nospam99 Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 I may be first-time meeting a woman some time within the next week. I have not met her and haven't even agreed to meet, just a friendly exchange of OLD messages. But I wonder about Valentine's day. My first thought is that a V-day gift is unnecessary and maybe even inappropriate when meeting, if we do, this close to V-day. At most, I would only get her a small and simple candy sampler just to acknowledge the occasion. But I am uncertain, walking the line between going overboard on what is, at this point, NOT a relationship and ignoring THE annual cultural celebration of romance. Am I thinking 'too low' or 'just right'?
Happy Lemming Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 Small box of candy sounds perfect... 1
carhill Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 If strangers, IMO a meet/date is fine. Nothing special. If you'd known her awhile and the feelings trended romantic, then IMO more appropriate.
Erik30 Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 I wouldn't do anything. You could send her a "happy Valentine's day" message on the day itself, but nothing more than that. You're basically still strangers to each other anyway. It seems like you're not even meeting her on Valentine's day, so you don't even have to think about it. No gift, just have a fun date.
Miss Spider Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 Agree with Eric30. Just don’t meet them on Valentine’s Day and you can escape this problem.
Blind-Sided Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 Since you are just meeting on Valentines day... My first reaction would be... don't do anything since it's a day for acknowledging love in an established couple. BUT... I've been thinking about this myself since I am new back into the dating arena, and there is a small chance that I will go out on Friday. (but don't know because every restaurant will be crazy) I came up with an idea while helping my 8yo do Valentine's day cards for her class. So... you can make it cute, and funny. You could give the girl a "Grade School" kind of card, with a pencil, or sticker in it. OR... get one of those little hart boxes that have 2/3 pieces of candy in it, that you would give to a kid. Then when you present it to her... just say... "Well, it is Valentine's day, and I didn't want to come empty handed." Since it is such a superficial gift... you can both have a laugh over it, but you still acknowledge the day.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 13 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: Small box of candy sounds perfect... I agree. Sweet, harmless, and not over the top.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 I personally stay away from typical candies. A flower and a nice dinner somewhere quiet is nice. Don't go full dozen roses, etc. Honestly, I typically do not regard the day any different from others. Especially with someone new.
Happy Lemming Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 2 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: I agree. Sweet, harmless, and not over the top. Yes... I never liked showing up for a date, empty handed. Flowers, a small trinket, small sampler pack of chocolates, a used copy of a book she mentioned... just something. I dated one woman that loved flowers, she always raved about how beautiful they were. So each time I picked her up, I'd swing by the "Trader Joe's" and pick up a bouquet of whatever was on sale that day. Flowers seemed to be bring her great joy and happiness and it was only $4-$5. I mean to make someone that happy and put a smile on their face... it was worth the money and the few minutes to swing by TJ's... 1
Ruby Slippers Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 (edited) 30 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: I mean to make someone that happy and put a smile on their face... That's awesome! This is one thing my boyfriend does very well, too, and I absolutely love it. I almost always have flowers from him in the house and/or office. This is one of the things I've recently been reflecting on. In many ways he goes above and beyond. Edited February 12, 2020 by Ruby Slippers 1
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