buzzie2 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I gave one of my best guy friends a circle of friendship candle. He got all emotional when he opened the gift, and sounded like he was going to cry. He told me that the gift reminded him of me , and that everytime he would look at the candle he would think of me and our friendship. Then he hugged me. To me it felt like he has deeper feelings for me than as just a friend. Or am I reading to much into things?
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Its hard to say. I'm sure he was touched by that, but have you noticed anything else in his body language or actions that would suggest that he likes you more than in a 'just friends' way?
Author buzzie2 Posted October 5, 2005 Author Posted October 5, 2005 I remember that his voice got really soft and usually he acts all macho. When he said he would think of me whenever he looked at it he said it in a really sweet tone of voice. I've never seen him act that way before, I almost thought he was going to start crying. Then when he hugged me it felt like more than a friendship hug.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Hmm.. you can't go on what a one-time reaction to a touching gift and one hug 'feels like' to you. You have to look for stuff like: Does he find reasons to touch you or be physically close to you? Does he do considerate things for you? Does he make time especially for you? Does he contact you a lot to do things alone together? Is he protective of you in ways he isn't with other girls? Does he look into your eyes a lot? When he hugs you is it one of those hugs were your bodies are only touching at the top with a 'friendly pat on the back' - or is it a full body, take you deep into his body hug that lingers? Is he respectful to you when he talks to you - or is his tone of conversation no different than how he would be with any other friend (I notice that people tend to get more 'nervous' or 'reserved' in what they say when a friendly interest takes a turn for the romantic - you tend to begin 'watching what you say' as to not threaten what it is you hope to build together). Is he careful to say 'just friends' or 'friendship' a lot or say stuff like 'I hope that we can always be friends' - basically dropping in a lot of the 'f' word without once mentioning anything that can be said to be romantic. Of course, you never know - maybe this gift will get him seeing you in a light he hadn't considered before. If he goes right back to the 'usual' and pretty much stays in that mode, then it was probably just a one-time reaction. Only time will tell. Nothing says you can't start initiating some 'closer time' with him and see what happens.
Author buzzie2 Posted October 6, 2005 Author Posted October 6, 2005 To answer your question, Yes he does do considerate things for me. The reason why he came over was because he gave me his old computer. He didn't charge me anything for it and I never asked him for one, he just offered it to me. He's called me up wanting to do things just with me, and he has looked deeply into my eyes many times. He is very protectective of me and has stood up for me when other people have been mean. From what I"ve told you do you think I have a good chance with him?
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 6, 2005 Posted October 6, 2005 You won't know until you ask. Ask him if he would like to go somewhere with you (alone) - coffee date or something like that. Then tell him that you have a huge crush on him, and that you are wondering if you have a chance. One of two things will happen, he will either take you up on it or he will shoot you down. If you can get past that hurdle, you can then decide where to go from there.
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