ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2020 Posted February 9, 2020 6 hours ago, Harcel said: With regards to the merged posts obviously we did end up continuing seeing each other and he didn’t move out but he is now since Christmas actively searching for a place. So he is still living with his wife? Girl...this relationship isn't going anywhere. He's still attached to her and not ready to date. It's time to end it for good. 1
Calmandfocused Posted February 10, 2020 Posted February 10, 2020 Op I’m sorry you’re still going through turmoil with this same man. Tell us, what exactly is it that you’re so in love with about this man? How does this relationship satisfy your needs? Maybe it’s the way you write but I’m going to tell you exactly how this comes across. He’s very much “me me me”, everything is about him, you have to support him, and you have put up and adapt to his dramas. Erm where exactly do you factor into this equation? I don’t dispute that he is going through turmoil (I am divorced with kids I know what it’s like) but he sounds like the epitome of selfishness to me. He’s not in this relationship for you. He’s in this for him and what he can get out of it. You (unfortunately) set a precedence from the beginning. You taught him that you will put up with anything (including his lies) as long as you’re with him. It doesn’t sound like that dynamic has changed, nor is it likely to.
stillafool Posted February 10, 2020 Posted February 10, 2020 On 9/8/2019 at 8:39 AM, Harcel said: I miss him, we spoke every single day for 2 months night and day and now we haven’t spoken since Thursday. You'll get over it. You did the right thing because until he divorces his wife he's not available.
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