simpycurious Posted February 29, 2020 Posted February 29, 2020 1 minute ago, girlinNYC said: He replied. He confirmed he isn’t the best so any gut feeling I had was evidently for a reason. Reassured him I’m here if he needs someone. There’s not a lot more I can do. You reached out and at least started the dialogue. Also, he recognizes that he isn't "well" that's a start. Good for you for being a good friend. Everyone needs good friends 1
Author girlinNYC Posted February 29, 2020 Author Posted February 29, 2020 1 minute ago, simpycurious said: You reached out and at least started the dialogue. Also, he recognizes that he isn't "well" that's a start. Good for you for being a good friend. Everyone needs good friends Thank you. He’s still quite closed off by diverting the subject onto me and how I am, but I won’t prod. I’ve put it out there that I’m here if one day he needs it. Content with that. 1
smackie9 Posted February 29, 2020 Posted February 29, 2020 Depressed people stop taking care of themselves. Maybe offer to bring over a casserole/a meatloaf/ chicken soup that he can graze on or order food in for him. (gosh I so sound like a mom lol). IMO a home cooked meal is a great healer. 1
FMW Posted February 29, 2020 Posted February 29, 2020 You've done all you can. Unless you see something really alarming, just give him space. Sometimes people just need to withdraw a bit and deal with whatever issue is going on, especially men. And especially with men, they usually don't want to talk about it. They work through it on their own. I'm a woman, but I go through periods of time occasionally when I back off of my social activities and don't feel like texting and chatting a lot, I just need some down time, on my own. In my case I do see that I have depressed moods that may cause this, but I'm not clinically depressed and I'm certainly not in any danger of harming myself. I just need time to work through my funk. Alone. If you have mutual friends, just trade off occasionally checking in and saying hi, by text or whatever means you prefer.
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