confusedteen Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 hi. This girl that i fancy works in a shop on checkout tills and well, i dont know what to say to here .Is it ok for me to just ask her out on a date? do i need to make small talk first or not ? any help would be appreciated.
slubberdegullion Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 You: Hi. My name's confusedteen. Her: Hi. You: You now, when I come through this store I like to come through your checkout, because you have such a nice smile. Her: Thank you. You: You're welcome. By the way, what's your name? [Note: You may be able to bypass this step if she has a name tag] Her: I'm Pat Taytow. You: Glad to make your acquaintance, Pat. I'd like to take you out for coffee this week. Which day is better for you? Wednesday or Thursday? Her: uh... errrr... well, I don't know... You: I know this is kind of sudden, but you probably get asked out all the time because you're very attractive. Her: Yea, sometimes I get asked out. You: Tell you what: I don't want to make you uncomfortable. Here's my number, so call me whenever. I'm in the shop every few days, so I'll check in with you then, ok? Her: OK, thanks. You: See you soon!
alphamale Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Her: I'm Pat Taytow. Potato....maybe 'Taytow' is her middle name and 'Chip' is her last name You: Tell you what: I don't want to make you uncomfortable. Here's my number, so call me whenever. I'm in the shop every few days, so I'll check in with you then, ok? Wrong! If she does not give up the digits then she's not interested. No man should ever do the above cause 99% of the time it makes him look like a fool and she won't call anyways. If she doesn't cough up her contact info then just move on to the next female...
NTB Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Wrong! If she does not give up the digits then she's not interested. No man should ever do the above cause 99% of the time it makes him look like a fool and she won't call anyways. If she doesn't cough up her contact info then just move on to the next female... i dunno about this one alpha i must admit i have done this twice and both times these females have called me......and like you i thought i was coming off as a desperate fool but they thought it was cute girls are confusing to me you think they might think one way and then they tell you it is cute.........
slubberdegullion Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I suppose it's all in the approach. The point is to take the pressure off her by having to decide on the spur of the moment whether to give up the number or not. Giving her your number provides a sense of security, because it gives her the illusion of being in control. The reason I call it an illusion is that, if you've been respectful, she'll think of your exchange as a pleasant one everytime she sees the card, which reinforces her belief that you're a cool dude and all-around nice guy. So, it's like making a good first impression over and over and over again. The next time confusedteen sees her, she will already have the reinforced notion that he's an OK dude, which makes his job easier. Best of all, she convinced herself. If she's even remotely interested, she'll give up the number with nary a thought. (Psych 101)
alphamale Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I suppose it's all in the approach. The point is to take the pressure off her by having to decide on the spur of the moment whether to give up the number or not. Ahh but SLUBBERGULLION, you forget that she already knows that he is going to ask her out before he even opens his mouth. And....she already has her answer ready before he is finished speaking. Women sense these things and know withing the first minute or two of meeting the dude whether she will sleep with him or not. Giving her your number provides a sense of security, because it gives her the illusion of being in control. You forget the little fact that most women want men to be in control. The reason I call it an illusion is that, if you've been respectful, she'll think of your exchange as a pleasant one everytime she sees the card, which reinforces her belief that you're a cool dude and all-around nice guy. Most women are not interested in "nice guys". The want real masculine men who can light their sexual flame and make them feel emotions without any control. It has nothing to do with "nice". Actually, for most females, nice=boring. So, it's like making a good first impression over and over and over again. As I stated earlier, this is useless and futile. She already knows very early on how far you will go with her. And I'm talking about minutes here. If she does not like you to begin with you can make 1,000,000,000,000,000 good 1st impressions and it won't mean diddley squat The next time confusedteen sees her, she will already have the reinforced notion that he's an OK dude, Most likely she will think he's a "nice guy" cause he is coming back for more punishement even after she did not give up the digits on his first try. She'll think he's a sucker. (Psych 101) Put down the text book and start living in the real world
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