Lisa2 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 There's a guy Ted (32 yrs old) I work with (2 totally diff depts). I hardly ever see him. I didn’t have an interest in him at first, though he seemed to have an interest in me. Last Dec. at the company X-mas party, we danced the entire night together (fast not slow dancing). I had a blast. After the party, I saw him waiting around looking for me, because everyone was going out after. I hid, and totally blew him off, because at the time, I was dating someone else and I didn’t want to confuse myself, because I realized I was now attracted to Ted. Fast forward to this past April. I’m now single I went out with co-workers, and Ted was there. He and I ended up hanging out and chatting. Turned out, he broke up w/ his fiancé 4 years ago. She had a drug problem, and he tried to work thru it with her, because he loved her so much. He finally had to end the relationship…too destructive for him. Since then, he’s been just dating. He said he hasn’t been in love since his fiancé. It broke his heart. They never see each other or talk. He ended up staying over, but I wouldn’t do anything sexually w/ him. Just kissing. He didn’t even try any moves on me. The next day was a Sat…and we cuddled all afternoon and watched movies. He didn’t want to leave. Finally we parted ways. He didn’t ask for my #, but I didn’t think much of it, because we worked together. 4 mos. passed. I didn’t hear a word from him. In the 4 mos., I maybe bumped into him in the café 3 times total. All we said was “Hi…how are you?” Then the beginning of Sept, I went out with co-workers, and there he was again. We ended up making out most of the nite, but he wasn’t able to stay at my place (had his guy friend who was with us, staying at his house), and I wasn’t able to stay at his (didn’t have a change of clothes for work the next day.) He said “Raincheck?” I said, “Well, this time u need to step up to the plate and call me, cause I’m not chasing u.” He never called or emailed or anything. OK…so now I started accepting the guy isn’t interested. Then his buddy who we work with said “What’s going on with u two…u like each other…why aren’t u together…ur perfect for each other.” I said “u got me.” He said, “You two are like magnets to each other the second u walk into a room.” Last Thurs, he happened to show up at the bar I was at. I don’t know what came over me, but I made out with him all nite. I let him say over (he even took off work the next day to stay over), and I had full outright sex with him. I don’t know why I did it, but I did. It was totally out of character for me…but I did it. It was awesome. We held each other all night…until I had to get ready for work. He seemed really interested and even wanted me to take work off and hang out with him. Then when we parted ways, he grabbed me and kissed me and said “I’ll see u later.” This was last Friday…it’s now Wed. I still haven’t heard from him. Is this guy just not interested in me? Am I jumping the gun, or would I definitely have heard from him by now if he were interested?
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