legrtova Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I would like to devote this thread to little things we do to move on. I am SO PROUD of my self, I deleted every single email we have ever exchanged! It's such a freeing feeling! I didn't cry over it! I didn't wink! I'm slowly moving on!!! YAY! 948 emails guys...hehe...that's heavy. How are you all doing? I have love letters left. Still can't burn it, but it might come!
brittanyjean259 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 arent the first few months of a break up difficult? i feel like one day it will all just hit me and ill scream my brains out? im scared to go through it....all the memories, ITS LIKE a reality cheak!... he has rebounded, i meen i broke it off with him anything next would be rebound? he wont talk to me for the longest time, but ive stoped trying to contact him and im atleast proud of that thats awsome that your doing good! that gives me hope:)
legrtova Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 You should join our October thread....we all are working on NC. Times are rough, but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger, right? Hang in there, you deserve so much better! Obviously he has issues if he can't stay alone....you are healing and moving on, and the next relationship will be that much better, because you will be in it for the right reasons! Take care, good luck! L.
newbby Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 brittany, you are doing good. i have a feeling my xmm will also be on the hunt for another ow. he also no longer wants to speak to me, but as the days go by, i no longer want to speak to him either! it is good we are becoming free, this hurts right now, but just think of the freedom! legrtova, well done, thats a big step, my little things are also not contacting him, getting more spiritual, not reading old messages (havent deleted them yet)
brittanyjean259 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 thanks to you both! we all have to learn to be by our selves sometimes its hard to think you deserve better when you know that person completes you( scary) but your right! whats the october threat??? the more you stay away from them the more your not going to contact them...i dont even think i could dial his digits on my phonee id freak hahahah
newbby Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 the october thread, started by lynnered, a bunch of us are doing nc at the same time to help each other through it. join us, it helps.
cherrie498 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 newbby & brittany Funny you bring up the fact that you have the ideas/thoughts that your MM is out looking for another OW, I had that conversation earlier today w/ a friend of mine. What are the chances. Me & my MM confessed our dying love for years & everytime we would decide on NC there was always a feeling I had that I KNEW he would come back EVERTIME he did & I accepted, this time a bit diff. Not sure because I am so "bitter" & just plan PISSED or that the feeling between us is just gone. He is working somewhere new has been there for about a year or so, he has never mentioned any girls that he works with or anything (only did about 1 girl at his last & she went out with us a couple times & there was nothing except a friendship between them) now though I wonder.....well have kinda convinced myself of (makes it easier ) So how many of the OW here are not the first OW their MM has had? Just wanna know. I wasnt the 1st... I was the 2nd RELATIONSHIP MANY 1-2 nightstands before then 1st was 10 yrs. ago W found about that one too Thats where they got C #2 lol (she stopped taking the pill then too!!!....what a way to keep your man!!!!) that lasted about 2 yrs or so & OW got fed up & left too HE has NEVER left
Art_Critic Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Demonize the Ex .... By the way.. Keep going and congrats on your NC success
brittanyjean259 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 Can you please tell me what all those abbreviation meen i nkow what nc..and ow...thank you! well i saw my ex today in the car ...i looked right over smiled and said HEYYYY and he smiled..i defently cought him off gard...and felt really good about it... im my heart yeah love always comes back to you....but dont give your hopes up....i havent talked to him at allll but did see him tonite...thats not my fault though....well we purposely pulled up beside him bc we saw him....but still i wanted him to know the better part of me hahaha
brittanyjean259 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 i was my mm's first relationship...and the girl hes with now is the one he went out with in 8th grade and just didnt even like her used her..
cherrie498 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 So he has started a new A? How long where u & MM involved Why doesnt he just leave his W if he is just having one A after the other?? What was his reasoning? Just curious!! MM CONFUSE ME!!!!!! Guess thats 1/2 the reason I like him...Sadly! MM Married Man W Wife A Affair BS Betrayed Spouse C Children Cant think of anymore that are commonly used right now...Just ask if one pops up that you dont know! : )
brittanyjean259 Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 thanks! i will always come back this thread when i am unfamilar with some of those
Sunset Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 OM other man H Husband M Marriage RSOLE Married man :)
foolinlove Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 How am I doing? Good question! Confused? Hopeful, Tired, and many many more..but most important...NC. What have a done positive...I try to limit the time I can think about him to this forum, when he pops into my head...I think of something else. I don't do routine things I use to....I exercise like a fool...really ladies..it helps so much. Tonight..me and a bunch of my GF are going out to dinner.... As for the question about the MM and am I the first... He has only been with 5 women including me...(he says)... 3 before W W and me.... Been with wife since he was young (21?)...not married until he was almost 30....because she gave him now or never speech... I don't worry about him finding another OW....he feels horrible for the position he put him and his family and myself in. What i worry about is that if he does not leave her...I will never find another men because i will still be hung up on him??
newbby Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 you wont be though foolinlove. it feels like it now, but you will come out of this stronger, and that strength will attract alot of the right kind of guys.
lynnered Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 How am I doing? Good question! Confused? Hopeful, Tired, and many many more..but most important...NC. What have a done positive...I try to limit the time I can think about him to this forum, when he pops into my head...I think of something else. I don't do routine things I use to....I exercise like a fool...really ladies..it helps so much. Tonight..me and a bunch of my GF are going out to dinner.... As for the question about the MM and am I the first... He has only been with 5 women including me...(he says)... 3 before W W and me.... Been with wife since he was young (21?)...not married until he was almost 30....because she gave him now or never speech... I don't worry about him finding another OW....he feels horrible for the position he put him and his family and myself in. What i worry about is that if he does not leave her...I will never find another men because i will still be hung up on him?? U leave my MM alone!!! :lmao: he sounds like minehe was young 19,not M ,he stayed with her out of fear of finding no one else shes 5 years older then him had a C,he felt ready to go (didnt)she got preg(he feels on purpose)we met she was preg ,friends for 2years before A,he came to me during friendship ,she was presuring him to Mshould i?i was stupied "whatever U feel U should do?WTF i was 23 in love ,but couldnt tell him ! mine i know too will not find a OW,it took Us 2years ,to start A,&like URs he feels bad &doesnt think its /was healthy for me or him ! It will be OK we are all doing the right thing!as we know it not always the easy thing !but it will get easier we just have to embrace the mourning ,denial ,anger ,let it all happen so the happiness ,enjoyment ,wow i didnt think Of him for 4 hours,then 12hours ,then days . just because we were loved &we loved does not mean we have to hold on to this forever,or stay in a situation thats killing us mentally&physically. This shall pass we will be ok -just not right now!
foolinlove Posted October 7, 2005 Posted October 7, 2005 Lynnered...its funny how similar our situations/lives are.... Single, decent job, own our own homes, MM, pig neighbor that hits on us .....not quite as little as you tho...you said you weigh 108...you short? I'm 5'10", I'll NEVER weigh that much....LOL I was thinking about your situation the other day....you said your MM is into steroids and owes you money, or was that another post I'm thinking of? I was just thinking that some of his irrational behavior is prolly coming from the steroid use...it can really make some men aggresive and angry towards those they love. If it is a problem for him..I would suggest that you ask him to get clean if/and when he leaves W for you....you could put yourself into a BAD situation. I notice mood changes in my MM when he doesn't smoke w$$d. He has always smoked....and uses it as a way to escape his problems...could your MM be doing this with steroids? Not feeling that well today..had one too many with the girls last night....decided...alchohol and me are not friends right now...was fine with the girls, then when i got home alone..i was real emotional and sad. I'll stay away from Jose for a while...Keep the posting...
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