Miss Spider Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 (edited) He sounds really insecure and a bit annoying lol. I’m obviously not the one that needs to be attracted to him, but that’s so unattractive to me... I don’t think you can necessarily assume he’ll be controlling but I think there are enough problems here already without having to consider that one. Sounds like you kind of pity him which isn’t a good start. Edited February 13, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 He sounds really annoying, especially with those lame "how is your day/morning/evening" texts. When I was doing OLD and had guys like that, I usually just let them text and met them. I was very disappointed every single time - the guy turned out to be desperate and didn't really have anything to offer. Eventually, I just found it a deal breaker. You shouldn't have to negotiate texting at this early stage. If you slow down your replies and he doesn't get the hint but keeps double or triple texting you - it's a sign to move on.
Miss Spider Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 okay just to need qualify what I said by explaining that OP had made another post they deleted that explained more stuff this guy said. It was worse x.x
fly_again Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 It's certainly strange and the fact that 'most people attached to their phones' doesn't explain it. They're strangers and didn't even have a date yet, there's no point to text like this. Normally, you want to show the other person you respect his/her time and don't want to overwhelm them. I think the way he texts you is a big red flag. I'd like to point out two more things though, as you were in an abusive relationship: 1, You've felt there's something wrong with the other person's behavior; be proud you noticed it and asked for help if it's really the case. Ask your friends, your family or even strangers if you feel you need help 2, However it also looks like you couldn't move on from this abusive experience yet, because you still don't know how to set your boundaries, by being honest and straight or saying no and getting out of something you're uncomfortable with. It means you have to know what relationship you would like to be in, what type of partner you would like to be with - if you skip the steps where you're getting know yourself again and gain back your confidence, you're wasting time for people you don't want to A professional is a must after a relationship like you had, because the abusive person slowly destroyed your personality and mental state. There's no need to rush, you have time to find yourself again and the person you really want to be with. Wish you the best.
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