Author Johnson1 Posted February 13, 2020 Author Posted February 13, 2020 (edited) I don't know how much I should take some of the things she says at face value. She has a great, tight knit family who likes me. We have plans on traveling. She cane with je to my moms funeral, wants ti fly up to meet my kids. It's almost like we're married already. Edited February 13, 2020 by Vocals5
Author Johnson1 Posted February 13, 2020 Author Posted February 13, 2020 I guess the bottom line is this. Is it possible for a woman to want to get married if she's cheating or would?
introverted1 Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Vocals5 said: I guess the bottom line is this. Is it possible for a woman to want to get married if she's cheating or would? Yes. Just go to any of the Infidelity/cheating firums and you'll see plenty of evidence. I don't understand the behavior personally, but it surely exists. p.s. Just caught up on your earlier thread. I'm revising my opinion: not only can she cheat, I'd say it is nearly guaranteed that she will cheat, assuming she hasn't already. She has as much as told you. Edited February 13, 2020 by introverted1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 6 minutes ago, Vocals5 said: I guess the bottom line is this. Is it possible for a woman to want to get married if she's cheating or would? Uhm, happens frequently. As for men...
Author Johnson1 Posted February 13, 2020 Author Posted February 13, 2020 I do have full access to her phone. It is possible I could retrieve all messages within the last 90 days and do all kinds of investigative work, but I can't bring myself to go there. If she is being honest I risk getting caught and potentionally destroy the best relationship I've had since my divorce of 31 years. We've had heart to hearts. She has a ton of responsibility at her job and is under the gun with a 1/4 million dollar deal she needs to get done that she's responsible for. She comes right home every day and I just can't picture her screwing around during working hours with all she has on her plate. She's stressed out about it. Could it be that she just likes playing on my concerns because she's mad that I'm not trusting?
introverted1 Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 1 hour ago, Vocals5 said: Could it be that she just likes playing on my concerns because she's mad that I'm not trusting? And you want to marry someone who would address concerns through passive-aggressive actions rather than through mature discussion? Another p.s. A $250K project is pretty standard in many industries/jobs and not an excuse for poor behavior.
Author Johnson1 Posted February 13, 2020 Author Posted February 13, 2020 It's a 25m deal approx, not 250k. Tried to change it. So yea, a lot's at stake for her, but like you said, it's no excuse for the passive-aggressiveness.
Gaeta Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 I am seeing you've just been dating 6 months!! I think you are making a huge mistake by getting engaged this early. You don't know this woman and her character enough to make a life commitment to her.
fishlips Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 It doesn't sound like her ex is jealous, so I'm assuming he told her to keep the ring, which is fine. As long as she doesn't wear it on her ring finger, it's fine, but of course if it bothers you, she should just sell it. That said, she didn't marry the rich guy. She wants to be with you. If the ring bothers you (which is understandable) have a talk with her about selling it or perhaps recycling the stone as Preraph has suggested. Then accept the fact that she wants to be with you, and give her whatever you can afford. I'm sure she will love it.
Author Johnson1 Posted February 13, 2020 Author Posted February 13, 2020 (edited) There are/were two men in her life. One if them is this dude she saw just before me whom she said she had a sexual thing with on and off for 10 years who now lives 2 miles from one of the offices she has to works at. According to her he hit her up 3 times around Christmas (right around the time she started backing off in bed). She deleted his messages saying she didn't want me to see what he wrote because it would've hurt me, but she said part of ut was him telling her about her sexy a**. If she's going to tell me that then that's just as hurtful so why nit show me everytuijg he said? There's more to it than that. Something incriminating she didn't want me to see. She said she told him about us and he got dirty with her so she blocked him and deleted the message. Then she told me she ended things amicably (to be nice) where he said 'okay, if you're ever free hit me up' and she said 'okay'. There's confliction. Then recently she said how it happened was it started out pleasant, she told him about us, then he said 'okay when you're free hit me up, THEN hit got dirty with her and that's when she blocked him and deleted the message. She couldn't have blocked him because it was a text, besides, she's not tech savvy enough to know how to. Another thing she expects me to believe is that when they went they went back to her place where they made out in her pool and went to bed, but nothing happened. She got pissed that I found that farfetched. The other guy is the guy friend who gave her the ring who lives 1,000 miles away. He's an older guy not nearly as good looking. She showed me his texts. He 'I believe' she is just friends with. She showed him our pic and I saw their conversation. He's happy for us. Edited February 13, 2020 by Vocals5
preraph Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 (edited) For what it's worth, you absolutely can block texts at least on Android. I do it all the time. There's nothing to it. Edited February 13, 2020 by preraph
Silver_star Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 It's posts like these that make me happy I am single again. Trust issues in the relationship. Possible cheating, and mind games, blatant disrespect..sign me up! not. :S
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