Ambereyes Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 (edited) 5 hours ago, Gaeta said: Why kind of human being are we becoming if we need *daily text* to feel worthy. We humans dont need daily texts to feel worthy, but we need them to feel connected, bonded and close. If I'm not seeing my love interest today, I better be talking/texting him a good amount so I can still feel him. If I'm totally fine to go without a trace of him in my life, the why the hell am I even dating him? Edited February 12, 2020 by Ambereyes 3
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 5 hours ago, Gaeta said: Why kind of human being are we becoming if we need *daily text* to feel worthy. We made it up to now without Internet, cellulars, social media. I think we are weakening our character as society with these fake needs, no one can go through a normal day at work now without a 'hello' from their gf or bf? How do they plan of going through life at all if no text between 8 am and 5 pm puts them in an emotional distress. Back in the day, we didn't have a choice unless there was a rotary phone. Anxious types still called if they could. The OP has communication needs that can be met and currently technology accommodates. People today are overtly aware that people use texting as a common means of communication. If the OP is that needy for connection, she need only speak to her bf about it and go from there. There is nothing complicated about what needs to happen, imo. Whether many of us admit it or not, it is nice and welcome to receive messages from our SOs. I know I do. It's fun and appreciated as long as it doesn't become a mandate to smooth over another's insecurities.
kendahke Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 37 minutes ago, Gr8fuln2020 said: People today are overtly aware that people use texting as a common means of communication. This tends to be age-related. The younger one is, the more the expectation of an avalanche of texts... the older one is, the less the expectation of texts, but more emphasis on calling and talking. Your mileage may vary. 1
K.K. Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 It’s the quality too. Not only the quantity. I hate it when a guy speaks that text speak bulls***. “I so n2 u.” So sloppy and lazy.
Gaeta Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 A 5 minute call is worth 1000 texts. If you want a real connection when you're apart then call each other. At least you get to hear their voice, laugh together, have a real conversation LIVE with no waiting for a reply. 1
Ambereyes Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 27 minutes ago, Gaeta said: A 5 minute call is worth 1000 texts. Depends on the individual. Plenty of people would choose texts over calls. But OP should have at least one of them. By the sound of it, doesnt look like he has time for neither, or they would be calling every day now?
Ruby Slippers Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 16 hours ago, d0nnivain said: people can't seem to function independently any more with checking in with their brand new SOs constantly. It's annoying & comes off as clingy, needy & unattractive. Couples who enjoy a close bond including sweet texts now and then are hardly clingy or needy. My boyfriend and I love spending time together and will make certain sacrifices to spend more time together if we can. Both of us are lone wolf types, 100% self-sufficient and fully capable of functioning independently, very affectionate but not clingy or needy. We both enjoy occasional texts throughout the day to make each other smile. Nothing wrong with that at all. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 On 2/10/2020 at 6:44 PM, Ambereyes said: Since you two are somewhat long distance, texting is the only way of bonding and connecting. If he doesnt do texting, how the hell does he expect to have anything with you? If he *really* feels bad for not texting you, then why not change it? Actions over words right? I dont know if he just has a different love language that doesnt include words and affirmation or he just isnt into you enough to make that effort. How about both of you see each other more often? And see if he's willing to put some effort in that. My thoughts as well. I kind of found out in dating that there is no such thing as a bad texter, only someone who isn't interested. Especially considering he uses social media, but can't text you. Sorry, but that is dumb. He could improve his texting if he "feels bad". I dated a guy like that long distance who barely communicated with me, but made the effort to stay active on social media. If he isn't willing to give you the attention you require, find someone else. Long distance is hard enough w/out you having to beg your partner for little crumbs of attention.
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