Cherubi Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 I’m in high school right now, and I have a best friend. Let’s call her Candy. Me and Candy have been friends for a year and a half, and everything went perfectly fine. Until... Candy’s childhood best friend, let’s give her a name Melissa, transferred to our school after one of the summer breaks. And then the troubles for me started. I’ve always felt uncomfortable in the group of three, because I felt Melissa pushing me away from the squad and from Candy. I talked to Candy about this situation, because I trust her more than I trust Melissa, but Candy said that nobody’s pushing me out and everything is okay. But I feel some sort of rejection Can you give me some advice about it? What should I do to not feel forgotten and abandoned when Candy and Melissa appear together?
schlumpy Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 You are more than likely not wrong that you are being demoted as a friend. It's a gut feeling. I've had the same thing happen and it makes you feel like a third wheel on a motorcycle. My solution was to take the time I was wasting on my former friend and turn it elsewhere. I've learned to never cling to or chase after people that give me a clear indication that they would rather I was not around. It's the only way to maintain your self worth and dignity. It's possible that Candy may drift back your way and then you can decide whether it's an association you wish to continue with. Having other options such as activities and new friends is your solution.
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