elaine567 Posted March 1, 2020 Posted March 1, 2020 He is the father of a young child, he is probably looking for wife and mother material for the long term or just some casual as he is "busy" short term. I think if he is suggesting he take you to meet his child on Saturday and is going to hang out Sunday too then I think he is interested. Life doesn't hinge on SM, real life is what matters and if he is arranging to meet up with you and not just for sex then he IS interested.
Fletch Lives Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 10 hours ago, Cookiesandough said: The reason why phrases like “I’d hit it” - one of my lady friends once said that to me. How did you know?! 1
healing light Posted March 2, 2020 Posted March 2, 2020 Have not read much more than the first few posts on this thread, but I do have a couple of guy friends who have dated women they weren't attracted to (and they admitted it to me!). This happened when we were young and in our college days: The first one dated a woman for 5.5 years. She was a party hookup that he first tried to pawn off on another friend, and somehow ended up dating her. He felt guilty and obligated to her because she was sick and he had a weird co-dependency/rescuer thing going on with his mom which I feel played into the dynamics of their relationship. Admitted to me he was never attracted to her nor was he ever actually in love with her (there was a huge looks disparity between them and she seemed to bring out the worst in him, so there were a few people wondering what the deal was). Another (virgin, at the time) friend of mine dated a woman out of peer pressure; a mutual friend had hooked up with her and he was trying to get her off his back, so he cornered this guy and pressured him for 3 hours in his apartment to date her. He protested and said there was another woman he was interested in and that he wasn't attracted to her, but he ended up capitulating. She was really overbearing and basically stalked him, joined all his clubs and classes, etc. He ended up staying with her for 2 years--she kept planning vacations and trips months in advance so his efforts to break up with her were thwarted (he was an inexperienced and "weak" guy). Found out from his brother later that they used to laugh over how unappealing she was before he dated her (she was arguably the worst person I'd ever met in my life, real abusive). The last situation involved a guy who was emotionally unavailable. I think he subconsciously didn't feel "safe" to date a woman he could actually completely fall for. So... I think in some situations where guys are inexperienced or emotionally unavailable in some way, it's possible that men will consider dating a "logical" choice or go for a woman they are not otherwise passionate about/attracted to. But, the bottom line is that you deserve to be with a man who makes you feel desired and treats you well. 1 1
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