious person by nature 1
smackie9 Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 It could be this is how he is. So cheating or not, if this is an ongoing issue that is now leading you to assume the worse, maybe it's time to move on. You don't see a lot of him anyways so why put in all this effort to get anything out of him.
Miss Spider Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 Okay sorry about my lacking of understanding in your other thread. I think I understand better here. To answer your question, I don’t think you should assume he’s cheating based on what you’ve written. It’s too far of a jump. Plans can fall through for a lot of reasons and sounds like he’s given you some which could be completely true.
elaine567 Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 How often do you actually see him? Texting each other to meet up for sex, doesn't sound like much of an actual relationship, more like FWBs. 4 2
preraph Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 I agree that this doesn't sound like a committed relationship but more of a sex buddy. I mean getting together once a week to have sex is all it sounds like. What makes you think there is a commitment between you two and that you are working towards being together as a couple? 2
2BGoodAgain Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 could be he's more interested in how you stroke his ego for the pic/sextalk/etc.. than the actual act or he's found a better offer and he's getting it on with someone else. and like the others above... is this an actual relationship or just a booty call relationship, b/c ... what exactly do you two have? commitment, etc?
stillafool Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: Cookiesandough, could you be any prettier. Really you are gorgeous. 1
stillafool Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 25 minutes ago, preraph said: I agree that this doesn't sound like a committed relationship but more of a sex buddy. I mean getting together once a week to have sex is all it sounds like. What makes you think there is a commitment between you two and that you are working towards being together as a couple? I agree also. It just sounds like you guys are FWBs and I do think he is probably getting together with someone else when he cancels on you. Even with good sex some men like variety. 1
kendahke Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 18 hours ago, Worththeeffort778 said: he says I’m overreacting I think he’s cheating How involved in each other's lives are you really? How much time in person and out of bed do you two spend?
Miss Spider Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 (edited) 7 hours ago, stillafool said: I agree also. It just sounds like you guys are FWBs and I do think he is probably getting together with someone else when he cancels on you. Even with good sex some men like variety. Aww shucks. I’m okay. That made my day tho. Thank you!! Also, I never considered this because I took bf at face value, but could be true. Definitely sounds more like FWB than bf/gf Edited February 15, 2020 by Cookiesandough 2
stillafool Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 15 hours ago, preraph said: Is that your puppy? Awwww, what's his/her name? How old 1 1
Miss Spider Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 (edited) He’s a 10 week old corgi named Neptune. Thanks guys Preraph I love your dog Good luck, OP!! Edited February 15, 2020 by Cookiesandough
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