Why is it guys treat me less than every other woman?

[basil67]

14 minutes ago, oppositeage26 said:

well thse are usually that I'm not interested in

Yet you say that you're trying to get whatever you can.    Everything you write is conflicting.

I would also say that the guys who hit on you "every day" who you reject are also just asking to be tolerated

Edited February 13, 2020 by basil67

[Miss Spider]

Hmm how about a trusted friend who can help you figure out what you might be doing wrong 

[preraph]

If people think you're a prostitute it's not because of your race but because of how you dress and act. 

 

So you need to stop dressing sexy. And you should know that more normal dressing is considered more sexy to more guys. Watch What Not to Wear if you really are clueless. Don't show too much rack. If you show a lot of leg then don't show any rack. Peel it back. and it sounds like for that many pimps to be after you that you are hanging around the wrong places. if you're doing drugs and that's why you're around those places than you need to stop and hitchhike the hell out of there if you want a more normal life.

[oppositeage26]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Yet you say that you're trying to get whatever you can.    Everything you write is conflicting.

I would also say that the guys who hit on you "every day" who you reject are also just asking to be tolerated

 

I have become that way over the years. like this. When I was 18-23 I had a nature of like heavy attraction and avoidance of some men that were less desirable but my type. So I had standards I did not go around those men I did not give them the time of day because I was like they were low quality. I became where I needed to get what I could get at 23 when I hadn't done anything with a man at 23.

 

Yeah could I ask you are attracted to transgender women? What woman are you never attracted to? What if that type of woman never left you alone? No matter how much she hits on you it's never going to work That's how it is for me. We all have a type we'll never be into

 

 

1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said:

Hmm how about a trusted friend who can help you figure out what you might be doing wrong 

I don't have any friends. Anyone I know I never talk about all the bad things that happened I'm totally embarrassed and humiliated about it. When I was a virgin I started lying saying I was not a virgin at about 24/25.  Before that at 22 and 21 I started lying about it not as convincingly as when I got older. I used my age to kind of shield from it. People would think I was a v. And I would be like I'm 25 or 24 of course I'm not a virgin. So yeah that's inda my secret only family members know that and I don't get along with my family so yeah. I don't really talk to anyone about it.

[Miss Spider]

Idk I dress sexy. Never been assumed a prostitute. I see others dress sexy too. I don’t think that is the problem for OP. 
 

why no friends? 

Edited February 13, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[oppositeage26]

1 minute ago, preraph said:

If people think you're a prostitute it's not because of your race but because of how you dress and act. 

 

So you need to stop dressing sexy. And you should know that more normal dressing is considered more sexy to more guys. Watch What Not to Wear if you really are clueless. Don't show too much rack. If you show a lot of leg then don't show any rack. Peel it back. and it sounds like for that many pimps to be after you that you are hanging around the wrong places. if you're doing drugs and that's why you're around those places than you need to stop and hitchhike the hell out of there if you want a more normal life.

I just wear pants and a t-shirt. The prostitute comments come with me being blond more often but it can comes with anything just my hair done and make up does the trick every time. I have a large chest small body so I can't hide my chest but most people think I'm small everywhere anyway.

 

No I never even drank alcohol until I was 24. And when I did it was a few sips then I never touched it again. I treat those type of people like I'm scared of them and that's where the anger comes from for them. I live in vegas some parts of the city it's hard to avoid and sometimes I don't have that much money.

[oppositeage26]

1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said:

Idk I dress sexy. Never been assumed a prostitute. I see others dress sexy too. I don’t think that is the problem for OP. 
 

why no friends? 

Like I said I'm a very shy person. I had friends at my old job not like ones I hang out with ones I talk to at work you get those after working 2 years at the same place now I work at home I literally have no friends

[basil67]

5 minutes ago, oppositeage26 said:

Yeah could I ask you are attracted to transgender women? What woman are you never attracted to? What if that type of woman never left you alone? No matter how much she hits on you it's never going to work That's how it is for me. We all have a type we'll never be into

Being hit on daily by people you aren't into is a far cry from your assertion that no men want you. 

A accurate phrasing would be "Men find me attractive and hit on me daily.  But they aren't the guys I want"  

[basil67]

4 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Idk I dress sexy. Never been assumed a prostitute. I see others dress sexy too. I don’t think that is the problem for OP. 
 

why no friends? 

Prostitutes don't dress sexy.  They dress skanky.

[oppositeage26]

Just now, basil67 said:

Being hit on daily by people you aren't into is a far cry from your assertion that no men want you. 

A accurate phrasing would be "Men find me attractive and hit on me daily.  But they aren't the guys I want"  

no I feel that instant desire for. Or even not an instant desire just any interest whatsoever never happens one time at my job but I just got with the short guy who I begged to date me this guy from work was ok but he was short like him. I worried that I'd crush him too. And it's always exausting after these situations I don't really want to be with anyone after that usually.

[preraph]

Well I guess the large chest explains some things.. I mean big chested blondes are pretty much in demand. So I can only make two suggestions if you don't want people to think you're a prostitute. Don't wear tight things over your chest. Don't show your cleavage. When you have a big rack you really don't need to show anyting. And if you're really are sick of it dye your hair dark brown and maybe it will make you look more respectable or something. Basically if it's not working, change it. And get out of your part of town. No one needs to live where there's pimps. 

[oppositeage26]

Just now, preraph said:

Well I guess the large chest explains some things.. I mean big chested blondes are pretty much in demand. So I can only make two suggestions if you don't want people to think you're a prostitute. Don't wear tight things over your chest. Don't show your cleavage. When you have a big rack you really don't need to show anyting. And if you're really are sick of it dye your hair dark brown and maybe it will make you look more respectable or something. Basically if it's not working, change it. And get out of your part of town. No one needs to live where there's pimps. 

you know what really helped not being blond I got rid of the blonde hair and I had it better but I still have issues. Like you know when I was losing my V to the crazy guy he kept thinking I was with some other guy. And that's why I wasn't going to see him blah blah blah. But like even knowing full well that I was a virgin before him. My cleavage no one even knows I'm big chested besides like in the case I just described. Otherwise in clothing I'm small everything looks small in clothing because I am a small person. I think it's more my make up but when I don't wear make up I get no attention at all in fact people are more likely to be negative on my physical appearance then.

[oppositeage26]

4 minutes ago, preraph said:

Well I guess the large chest explains some things.. I mean big chested blondes are pretty much in demand. So I can only make two suggestions if you don't want people to think you're a prostitute. Don't wear tight things over your chest. Don't show your cleavage. When you have a big rack you really don't need to show anyting. And if you're really are sick of it dye your hair dark brown and maybe it will make you look more respectable or something. Basically if it's not working, change it. And get out of your part of town. No one needs to live where there's pimps. 

cute dog btw

[preraph]

So go to Mac Cosmetics and get a makeover. 

[basil67]

12 minutes ago, oppositeage26 said:

no I feel that instant desire for. Or even not an instant desire just any interest whatsoever never happens one time at my job but I just got with the short guy who I begged to date me this guy from work was ok but he was short like him. I worried that I'd crush him too. And it's always exausting after these situations I don't really want to be with anyone after that usually.

So let's start by changing your narrative from "woe is me, no men want me" to "the men I'm attracted to don't want me"   Telling yourself that no men like you is just evil for your self esteem.

Of you men you are attracted to, it sounds like you like the bad boys.  So how about looking like a bad girl?  

[oppositeage26]

2 minutes ago, preraph said:

So go to Mac Cosmetics and get a makeover. 

yeah maybe I like to wear eyeliner shadow and mascara not really fake eyelashes on anything though. Maybe there's way to do that but not so out there? 

[oppositeage26]

10 minutes ago, basil67 said:

So let's start by changing your narrative from "woe is me, no men want me" to "the men I'm attracted to don't want me"   Telling yourself that no men like you is just evil for your self esteem.

Of you men you are attracted to, it sounds like you like the bad boys.  So how about looking like a bad girl?  

yeah I guess you're right that's self defeating.

 

I'm not attracted to bad guys any correlation in personality I like guys who are on the more feminine side since I'm a very masculine person. But I never really cared if a guy was bad or good as far as my attraction. Like the first guy was so shy and scared of everything like a little mouse. And the second guy wouldn't come out of his room unless his hair was straightened and done perfectly. He was that type like all into his hair looks type that's why I always wondered if he wore make up. The latter guy wasn't a bad boy he was just nuts as a side note. Had nothing to do with my attraction to him I wished he was not a messed up man things could have worked out better. And the first didn't seem like a bad guy either. Just mean that's all. Second was actually nice just like I said insane.  I went with their problems because I couldn't get a guy without their problems. In second guy's case there were two other guys I was talking to. One his headline said let's smoke marijuana and chill. The other guy was respectable traveled but was overweight and I wasn't really attracted to him the only reason I was really talking to him because he was a decent black man and taller but I still didn't feel that type of interest in him. So yea I come across a lot of druggies on my pof right now. Especially since I'm in vegas so I'm trying to sift through and not getting good results because of that in itself.

[preraph]

28 minutes ago, oppositeage26 said:

yeah maybe I like to wear eyeliner shadow and mascara not really fake eyelashes on anything though. Maybe there's way to do that but not so out there? 

Absolutely. I do think that 9/10 of your problem is that you're in the wrong area. people think you might be a prostitute because you're in an area where there are prostitutes and pimps. When I went to New Orleans people thought I was a prostitute because New Orleans had prostitutes. Where I lived everyone recognized I was just a rocker chick. So it's just partly about where you're living or hanging out. Got to find a better class of people!

 

But yeah it's fun to get a makeover. I think if you schedule one they cost about $50. But occasionally some of the department stores have a makeup artist doing them for free. Sephora will also help you pick out things and try things on you but maybe not do a full makeover without paying. I just don't think they would be the most qualified place to do it. I've had one at Mac and I've had them at department stores before. 

 

Again if you watch What Not to Wear on TLC, their makeup artist also shows how to do basic makeup as well as night makeup. 

[oppositeage26]

23 minutes ago, preraph said:

Absolutely. I do think that 9/10 of your problem is that you're in the wrong area. people think you might be a prostitute because you're in an area where there are prostitutes and pimps. When I went to New Orleans people thought I was a prostitute because New Orleans had prostitutes. Where I lived everyone recognized I was just a rocker chick. So it's just partly about where you're living or hanging out. Got to find a better class of people!

 

But yeah it's fun to get a makeover. I think if you schedule one they cost about $50. But occasionally some of the department stores have a makeup artist doing them for free. Sephora will also help you pick out things and try things on you but maybe not do a full makeover without paying. I just don't think they would be the most qualified place to do it. I've had one at Mac and I've had them at department stores before. 

 

Again if you watch What Not to Wear on TLC, their makeup artist also shows how to do basic makeup as well as night makeup. Yeah when I was in the midwest no one seemed to think I was a prostitute back then from my experience

I used to watch that when I was a kid maybe I should.

 

Yeah I've been to mac before but I've never asked about that

[preraph]

You can call Mac and they will schedule one. I mean it takes I think $50 or maybe it's more by now. And then you'd want to buy some of the products they put on you.

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, basil67 said:

I always am around good looking men

I thought you said you were only around old, fat men.

2 hours ago, oppositeage26 said:

the lower class usually the ones from my neighborhood do but I don't really want them plus usuallty for nothing good

You said they don't want you either.  It's very hard to follow your thread because you won't answer direct questions with a direct answer and your story keeps changing.

[K.K.]

“ If it doesn’t make sense, it’s not true! “

- Judge Judy 

 

* Totally meant as an ‘in general’ comment, only. She was just on the tube and I thought about how many times that is soooo fitting. Right?  

[Ami1uwant]

Are you trying to bat out of your league?

 

if you are dressing slutty...stop it.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

If you dress like a piece of meat, don't be surprised when you get treated like one.

[Caauug]

6 hours ago, oppositeage26 said:

I kind of feel like it's ok to be alone I never saw my mom with anyone so I mean I know single life I don't know what relationships are anyhow. But I still wonder what's she got that I don't sometimes.

Have you ever had a male role model in your life?

5 hours ago, oppositeage26 said:

I was explaining how I am to men in regular life. I am overly friendly online. But that's compensating for when irl. I'm so shy and quiet and scared because I've only experienced negativity from men's harrassment and anger towards me. So I am very shy naturally.

Why only the negative interactions? Or is that all you are seeing/remembering?

5 hours ago, oppositeage26 said:

I wear regular t-shirts I'm a tomboy I'm not dressing overly feminine I'm more masculine than some guys I'm interested in personality at times.

So you like the feminine guys.... That rules out a lot of the male population, and then take out the gays there wouldn't be many left. In your male age group testosterone should be high making the men more masculine.... 

You did not have a father figure growing up.

You have only experienced negative male interactions

You are into guys more feminine that yourself

Good of your mum raising you as a single parent, but I think you might have missed some important interactions that are now affecting your adult life.